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October 17, 2014 at 12:26 AM #778870October 17, 2014 at 1:10 AM #778869
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Participant[quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .
Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]
I must have missed something here. Why do you think you’ll be kicked to the curb in 10 years? And how did I convince you of that?
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And as far as kids making it easier to bond with your spouse…the fact that you say that means that you’re probably an excellent father and husband (which I’ve always assumed about you, BTW). But all too often, making babies is where the rubber meets the road; and far too many males start heading for the exit, either directly (straight abandonment) or indirectly (by becoming such a repulsive, selfish louse that he essentially forces the wife to divorce him) once the babies are born.
October 17, 2014 at 7:43 AM #778878scaredyclassic
Participant[quote=CA renter][quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .
Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]
I must have missed something here. Why do you think you’ll be kicked to the curb in 10 years? And how did I convince you of that?
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And as far as kids making it easier to bond with your spouse…the fact that you say that means that you’re probably an excellent father and husband (which I’ve always assumed about you, BTW). But all too often, making babies is where the rubber meets the road; and far too many males start heading for the exit, either directly (straight abandonment) or indirectly (by becoming such a repulsive, selfish louse that he essentially forces the wife to divorce him) once the babies are born.[/quote]
IME it doesn’t matter if the guy is a good or bad dad… His wife will see him as useless either way
October 17, 2014 at 8:02 AM #778880NotCranky
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=CA renter][quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .
Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]
I must have missed something here. Why do you think you’ll be kicked to the curb in 10 years? And how did I convince you of that?
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And as far as kids making it easier to bond with your spouse…the fact that you say that means that you’re probably an excellent father and husband (which I’ve always assumed about you, BTW). But all too often, making babies is where the rubber meets the road; and far too many males start heading for the exit, either directly (straight abandonment) or indirectly (by becoming such a repulsive, selfish louse that he essentially forces the wife to divorce him) once the babies are born.[/quote]
IME it doesn’t matter if the guy is a good or bad dad… His wife will see him as useless either way[/quote]
Cycle of life. Nothing to get bent out of shape about.
October 17, 2014 at 8:03 AM #778879Participant[quote=CA renter][quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .
Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]
I must have missed something here. Why do you think you’ll be kicked to the curb in 10 years? And how did I convince you of that?
It wasn’t about me in particular but somewhere in this thread people were talking about 7 year itch and
…And as far as kids making it easier to bond with your spouse…the fact that you say that means that you’re probably an excellent father and husband (which I’ve always assumed about you, BTW). But all too often, making babies is where the rubber meets the road; and far too many males start heading for the exit, either directly (straight abandonment) or indirectly (by becoming such a repulsive, selfish louse that he essentially forces the wife to divorce him) once the babies are born.[/quote]
It wasn’t about me in particular but somewhere in this thread people were talking about 7 year itch and 20 year ditch and you mentioned that women often choose a break-up after the kids are out of the house. Nice. The man got to be a sperm donor and then was deceived as to his worth until he was needed less. Out sucker!
As far as men becoming lousy obnoxious losers and abandoners after kids, I think you mean it becomes evident at this time that the water seeking it’s own level didn’t blend well? Why do you usually paint women and union workers as the biggest victims in life? Currently, I see at least as many seriously defective young mothers as fathers.
It makes sense that men are less relevant , or even easily seen as inadequate as Scaredy points out, after the kids get a few years on them.
More so post industrial revolution than before. 100 + years ago a wife might see a man as important in the mentoring of her children to run the farm or learn the family trade but now, Kahn academy does that important stuff….what are we good for ?October 17, 2014 at 9:21 AM #778887FlyerInHi
GuestI think it’s too much to ask a spouse to be best friend, lover, soulmate, confident, etc… all in one.
I believe people love their spouses like they love their houses. It’s their so they love them. But it’s hard for other people to see what’s so special. All in the eyes of the beholder.
October 17, 2014 at 12:07 PM #778889Participanta woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.
October 17, 2014 at 12:09 PM #778890Participanti would go so far as to say that the needier or more emotionally involved the man is, the more likely the woman is to seek divorce. it’s…unmanly….
