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December 22, 2009 at 1:49 AM #497180December 22, 2009 at 7:04 AM #496334
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ParticipantHow about some useful advice for a change?
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MY DEAR FRIEND:-
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural inclination you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you will find solid Happiness. Your Reason against entering into it at present appears to be not well founded. The Circumstantial Advantages you have in View by Postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that makes the complete Being. Separate she wants his force of Body and Strength of Reason; he her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are most likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissors.
If you get a prudent, healthy wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking that Commerce with the Sex is inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice that in your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. This you call a Paradox, and demand my reasons. They are these:
1. Because they have more Knowledge of the world, and their Minds are better stored with Observations; their conversation is more improving, and more lastingly agreeable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Man, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a thousand Services, small and great, and are the most tender and useful of Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an Old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of children, which irregularly produced may be attended with much inconvenience.
4. Because through more Experience they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your reputation; and regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be inclined to excuse an old Woman, who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his manners by her good Councils, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part. The Face first grows lank and Wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower parts continuing to the last as plump as ever; so that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old one from a young one. And as in the Dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of Corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal and frequently superior; every Knack being by Practice capable by improvement.
6. Because the sin is less. The Debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend making an old Woman happy.
8. 8th & lastly. They are so grateful!!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry immediately; being sincerely
Your Affectionate Friend,
Benj. FranklinJune 25, 1745
December 22, 2009 at 7:04 AM #496485ParticipantHow about some useful advice for a change?
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MY DEAR FRIEND:-
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural inclination you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you will find solid Happiness. Your Reason against entering into it at present appears to be not well founded. The Circumstantial Advantages you have in View by Postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that makes the complete Being. Separate she wants his force of Body and Strength of Reason; he her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are most likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissors.
If you get a prudent, healthy wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking that Commerce with the Sex is inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice that in your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. This you call a Paradox, and demand my reasons. They are these:
1. Because they have more Knowledge of the world, and their Minds are better stored with Observations; their conversation is more improving, and more lastingly agreeable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Man, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a thousand Services, small and great, and are the most tender and useful of Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an Old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of children, which irregularly produced may be attended with much inconvenience.
4. Because through more Experience they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your reputation; and regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be inclined to excuse an old Woman, who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his manners by her good Councils, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part. The Face first grows lank and Wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower parts continuing to the last as plump as ever; so that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old one from a young one. And as in the Dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of Corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal and frequently superior; every Knack being by Practice capable by improvement.
6. Because the sin is less. The Debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend making an old Woman happy.
8. 8th & lastly. They are so grateful!!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry immediately; being sincerely
Your Affectionate Friend,
Benj. FranklinJune 25, 1745
December 22, 2009 at 7:04 AM #496867ParticipantHow about some useful advice for a change?
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MY DEAR FRIEND:-
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural inclination you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you will find solid Happiness. Your Reason against entering into it at present appears to be not well founded. The Circumstantial Advantages you have in View by Postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that makes the complete Being. Separate she wants his force of Body and Strength of Reason; he her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are most likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissors.
If you get a prudent, healthy wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking that Commerce with the Sex is inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice that in your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. This you call a Paradox, and demand my reasons. They are these:
1. Because they have more Knowledge of the world, and their Minds are better stored with Observations; their conversation is more improving, and more lastingly agreeable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Man, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a thousand Services, small and great, and are the most tender and useful of Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an Old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of children, which irregularly produced may be attended with much inconvenience.
4. Because through more Experience they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your reputation; and regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be inclined to excuse an old Woman, who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his manners by her good Councils, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part. The Face first grows lank and Wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower parts continuing to the last as plump as ever; so that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old one from a young one. And as in the Dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of Corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal and frequently superior; every Knack being by Practice capable by improvement.
6. Because the sin is less. The Debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend making an old Woman happy.
8. 8th & lastly. They are so grateful!!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry immediately; being sincerely
Your Affectionate Friend,
Benj. FranklinJune 25, 1745
December 22, 2009 at 7:04 AM #496953ParticipantHow about some useful advice for a change?
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MY DEAR FRIEND:-
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural inclination you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you will find solid Happiness. Your Reason against entering into it at present appears to be not well founded. The Circumstantial Advantages you have in View by Postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that makes the complete Being. Separate she wants his force of Body and Strength of Reason; he her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are most likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissors.
