OT – Having family live with you temporarily.

[CBad]

[quote=fredo4]Remember that no good deed goes unpunished, so plan on him being completely ungrateful and perhaps even pissed off at the end of his stay.[/quote]

Completely expect this to happen. I’m hoping 10 years from now he’ll look back with understanding and be thankful.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[Enorah]

One other thing, if there are issues with alcohol or other kinds of addiction, well those issues need to be dealt with.

Probably first

at the very least in tandem with the other stuff

If there are not, then never mind 🙂

[Enorah]

One other thing, if there are issues with alcohol or other kinds of addiction, well those issues need to be dealt with.

Probably first

at the very least in tandem with the other stuff

If there are not, then never mind 🙂

[Enorah]

One other thing, if there are issues with alcohol or other kinds of addiction, well those issues need to be dealt with.

Probably first

at the very least in tandem with the other stuff

If there are not, then never mind 🙂

[Enorah]

One other thing, if there are issues with alcohol or other kinds of addiction, well those issues need to be dealt with.

Probably first

at the very least in tandem with the other stuff

If there are not, then never mind 🙂

[Enorah]

One other thing, if there are issues with alcohol or other kinds of addiction, well those issues need to be dealt with.

Probably first

at the very least in tandem with the other stuff

If there are not, then never mind 🙂

[CBad]

There are alcohol issues which is the reason for the no smoking/drinking/drugs condition. He says he is off and in AA otherwise this decision would be an automatic NO WAY.

[CBad]

There are alcohol issues which is the reason for the no smoking/drinking/drugs condition. He says he is off and in AA otherwise this decision would be an automatic NO WAY.

[CBad]

There are alcohol issues which is the reason for the no smoking/drinking/drugs condition. He says he is off and in AA otherwise this decision would be an automatic NO WAY.

[CBad]

There are alcohol issues which is the reason for the no smoking/drinking/drugs condition. He says he is off and in AA otherwise this decision would be an automatic NO WAY.

[Author]

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