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Participantcyphire-
I’m not gone for good, just for the school year. Had to go though. Husband was an airline pilot and they kept cutting pay. Wasnt pretty. He abandoned that career for one in titanium, so life is more normal now, and future bright.
This upstate way of living took a while to get used to, but now I love it and would not move back with children. The seasons give a rhythm to the years that you just dont get in San Diego.
Especially if you like to garden, which I do.I teach music and love it when students come for their lessons during so many kinds of weather. Every season is different, and the drama outside the windows in front of where they/we stand and play is so moving. Inspirational! One day it is white with big fluffy falling snow, another sunny and the flowers are screamning out for attention, other days it turns suddenly dark and ominous and thunder cracks lightening flashes. And always, there are the colorful birds, bunnies, chipmunks, etc skittering around in view. It is actually quite exciting.
Trying to go running when the poplars are releasing their giant puff-ball things is not fun though. Especially if it is humid and they not only go up your nose and in your mouth, but also stick to any sweaty areas.
ParticipantOne of the houses recently listed is one next door to our dear friends. We visit every summer with them and two summers ago the house had just been purchased by a family from Phoenix. They were oohing and ahh-ing over the price, and how wealthy people are still seeking places in Coronado to own. These people were supposedly ultra-rich and told our friends they were going to use the place as a summer vacation home only. it sat empty most of the time. They were going to keep it for generations – as an investment. All the same blah blah that I hear sdrealtor saying about his very special clients.
Turns out it wasnt feasible. Less then 2 years later…. and making no profit – it is back on the market.
Tide comes in, tide goes out.
ParticipantOne of the houses recently listed is one next door to our dear friends. We visit every summer with them and two summers ago the house had just been purchased by a family from Phoenix. They were oohing and ahh-ing over the price, and how wealthy people are still seeking places in Coronado to own. These people were supposedly ultra-rich and told our friends they were going to use the place as a summer vacation home only. it sat empty most of the time. They were going to keep it for generations – as an investment. All the same blah blah that I hear sdrealtor saying about his very special clients.
Turns out it wasnt feasible. Less then 2 years later…. and making no profit – it is back on the market.
Tide comes in, tide goes out.
Participant"Believe it if you want."
Who says I believe it or dont believe it?
My point is that i dont care if her knees hit the floor every night for prayer. What difference does it make? Why get all excited about it being at the top of Yahoo news?
Truth is – they probably put it on top there because of the topic of "infidelity". This word is likely on a "high priority" list for news articles as it increases hits to their site.
BTW – I agree with you about the cell phones! : )
Participant"Believe it if you want."
Who says I believe it or dont believe it?
My point is that i dont care if her knees hit the floor every night for prayer. What difference does it make? Why get all excited about it being at the top of Yahoo news?
Truth is – they probably put it on top there because of the topic of "infidelity". This word is likely on a "high priority" list for news articles as it increases hits to their site.
BTW – I agree with you about the cell phones! : )
ParticipantThe book is called “Refuse to Choose”. Like i said, it should be at the library.
Will change the way you think about everything you do. People like us tend to get a lot of prejects piled up behind us and “unfinished”. This’ll drag you down and make you feel like you cant complete anything – BUT – it is all in how you think about it!
Since reading her books (I saw her on PBS in 2003 the first time) I now accomplish MUCH more. I leave just as much unfinished, but i dont care about that stuff anymore. If it is interesting to me… I am confident I’ll come back to it someday. If not, well then i didnt need to waste any more time on it anyway!
I just love the author. She’s brilliant.
ParticipantThe book is called “Refuse to Choose”. Like i said, it should be at the library.
Will change the way you think about everything you do. People like us tend to get a lot of prejects piled up behind us and “unfinished”. This’ll drag you down and make you feel like you cant complete anything – BUT – it is all in how you think about it!
Since reading her books (I saw her on PBS in 2003 the first time) I now accomplish MUCH more. I leave just as much unfinished, but i dont care about that stuff anymore. If it is interesting to me… I am confident I’ll come back to it someday. If not, well then i didnt need to waste any more time on it anyway!
