ot: Facebook ethical question

[NotCranky]

[quote=6packscaredy][quote=spdrun]With your cynicism, wouldn’t you be better off living in the north woods of Maine, upper Michigan, or even the Upper West Side than in sunny Pollyanna California?[/quote]

I enjoy not fitting in.[/quote]

I don’t enjoy not fitting in, but I accept that the options to do that are not ubiquitous. They do change…even in sunny California the tide ebbs and flows.

[FlyerInHi]

I didn’t even post. Someone else tagged me.

Would parents get upset if kids went back to the hometown for a weekend but were too busy to visit?

[spdrun]

That would seem like a douchey thing to do on the kids’ part, assuming the home town and place where they live are far apart and visiting isn’t easy.

[FlyerInHi]

I see too many opportunities for bruised feelings especially for the emotionally fragile who reads deeper into everything.

I could see some parents getting upset when the child changes status to “in a relationship” without first informing them.

For their own sake, needy people should stay away from Facebook.

[NotCranky]

[quote=FlyerInHi]I see too many opportunities for bruised feelings especially for the emotionally fragile who reads deeper into everything.

I could see some parents getting upset when the child changes status to “in a relationship” without first informing them.

For their own sake, needy people should stay away from Facebook.[/quote]
Well, this post really is you brian1.

[njtosd]

[quote=6packscaredy]Companionship fades as they establish their own thing.

love is too vague. It’s just the sum total of how other people make us feel and what they do for us. Kids love their parents in a nostalgic way but the spell is broken when they create their own lives.

It’s sad. It’s the beginning of dying.[/quote]

Just not true from my perspective. My Dad died almost three years ago and it is with me every day, especially at the holidays. My Mom has dementia and that is equally distressing. I wish all the time that they were still in my life as they used to be (and I am 50). And in terms of beginning dying, after we were on our own my parents moved, made lots of new friends, volunteered thousands of hours and started new hobbies. To quote Edna Mode – maybe you need to remind them who you are.

[Coronita]

[quote=Blogstar][quote=FlyerInHi]I see too many opportunities for bruised feelings especially for the emotionally fragile who reads deeper into everything.

I could see some parents getting upset when the child changes status to “in a relationship” without first informing them.

For their own sake, needy people should stay away from Facebook.[/quote]
Well, this post really is you brian1.[/quote]

Told ya!

[CA renter]

[quote=Blogstar]They just show love better when they are kids and then they learn from us how not to do it. The love is still there ….you can find people who have kept the ability to show it to amazing degrees but not many of them.

One of my kid’s teacher has a beautiful relationship with her mom. The elder is in her 90’s and the younger in her sixties…they are like gleeful sisters together….so much love. These women are surrounded by it ,many ,many people…not Internet losers like us.[/quote]

Great story about your kid’s teacher, Russ! Beautiful! 🙂

I’m going to focus on your post instead of scaredy’s (love your posts, scaredy, but your posts on this topic are too depressing…and not true!). Agree that love does NOT have to fade…not at all. Many kids are closer to their parents as adults than they were when they were kids.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=CA renter][quote=Blogstar]They just show love better when they are kids and then they learn from us how not to do it. The love is still there ….you can find people who have kept the ability to show it to amazing degrees but not many of them.

One of my kid’s teacher has a beautiful relationship with her mom. The elder is in her 90’s and the younger in her sixties…they are like gleeful sisters together….so much love. These women are surrounded by it ,many ,many people…not Internet losers like us.[/quote]

Great story about your kid’s teacher, Russ! Beautiful! 🙂

I’m going to focus on your post instead of scaredy’s (love your posts, scaredy, but your posts on this topic are too depressing…and not true!). Agree that love does NOT have to fade…not at all. Many kids are closer to their parents as adults than they were when they were kids.[/quote]

I’d agree that many kids are closer to parents as they get older. What percentage in a psychologically healthy was. I’m going to hazard a guess that it’s less than half.

[scaredyclassic]

I am still hopeful that I will be in the better half and my kids will always want to come back and hang out.

[scaredyclassic]

I predict I will become increasingly less relevant every year.

Adult Kids I knew who were super close to their parents always seemed a little off. But that was my young perspdctive.

As the ur old man himself used to say, all philosophy is preparation for death.

Perhaps the trick is to figure out why so many many parents drive their kids nuts, and then do the opposite.

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