OT: Engagement Rings

[davelj]

As an amateur social anthropologist I’ve always been intrigued with the idea of engagement rings. The notion that the groom is supposed to buy an engagement ring for his bride (while receiving nothing of equal value in return) has always seemed mildly absurd in this “enlightened” age of equality between the sexes.

So, I’ve got a couple of questions for the married female Piggs and those who are single but plan on marrying one day.

For married females:

Had your husband proposed to you and said that he thought the idea of an engagement ring was silly and a waste of money, would you still have married him? If not, why?

Did you have your engagement ring appraised shortly after receiving it? (I know that many women like to get their ring appraised in such a manner in order to find out how much their fiancé spent on it under the guise that “it’s for insurance purposes.” This practice amuses me greatly.)

For single females who plan to marry one day:

Would you be willing to marry a man who said that he thought the idea of an engagement ring was silly and a waste of money? If not, why?

I greatly appreciate your assistance in furthering my understanding of human mating rituals and their underpinnings.

[scaredyclassic]

single weird data point; no ring was involved in my transaction. she said DO NOT buy one.

my friend at work ACCEPTED a recent proposal, ACCEPTED the small ring, later renegotiated a LARGE ring.

[scaredyclassic]

single weird data point; no ring was involved in my transaction. she said DO NOT buy one.

my friend at work ACCEPTED a recent proposal, ACCEPTED the small ring, later renegotiated a LARGE ring.

[scaredyclassic]

single weird data point; no ring was involved in my transaction. she said DO NOT buy one.

my friend at work ACCEPTED a recent proposal, ACCEPTED the small ring, later renegotiated a LARGE ring.

[scaredyclassic]

single weird data point; no ring was involved in my transaction. she said DO NOT buy one.

my friend at work ACCEPTED a recent proposal, ACCEPTED the small ring, later renegotiated a LARGE ring.

[scaredyclassic]

single weird data point; no ring was involved in my transaction. she said DO NOT buy one.

my friend at work ACCEPTED a recent proposal, ACCEPTED the small ring, later renegotiated a LARGE ring.

[jpinpb]

I had a few long term relationships, cohabitating for over 7 years. No ring ever involved. I couldn’t care less about having one. But I am not a typical female. I’m not a consumer. I’m not into status or material things or anything else society tries to push on people.

My husband insisted on getting me one. I told him not to, but he did anyway. I think it is more for him, putting others on notice that I am taken. Of course, married people unfortunately have affairs. Not that I ever would. But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.

[jpinpb]

I had a few long term relationships, cohabitating for over 7 years. No ring ever involved. I couldn’t care less about having one. But I am not a typical female. I’m not a consumer. I’m not into status or material things or anything else society tries to push on people.

My husband insisted on getting me one. I told him not to, but he did anyway. I think it is more for him, putting others on notice that I am taken. Of course, married people unfortunately have affairs. Not that I ever would. But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.

[jpinpb]

I had a few long term relationships, cohabitating for over 7 years. No ring ever involved. I couldn’t care less about having one. But I am not a typical female. I’m not a consumer. I’m not into status or material things or anything else society tries to push on people.

My husband insisted on getting me one. I told him not to, but he did anyway. I think it is more for him, putting others on notice that I am taken. Of course, married people unfortunately have affairs. Not that I ever would. But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.

[jpinpb]

I had a few long term relationships, cohabitating for over 7 years. No ring ever involved. I couldn’t care less about having one. But I am not a typical female. I’m not a consumer. I’m not into status or material things or anything else society tries to push on people.

My husband insisted on getting me one. I told him not to, but he did anyway. I think it is more for him, putting others on notice that I am taken. Of course, married people unfortunately have affairs. Not that I ever would. But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.

[jpinpb]

I had a few long term relationships, cohabitating for over 7 years. No ring ever involved. I couldn’t care less about having one. But I am not a typical female. I’m not a consumer. I’m not into status or material things or anything else society tries to push on people.

My husband insisted on getting me one. I told him not to, but he did anyway. I think it is more for him, putting others on notice that I am taken. Of course, married people unfortunately have affairs. Not that I ever would. But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.

[davelj]

[quote=jpinpb] But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.[/quote]

Agree completely.

[davelj]

[quote=jpinpb] But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.[/quote]

Agree completely.

[davelj]

[quote=jpinpb] But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.[/quote]

Agree completely.

[davelj]

[quote=jpinpb] But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.[/quote]

Agree completely.

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