October 17, 2014 at 12:17 PM #778891Participanthere’s the reality kev…and i hate to be harsh, but ypu need to know… women want to have children with the best possible men. the really good looking, super studly successful ones….and you’re not him. at least you’re probably not her first choice. froankly, if she were creatinga fantasy team, you wouldnt make the squad.
men are different. we will literally settle for anything….
but you’ll do for her for now. i suppose. however, afetr a few issue are born, assumng they’re yours, she will be more on her feet, and also able to get financial assistance from you while she seeks better, more dominant alpha dudes. even if she doesn’t want this intellectually, she’ll wake up bored, or suddently realize she has unmet emotional needs, or who the fuck knows which way it’ll be expressed. but you, you will be dull. stifling. absurd. a little pudgier perhaps. tired.
it’s just the harsh reality of life. statistics show that 20% of the single men are having 80% of the sex. that’s who she’d really prefer. but well, you hang around. you ahve some cash. you look like a reasonable sucker…
you neeed to emulate in every way possible what a non needy winner witha lot of options appearslike.
otherwise, yourwoman will always have you in the settler/loser pile, psychologically.
what im saying is, this is unlikely to end well.
but you probably already know that…
YMMV
October 17, 2014 at 12:34 PM #778892Participantso here’s my practical advice. forget this girl. forget girls generally for a while. let’s make kev a point, point and ahalf higher.
that means we are going to get rid of some of that belly fat, we are going to get some muscle, maybe some kinda confidence builing training. kev is going to go from a 6 toa 7.5, or whatever. i’m making assumptions here about you that could be wrong.
but the advice is the same. let’s get kev one notch higher.
you’re gonna get a better class of chicks who look better and maybe even are less nuts. you’re going to be drawing froma better portion of the pool.
this girl was crap. you can do muuuuuch better.
i wanna see kev 2.0
now get out there, get to work, get leaner and meaner, get strong, develop a fuck you attitude, be a fucking man, not a whiny little baby and i want to see a 75% more fuckable kev by 1/17/15. you can do this!
we can always tone down the “i am fucking hotshit” attitude, but it’s hard to ramp it up when you’re in current waaah mode.
getting rid of her was a blessing. a 2nd lease on life.
this aprt is gonna be fucking awesome…
October 17, 2014 at 12:50 PM #778893Participantthe answer to the “baggage” question is easy;
exactly as much and no more than what kev says is fine.
anything else is noooooo
the new kev wouldnt even ask the question. it implies he is seeking approval from others. the new kev doesnt give a flying fuck what the world or girls or anyone thinks about him. because he is THE SHIT.other people hope to meet with HIS approval
October 17, 2014 at 1:35 PM #778895Participant[quote=scaredyclassic]the answer to the “baggage” question is easy;
exactly as much and no more than what kev says is fine.
anything else is noooooo
the new kev wouldnt even ask the question. it implies he is seeking approval from others. the new kev doesnt give a flying fuck what the world or girls or anyone thinks about him. because he is THE SHIT.other people hope to meet with HIS approval[/quote]
October 17, 2014 at 1:36 PM #778894Participantdel
October 17, 2014 at 3:22 PM #778897Participant[quote=Blogstar][quote=scaredyclassic]the answer to the “baggage” question is easy;
exactly as much and no more than what kev says is fine.
anything else is noooooo
the new kev wouldnt even ask the question. it implies he is seeking approval from others. the new kev doesnt give a flying fuck what the world or girls or anyone thinks about him. because he is THE SHIT.other people hope to meet with HIS approval[/quote]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LDB_sLdrHag%5B/quote%5Dyeah like that.
this is kevs world the rest of us are just passing thru.
all these women? Just a bunch of lonely sad little bitchesunless they are lucky enough to be favored with kevs approval.
I guarantee you’ll do better out there if you stop seeking approval and make people work for yours.
you are one sexy man, kev.
October 17, 2014 at 6:27 PM #778902kev374
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic]here’s the reality kev…and i hate to be harsh, but ypu need to know… women want to have children with the best possible men. the really good looking, super studly successful ones….and you’re not him. [/quote]
What the heck are you talking about. There are a line of women wanting to have kids with me..they are just not the women I want to have kids with.
Both my ex’es wanted to marry and have kids with me ASAP. I was the one who broke it off. My ex before my current ex even proposed to ME…complete turnoff but she ASKED ME to marry HER.
When I said I am not meeting women, I meant I am not meeting the women that gives me the 100% confidence to marry them and have kids, it’s always women who have a ton of baggage and not obvious baggage but the type who seem very normal on the surface but you find out only months or years later that there is some serious issue.
I don’t know what exactly you are implying, whether it is an insult to me or not. I do consider myself successful, educated, financially stable and socially presentable. In addition I have a ton of diverse interests and personal accomplishments in many of my hobbies. In term of male appeal I certainly would consider myself much higher than median.
In any case, this post was about my ex and her ridiculous baggage. When did it become about my dating appeal…LMAO!
And for the record, I know tons of women, even gorgeous attractive women, who have children with men I would consider complete trash. So please, your comment is absolutely ridiculous!
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