The new smart financial move is walking away

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Scaredy’s wife is a doctor? Which character from Scrubs is she most like? I’m guessing she’s like the Monica-from-Friends character who was chief resident for a while.

Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.

Someone also mentioned Bill Gates as an example of someone who ‘took a risk’. No. Bill Gates’ dad was the ‘Gates’ in the law firm ‘Preston Gates & Ellis’:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Preston_Gates_&_Ellis

Bill would have never had to work a day in his life if he didn’t want to. Instead, he used the connections his dad made from his law firm, bought an operating system with his parent’s money, and then used his parents money to market the hell out of it. That’s not exactly pulling oneself up by one’s bootstraps.

I also find it funny when I see realtors trying to chalk their good fortune up to ability over luck. If the government wasn’t propping up the housing market with trillions in taxpayer dollars, realtors would be eating cat food. Realtors are a protected class in America just like banksters and other welfare queens.

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[quote=IForget]
Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.
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I’m married. Also had some long-term relationships (7+years) living w/someone, but not married. True about compromise, but on an issue of children, how do you compromise? It should be mutually agreeable.

As I said, to me, compromise is mutual concessions. If scaredy reluctantly agrees to have another child, he would be compromising himself, but where is the “mutual” in this scenario?

It seems to me, for the word “compromise” to be valid, there would be modification of demands by both sides. I guess, in return, his wife is happy and maybe he accepts that as a compromise, but that strikes me more as strong-arming and coercing. I don’t find that a becoming quality in any relationship. That’s just me.

Maybe I’m too just too idealistic and prefer to think of win-win situations. I personally wouldn’t want to be bullied or manipulated to do something, so I wouldn’t do it to someone else, either.

Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.

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[quote=IForget]
Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.
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I’m married. Also had some long-term relationships (7+years) living w/someone, but not married. True about compromise, but on an issue of children, how do you compromise? It should be mutually agreeable.

As I said, to me, compromise is mutual concessions. If scaredy reluctantly agrees to have another child, he would be compromising himself, but where is the “mutual” in this scenario?

It seems to me, for the word “compromise” to be valid, there would be modification of demands by both sides. I guess, in return, his wife is happy and maybe he accepts that as a compromise, but that strikes me more as strong-arming and coercing. I don’t find that a becoming quality in any relationship. That’s just me.

Maybe I’m too just too idealistic and prefer to think of win-win situations. I personally wouldn’t want to be bullied or manipulated to do something, so I wouldn’t do it to someone else, either.

Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.

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[quote=IForget]
Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.
[/quote]
I’m married. Also had some long-term relationships (7+years) living w/someone, but not married. True about compromise, but on an issue of children, how do you compromise? It should be mutually agreeable.

As I said, to me, compromise is mutual concessions. If scaredy reluctantly agrees to have another child, he would be compromising himself, but where is the “mutual” in this scenario?

It seems to me, for the word “compromise” to be valid, there would be modification of demands by both sides. I guess, in return, his wife is happy and maybe he accepts that as a compromise, but that strikes me more as strong-arming and coercing. I don’t find that a becoming quality in any relationship. That’s just me.

Maybe I’m too just too idealistic and prefer to think of win-win situations. I personally wouldn’t want to be bullied or manipulated to do something, so I wouldn’t do it to someone else, either.

Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.

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[quote=IForget]
Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.
[/quote]
I’m married. Also had some long-term relationships (7+years) living w/someone, but not married. True about compromise, but on an issue of children, how do you compromise? It should be mutually agreeable.

As I said, to me, compromise is mutual concessions. If scaredy reluctantly agrees to have another child, he would be compromising himself, but where is the “mutual” in this scenario?

It seems to me, for the word “compromise” to be valid, there would be modification of demands by both sides. I guess, in return, his wife is happy and maybe he accepts that as a compromise, but that strikes me more as strong-arming and coercing. I don’t find that a becoming quality in any relationship. That’s just me.

Maybe I’m too just too idealistic and prefer to think of win-win situations. I personally wouldn’t want to be bullied or manipulated to do something, so I wouldn’t do it to someone else, either.

Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.

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[quote=IForget]
Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.
[/quote]
I’m married. Also had some long-term relationships (7+years) living w/someone, but not married. True about compromise, but on an issue of children, how do you compromise? It should be mutually agreeable.

As I said, to me, compromise is mutual concessions. If scaredy reluctantly agrees to have another child, he would be compromising himself, but where is the “mutual” in this scenario?

It seems to me, for the word “compromise” to be valid, there would be modification of demands by both sides. I guess, in return, his wife is happy and maybe he accepts that as a compromise, but that strikes me more as strong-arming and coercing. I don’t find that a becoming quality in any relationship. That’s just me.

Maybe I’m too just too idealistic and prefer to think of win-win situations. I personally wouldn’t want to be bullied or manipulated to do something, so I wouldn’t do it to someone else, either.

Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.

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[quote=jpinpb]
Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.[/quote]

It doesn’t sound like that type of compromise. To me, scaredy’s situation sounds more like mine. In my dream life, I’m living the bachelor life like Tom Selleck in Magnum P.I. There’s a different hot babe in each weekly episode of my life. Or, I’m stunt guy who moonlights as a bounty hunter and my sidekick is a 1980s-era Heather Thomsas.

In reality, I’m married and my wife wanted kids. I didn’t necessarily not want kids, it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?

[Anonymous]

[quote=jpinpb]
Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.[/quote]

It doesn’t sound like that type of compromise. To me, scaredy’s situation sounds more like mine. In my dream life, I’m living the bachelor life like Tom Selleck in Magnum P.I. There’s a different hot babe in each weekly episode of my life. Or, I’m stunt guy who moonlights as a bounty hunter and my sidekick is a 1980s-era Heather Thomsas.

In reality, I’m married and my wife wanted kids. I didn’t necessarily not want kids, it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?

[Anonymous]

[quote=jpinpb]
Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.[/quote]

It doesn’t sound like that type of compromise. To me, scaredy’s situation sounds more like mine. In my dream life, I’m living the bachelor life like Tom Selleck in Magnum P.I. There’s a different hot babe in each weekly episode of my life. Or, I’m stunt guy who moonlights as a bounty hunter and my sidekick is a 1980s-era Heather Thomsas.

In reality, I’m married and my wife wanted kids. I didn’t necessarily not want kids, it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?

[Anonymous]

[quote=jpinpb]
Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.[/quote]

It doesn’t sound like that type of compromise. To me, scaredy’s situation sounds more like mine. In my dream life, I’m living the bachelor life like Tom Selleck in Magnum P.I. There’s a different hot babe in each weekly episode of my life. Or, I’m stunt guy who moonlights as a bounty hunter and my sidekick is a 1980s-era Heather Thomsas.

In reality, I’m married and my wife wanted kids. I didn’t necessarily not want kids, it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?

[Anonymous]

[quote=jpinpb]
Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.[/quote]

It doesn’t sound like that type of compromise. To me, scaredy’s situation sounds more like mine. In my dream life, I’m living the bachelor life like Tom Selleck in Magnum P.I. There’s a different hot babe in each weekly episode of my life. Or, I’m stunt guy who moonlights as a bounty hunter and my sidekick is a 1980s-era Heather Thomsas.

In reality, I’m married and my wife wanted kids. I didn’t necessarily not want kids, it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?

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…it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?[/quote]

Who’s does? For the most part teenagers are idealistic with high expectations, then at some point those expectations meet reality.

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[quote=IForget][quote=jpinpb]
…it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?[/quote]

Who’s does? For the most part teenagers are idealistic with high expectations, then at some point those expectations meet reality.

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[quote=IForget][quote=jpinpb]
…it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?[/quote]

Who’s does? For the most part teenagers are idealistic with high expectations, then at some point those expectations meet reality.

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[quote=IForget][quote=jpinpb]
…it’s just that my current life situation doesn’t match up to the expectations I had when I was 15. What are you gonna’ do?[/quote]

Who’s does? For the most part teenagers are idealistic with high expectations, then at some point those expectations meet reality.

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