[justme]

Scaredycat, yes, we may just have proven that conclusively :-).

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
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That’s great, but you seem not to understand that none of my comments before this one ARE ABOUT YOU! I was talking about a concept (the “insecurity defense”) that happened to be highlighted by something you said.

I repeat, this time, and only this time, the posting IS about you, and what I am saying is IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU!

Do you get it?

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
[/quote]

That’s great, but you seem not to understand that none of my comments before this one ARE ABOUT YOU! I was talking about a concept (the “insecurity defense”) that happened to be highlighted by something you said.

I repeat, this time, and only this time, the posting IS about you, and what I am saying is IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU!

Do you get it?

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
[/quote]

That’s great, but you seem not to understand that none of my comments before this one ARE ABOUT YOU! I was talking about a concept (the “insecurity defense”) that happened to be highlighted by something you said.

I repeat, this time, and only this time, the posting IS about you, and what I am saying is IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU!

Do you get it?

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
[/quote]

That’s great, but you seem not to understand that none of my comments before this one ARE ABOUT YOU! I was talking about a concept (the “insecurity defense”) that happened to be highlighted by something you said.

I repeat, this time, and only this time, the posting IS about you, and what I am saying is IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU!

Do you get it?

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
[/quote]

That’s great, but you seem not to understand that none of my comments before this one ARE ABOUT YOU! I was talking about a concept (the “insecurity defense”) that happened to be highlighted by something you said.

I repeat, this time, and only this time, the posting IS about you, and what I am saying is IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU!

Do you get it?

[justme]

It was illuminating to see some of the responses to my comment.

My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.

Some people decided their best response was to pick on what was only intended as a humorous, albeit pointed, analogy.

Let me put is this way: If a man uses the same, or an equally lame excuse, bullshit would be called instantly.

Let’s give it a try:

Man: I have a very strong instinct to protect and provide, and when I saw how vulnerable and innocent that woman was, it was what drove me to the act of infidelity.

How far do you think that rationalization would fly?

[justme]

It was illuminating to see some of the responses to my comment.

My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.

Some people decided their best response was to pick on what was only intended as a humorous, albeit pointed, analogy.

Let me put is this way: If a man uses the same, or an equally lame excuse, bullshit would be called instantly.

Let’s give it a try:

Man: I have a very strong instinct to protect and provide, and when I saw how vulnerable and innocent that woman was, it was what drove me to the act of infidelity.

How far do you think that rationalization would fly?

[justme]

It was illuminating to see some of the responses to my comment.

My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.

Some people decided their best response was to pick on what was only intended as a humorous, albeit pointed, analogy.

Let me put is this way: If a man uses the same, or an equally lame excuse, bullshit would be called instantly.

Let’s give it a try:

Man: I have a very strong instinct to protect and provide, and when I saw how vulnerable and innocent that woman was, it was what drove me to the act of infidelity.

How far do you think that rationalization would fly?

[justme]

It was illuminating to see some of the responses to my comment.

My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.

Some people decided their best response was to pick on what was only intended as a humorous, albeit pointed, analogy.

Let me put is this way: If a man uses the same, or an equally lame excuse, bullshit would be called instantly.

Let’s give it a try:

Man: I have a very strong instinct to protect and provide, and when I saw how vulnerable and innocent that woman was, it was what drove me to the act of infidelity.

How far do you think that rationalization would fly?

[justme]

It was illuminating to see some of the responses to my comment.

My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.

Some people decided their best response was to pick on what was only intended as a humorous, albeit pointed, analogy.

Let me put is this way: If a man uses the same, or an equally lame excuse, bullshit would be called instantly.

Let’s give it a try:

Man: I have a very strong instinct to protect and provide, and when I saw how vulnerable and innocent that woman was, it was what drove me to the act of infidelity.

How far do you think that rationalization would fly?

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
A LARGE number of woman I know are insecure, I would say the majority of all woman I’ve ever known. They can be smart, beautiful, have a great husband or boyfriend, and yet they still feel insecure. So they cheat because they NEED male attention.
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I hate this sexist and one-sided rationalization and excuse that only women get to use. Really, when did you hear about a man that got away with doing something wrong by claiming that “insecurity” made him do it?

Give me a break. When do I get the benefit of being insecure? NEVER. Women should be held to the same standard as men.

PS: I bet one could make the argument that Adolf Hitler was a deeply insecure person. Does that in any was justify what he did? Of course not.

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
A LARGE number of woman I know are insecure, I would say the majority of all woman I’ve ever known. They can be smart, beautiful, have a great husband or boyfriend, and yet they still feel insecure. So they cheat because they NEED male attention.
[/quote]

I hate this sexist and one-sided rationalization and excuse that only women get to use. Really, when did you hear about a man that got away with doing something wrong by claiming that “insecurity” made him do it?

Give me a break. When do I get the benefit of being insecure? NEVER. Women should be held to the same standard as men.

PS: I bet one could make the argument that Adolf Hitler was a deeply insecure person. Does that in any was justify what he did? Of course not.

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
A LARGE number of woman I know are insecure, I would say the majority of all woman I’ve ever known. They can be smart, beautiful, have a great husband or boyfriend, and yet they still feel insecure. So they cheat because they NEED male attention.
[/quote]

I hate this sexist and one-sided rationalization and excuse that only women get to use. Really, when did you hear about a man that got away with doing something wrong by claiming that “insecurity” made him do it?

Give me a break. When do I get the benefit of being insecure? NEVER. Women should be held to the same standard as men.

PS: I bet one could make the argument that Adolf Hitler was a deeply insecure person. Does that in any was justify what he did? Of course not.

[justme]

[quote=zzz]
A LARGE number of woman I know are insecure, I would say the majority of all woman I’ve ever known. They can be smart, beautiful, have a great husband or boyfriend, and yet they still feel insecure. So they cheat because they NEED male attention.
[/quote]

I hate this sexist and one-sided rationalization and excuse that only women get to use. Really, when did you hear about a man that got away with doing something wrong by claiming that “insecurity” made him do it?

Give me a break. When do I get the benefit of being insecure? NEVER. Women should be held to the same standard as men.

PS: I bet one could make the argument that Adolf Hitler was a deeply insecure person. Does that in any was justify what he did? Of course not.

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