If you get a prudent, healthy wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking that Commerce with the Sex is inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice that in your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. This you call a Paradox, and demand my reasons. They are these:
1. Because they have more Knowledge of the world, and their Minds are better stored with Observations; their conversation is more improving, and more lastingly agreeable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Man, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a thousand Services, small and great, and are the most tender and useful of Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an Old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of children, which irregularly produced may be attended with much inconvenience.
4. Because through more Experience they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your reputation; and regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be inclined to excuse an old Woman, who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his manners by her good Councils, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part. The Face first grows lank and Wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower parts continuing to the last as plump as ever; so that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old one from a young one. And as in the Dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of Corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal and frequently superior; every Knack being by Practice capable by improvement.
6. Because the sin is less. The Debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend making an old Woman happy.
8. 8th & lastly. They are so grateful!!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry immediately; being sincerely
Your Affectionate Friend,
Benj. FranklinJune 25, 1745
December 22, 2009 at 7:04 AM #497195ParticipantHow about some useful advice for a change?
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MY DEAR FRIEND:-
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural inclination you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you will find solid Happiness. Your Reason against entering into it at present appears to be not well founded. The Circumstantial Advantages you have in View by Postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that makes the complete Being. Separate she wants his force of Body and Strength of Reason; he her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are most likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissors.
If you get a prudent, healthy wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking that Commerce with the Sex is inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice that in your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. This you call a Paradox, and demand my reasons. They are these:
1. Because they have more Knowledge of the world, and their Minds are better stored with Observations; their conversation is more improving, and more lastingly agreeable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Man, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a thousand Services, small and great, and are the most tender and useful of Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an Old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of children, which irregularly produced may be attended with much inconvenience.
4. Because through more Experience they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your reputation; and regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be inclined to excuse an old Woman, who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his manners by her good Councils, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part. The Face first grows lank and Wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower parts continuing to the last as plump as ever; so that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old one from a young one. And as in the Dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of Corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal and frequently superior; every Knack being by Practice capable by improvement.
6. Because the sin is less. The Debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend making an old Woman happy.
8. 8th & lastly. They are so grateful!!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry immediately; being sincerely
Your Affectionate Friend,
Benj. FranklinJune 25, 1745
December 22, 2009 at 9:48 AM #496364
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JoshDecember 22, 2009 at 10:12 AM #496383ibjames
Participantgood post TG, but I think some of those things you said to ignore are things some people find important.
If a woman was divorced, you can contribute it to being a romantic and jumping into marriage looking for “the one”, I wouldn’t hold that against her.
If she had kids, I couldn’t date her, I can’t be that guy. If I was looking just for fun yes, but if I was looking for a real mate, no way. The girl could be awesome, the girl of my dreams, but children are too much of a game changer for me. I guess if the father was a one night stand and not in the picture at all I could consider it, but even then I would really have to like the girl.
If she has bad credit, eh.. it depends, if she is awesome, and she works on it during the relationship and I can educate her on budgets and she changes, then yes. I wouldn’t just write a person off though.
My wife is a financial analyst, she could have just told me to screw off because I used to have a decent amount of debt. Good credit, but some debt. She made a bet for me to get rid of my debt by a date and if I did I would get a *cough* reward *cough*
Needless to say, I got rid of all my debt within that time frame and now I’m a scrooge. She thinks I’m too tight now even. When I look back at it that little bet probably taught her a lot about me, that I cared about her perception of me enough that I changed and that I truly love rewards 🙂
Like I said, get a dog, I am married, take my dog to the dog park, and the girls come up to me asking about my dog all the time. I have long conversations with women and never even start the conversation. I have been asked many times if I am married.
Running clubs are the same, find something you enjoy and join a club, if you really like that activity you already found someone that has something you really enjoy doing in common. From there you just find out the other stuff.
December 22, 2009 at 10:12 AM #496535Participantgood post TG, but I think some of those things you said to ignore are things some people find important.
If a woman was divorced, you can contribute it to being a romantic and jumping into marriage looking for “the one”, I wouldn’t hold that against her.
