[OT] WSJ: “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”

[bearishgurl]

I just read the WSJ article. Given my experience in the CA domestic legal arena (don’t know where Chines mom lives), I have a couple of opinions about it.

The “Chinese mom’s” parenting style only works if the other parent is on the same page and the parents have a strong relationship. Even then, it could backfire on the mom if for any reason she and the dad split, even if it was an amicable split. In the article, it sounds like the dad, “Jed,” had a “passive” personality as he did not always agree with her parenting style but gave her free reign over the kids’ upbringing and discipline. Also, their kids are still young. When they are older and the dad disagrees with her openly, they may then only ask the dad for permission to do something and ignore her.

I am not totally against most aspects of the Chinese mom’s parenting style because I think kids are way too “coddled” today. But want to preface that by saying that both parents have to be on the same page and cannot ever waver.

If parents have different parenting styles, the Chinese mom’s style will backfire on her and will not work. If “Jed” ends up having enough of it, all h@ll is going to break loose.

Just my .02.

[Diego Mamani]

As said on the article, “Chinese Mom” lives in New Haven, CT. She and her husband are both professors at Yale Law School.

I think her article was designed shock, to elicit controversy, and therefore to increase sales of her book of the same topic. I’d like to know how she managed to get this ‘infomertial’ at the WSJ!

[Diego Mamani]

As said on the article, “Chinese Mom” lives in New Haven, CT. She and her husband are both professors at Yale Law School.

I think her article was designed shock, to elicit controversy, and therefore to increase sales of her book of the same topic. I’d like to know how she managed to get this ‘infomertial’ at the WSJ!

[Diego Mamani]

As said on the article, “Chinese Mom” lives in New Haven, CT. She and her husband are both professors at Yale Law School.

I think her article was designed shock, to elicit controversy, and therefore to increase sales of her book of the same topic. I’d like to know how she managed to get this ‘infomertial’ at the WSJ!

[Diego Mamani]

As said on the article, “Chinese Mom” lives in New Haven, CT. She and her husband are both professors at Yale Law School.

I think her article was designed shock, to elicit controversy, and therefore to increase sales of her book of the same topic. I’d like to know how she managed to get this ‘infomertial’ at the WSJ!

[Diego Mamani]

As said on the article, “Chinese Mom” lives in New Haven, CT. She and her husband are both professors at Yale Law School.

I think her article was designed shock, to elicit controversy, and therefore to increase sales of her book of the same topic. I’d like to know how she managed to get this ‘infomertial’ at the WSJ!

[Coronita]

Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… Nor do we really need such a huge sedan.. Heck, most of us can’t even properly park the car into a normal space (that’s what valet is for)… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them..Usually, the tshirts that we given to us from tradeshows and conferences, because hey we have no sense of fashion…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?

[Coronita]

Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… Nor do we really need such a huge sedan.. Heck, most of us can’t even properly park the car into a normal space (that’s what valet is for)… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them..Usually, the tshirts that we given to us from tradeshows and conferences, because hey we have no sense of fashion…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?

[Coronita]

Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… Nor do we really need such a huge sedan.. Heck, most of us can’t even properly park the car into a normal space (that’s what valet is for)… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them..Usually, the tshirts that we given to us from tradeshows and conferences, because hey we have no sense of fashion…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?

[Coronita]

Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… Nor do we really need such a huge sedan.. Heck, most of us can’t even properly park the car into a normal space (that’s what valet is for)… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them..Usually, the tshirts that we given to us from tradeshows and conferences, because hey we have no sense of fashion…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?

[Coronita]

Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… Nor do we really need such a huge sedan.. Heck, most of us can’t even properly park the car into a normal space (that’s what valet is for)… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them..Usually, the tshirts that we given to us from tradeshows and conferences, because hey we have no sense of fashion…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?[/quote]

flu, this is a very profound, truthful statement as to Asian values, and coming from a presumed “Asian,” to boot. Not to be “stereotyping,” (nothing wrong with it) but . . . . absolutely true . . . all of it. Thanks for your honesty, flu!

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?[/quote]

flu, this is a very profound, truthful statement as to Asian values, and coming from a presumed “Asian,” to boot. Not to be “stereotyping,” (nothing wrong with it) but . . . . absolutely true . . . all of it. Thanks for your honesty, flu!

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?[/quote]

flu, this is a very profound, truthful statement as to Asian values, and coming from a presumed “Asian,” to boot. Not to be “stereotyping,” (nothing wrong with it) but . . . . absolutely true . . . all of it. Thanks for your honesty, flu!

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]Ok let’s cut to the chase.

Asian people don’t necessarily care about grades or degrees. Some actually don’t. BUT, most asian people care about money….

So there you go…

We’re not all social hermits. Some of us just want to maximize profits….so we can buy bling….

We love Mercedes, we love BMW. Because obviously we love things that make us feel good. Forget that most of us can’t drive worth crap…Forget that most of us doesn’t really know what the “50” in a 750i really means or the “50” in a S550 is. And that we really don’t need a 5.0 liter engine, since we typically drive so goddamn slow on the freeway anyway… We just know the larger the number on a car, the more expensive it is… Lease? Monthly payments??? Pfff cash purchase baby….

Oh yeah, and we love Honda Accords and Toyota Camry. If you never owned a Honda or Camry, chances are you aren’t really asian. We love them because they’re cheap, their reliable…And because we have no taste in cars..And because we need to save money for…

A big house…Before we have kids. Must be in a good school district…Even if we don’t plan to have kids…Then when we buy the house (because we can afford it), we buy the cheapest most tackiest furniture we can find so that we turn our prestigeous $1million home into something that looks like…well crap….And we wear crap, like tshirts with lots of holes in them…..And when we do have kids, even though we’re in the best public school district, that’s just not good enough so then we spend even more money to send our kids to…enrichment programs…And for some of us, private schools. Ah yes, but we justify the purchase because we say well, our property will hold up value better because it’s in a nicer school district. Forget the fact we don’t even send our kids to the public schools…

But let’s also not forget the ladies. We love the fancy designer bags. Forget that some of them look like roadkill, or the insides of a raincoat, if it ain’t Burberry, Chanel , Louis Vuitton, it’s just not going to cut it. And don’t try to do that switch the old fake bag for the real thing technique. Because I know when your bag is a fake…..

Men? Rolexes. Must be rolex…Yeah, they are pretty ugly too. But who cares…It’s a rolex. It’s a rolex. Hey buddy, did you check out my rolex?[/quote]

flu, this is a very profound, truthful statement as to Asian values, and coming from a presumed “Asian,” to boot. Not to be “stereotyping,” (nothing wrong with it) but . . . . absolutely true . . . all of it. Thanks for your honesty, flu!

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