I just love the author. She’s brilliant.
ParticipantOh so what PD. Big deal.
How could you possibly ‘know’ that she is lying anyway?
This is your own conjecture.
Now when I say that GWB is a retard, I can back it up with facts/proof.
ParticipantOh so what PD. Big deal.
How could you possibly ‘know’ that she is lying anyway?
This is your own conjecture.
Now when I say that GWB is a retard, I can back it up with facts/proof.
ParticipantRustico-
I think religion is nice for kids that age. Makes them feel good.As for the getting “easily distracted with other interesting pursuits”… have you ever heard of Barbara Sher? She writes really interesting stuff about that. It is called being “scanner” and I am definitely one too! I have an endless array of ideas I am interested in. I cycle through them, and some i come back too, some I do not.
Any of her books make for good reading (and quick, funny, too) and help you focus and take action on those ideas. They are usually at the library…..
K
ParticipantRustico-
I think religion is nice for kids that age. Makes them feel good.As for the getting “easily distracted with other interesting pursuits”… have you ever heard of Barbara Sher? She writes really interesting stuff about that. It is called being “scanner” and I am definitely one too! I have an endless array of ideas I am interested in. I cycle through them, and some i come back too, some I do not.
Any of her books make for good reading (and quick, funny, too) and help you focus and take action on those ideas. They are usually at the library…..
K
Participantfatty boom-boom,
You wrote: "But living in CV doesn't help because while I really don't want to be like so many other CV folks, I really don't want my kid to grow up with esteem issues that may happen if I don't at least partly play the game. So, I'm going to have to figure out this one."
… and i couldnt agree more. I grew up right there in that area, went to TPHS. It was actually pretty difficult when most kids had cars (brand new or drove their parents BMWs and even a Maserati) at 16, had Rolex watches, went "shopping" for fun and spent hundreds and hundreds of $$ while I stood by feeling completely weak and passive (I didnt know I was learning an excellent lesson), etc. My brother lives there now and is frugal, his daughter suffers and struggles with his 'rules' about spending.
I was so immature that i thought the reason we didnt have money was because my mother didnt work hard enough. I seriously resented her for it. She was single with FIVE children. Three in college at the time I remember thinking this way (did I already mention how immature I was???).
Anyway, this exact issue is another of the BIG REASONS we decided to pack up and leave San Diego in '02, at least for the school months of the year. The materialistic atmosphere was just getting worse and worse. Happily, it is not an issue here.
Participantfatty boom-boom,
You wrote: "But living in CV doesn't help because while I really don't want to be like so many other CV folks, I really don't want my kid to grow up with esteem issues that may happen if I don't at least partly play the game. So, I'm going to have to figure out this one."
… and i couldnt agree more. I grew up right there in that area, went to TPHS. It was actually pretty difficult when most kids had cars (brand new or drove their parents BMWs and even a Maserati) at 16, had Rolex watches, went "shopping" for fun and spent hundreds and hundreds of $$ while I stood by feeling completely weak and passive (I didnt know I was learning an excellent lesson), etc. My brother lives there now and is frugal, his daughter suffers and struggles with his 'rules' about spending.
I was so immature that i thought the reason we didnt have money was because my mother didnt work hard enough. I seriously resented her for it. She was single with FIVE children. Three in college at the time I remember thinking this way (did I already mention how immature I was???).
Anyway, this exact issue is another of the BIG REASONS we decided to pack up and leave San Diego in '02, at least for the school months of the year. The materialistic atmosphere was just getting worse and worse. Happily, it is not an issue here.
ParticipantI agree. Kids dont even care about hypocrisy! Here in upstate NY – they are as happy as I am to slide their fannies into that luxurious heated leather!
I talk to my kids a lot about spending/politics/religion (especially religion – seems like the super-religious people like jg are multiplying like cockroaches in America).
However, I also want them to strive to make enough $$s for things which satisfy their needs… again, the heated seats!, good shoes, a comfortable home, foreign travel, etc….you know… the basics. Or at least what i consider to be the basics. -
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