If she had kids, I couldn’t date her, I can’t be that guy. If I was looking just for fun yes, but if I was looking for a real mate, no way. The girl could be awesome, the girl of my dreams, but children are too much of a game changer for me. I guess if the father was a one night stand and not in the picture at all I could consider it, but even then I would really have to like the girl.
If she has bad credit, eh.. it depends, if she is awesome, and she works on it during the relationship and I can educate her on budgets and she changes, then yes. I wouldn’t just write a person off though.
My wife is a financial analyst, she could have just told me to screw off because I used to have a decent amount of debt. Good credit, but some debt. She made a bet for me to get rid of my debt by a date and if I did I would get a *cough* reward *cough*
Needless to say, I got rid of all my debt within that time frame and now I’m a scrooge. She thinks I’m too tight now even. When I look back at it that little bet probably taught her a lot about me, that I cared about her perception of me enough that I changed and that I truly love rewards 🙂
Like I said, get a dog, I am married, take my dog to the dog park, and the girls come up to me asking about my dog all the time. I have long conversations with women and never even start the conversation. I have been asked many times if I am married.
Running clubs are the same, find something you enjoy and join a club, if you really like that activity you already found someone that has something you really enjoy doing in common. From there you just find out the other stuff.
December 22, 2009 at 10:12 AM #496915Participantgood post TG, but I think some of those things you said to ignore are things some people find important.
If a woman was divorced, you can contribute it to being a romantic and jumping into marriage looking for “the one”, I wouldn’t hold that against her.
If she had kids, I couldn’t date her, I can’t be that guy. If I was looking just for fun yes, but if I was looking for a real mate, no way. The girl could be awesome, the girl of my dreams, but children are too much of a game changer for me. I guess if the father was a one night stand and not in the picture at all I could consider it, but even then I would really have to like the girl.
If she has bad credit, eh.. it depends, if she is awesome, and she works on it during the relationship and I can educate her on budgets and she changes, then yes. I wouldn’t just write a person off though.
My wife is a financial analyst, she could have just told me to screw off because I used to have a decent amount of debt. Good credit, but some debt. She made a bet for me to get rid of my debt by a date and if I did I would get a *cough* reward *cough*
Needless to say, I got rid of all my debt within that time frame and now I’m a scrooge. She thinks I’m too tight now even. When I look back at it that little bet probably taught her a lot about me, that I cared about her perception of me enough that I changed and that I truly love rewards 🙂
Like I said, get a dog, I am married, take my dog to the dog park, and the girls come up to me asking about my dog all the time. I have long conversations with women and never even start the conversation. I have been asked many times if I am married.
Running clubs are the same, find something you enjoy and join a club, if you really like that activity you already found someone that has something you really enjoy doing in common. From there you just find out the other stuff.
December 22, 2009 at 10:12 AM #497003Participantgood post TG, but I think some of those things you said to ignore are things some people find important.
If a woman was divorced, you can contribute it to being a romantic and jumping into marriage looking for “the one”, I wouldn’t hold that against her.
If she had kids, I couldn’t date her, I can’t be that guy. If I was looking just for fun yes, but if I was looking for a real mate, no way. The girl could be awesome, the girl of my dreams, but children are too much of a game changer for me. I guess if the father was a one night stand and not in the picture at all I could consider it, but even then I would really have to like the girl.
If she has bad credit, eh.. it depends, if she is awesome, and she works on it during the relationship and I can educate her on budgets and she changes, then yes. I wouldn’t just write a person off though.
My wife is a financial analyst, she could have just told me to screw off because I used to have a decent amount of debt. Good credit, but some debt. She made a bet for me to get rid of my debt by a date and if I did I would get a *cough* reward *cough*
Needless to say, I got rid of all my debt within that time frame and now I’m a scrooge. She thinks I’m too tight now even. When I look back at it that little bet probably taught her a lot about me, that I cared about her perception of me enough that I changed and that I truly love rewards 🙂
Like I said, get a dog, I am married, take my dog to the dog park, and the girls come up to me asking about my dog all the time. I have long conversations with women and never even start the conversation. I have been asked many times if I am married.
Running clubs are the same, find something you enjoy and join a club, if you really like that activity you already found someone that has something you really enjoy doing in common. From there you just find out the other stuff.
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