Neighborliness

[bob2007]

Find an excuse to work in your front yard or garage. I’m always amazed at how the neighbors take that opportunity to talk. The fact that everyone there purposely bought behind a gate is one strike against you.

The individual makes a big difference. We have lived in 3 places here in SD over 15 years. In each place we found the neighbors to be very nice once the ice is broken. In the current, and hopefully last, location we know everyone on the street, always wave and talk.

[dumbled0ry]

[quote=Happs]Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type. [/quote]

Watch the movie LA Story – my favorite part is when Steve Martin gets in his car to drive next door to his best friend’s house… well that, and the twist of lemon.

[dumbled0ry]

[quote=Happs]Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type. [/quote]

Watch the movie LA Story – my favorite part is when Steve Martin gets in his car to drive next door to his best friend’s house… well that, and the twist of lemon.

[dumbled0ry]

[quote=Happs]Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type. [/quote]

Watch the movie LA Story – my favorite part is when Steve Martin gets in his car to drive next door to his best friend’s house… well that, and the twist of lemon.

[dumbled0ry]

[quote=Happs]Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type. [/quote]

Watch the movie LA Story – my favorite part is when Steve Martin gets in his car to drive next door to his best friend’s house… well that, and the twist of lemon.

[dumbled0ry]

[quote=Happs]Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type. [/quote]

Watch the movie LA Story – my favorite part is when Steve Martin gets in his car to drive next door to his best friend’s house… well that, and the twist of lemon.

[CA renter]

[quote=jpinpb]UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so. [/quote]

This is spot-on, jpinpb. In stable towns, most people probably make most of their life-long friends by the time they leave high school. In large cities in California, people are too transient to make those life-long committments. It’s difficult to make really good friends, only to see them move after a couple of years. I think people just shut down and stick with more superficial “friendships” around here.

It’s very unfortunate, IMHO, and possibly a reason behind all our “depression” statistics, in addition to peoples’ pursuit of material possessions. It might even be responsible for our problems with gangs and the restlessness of today’s youth. I think many people are trying to fill a void created by a lack of more permanent relationships.
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TG,

That was a great story about your friend “J.” Thanks for sharing that.

[CA renter]

[quote=jpinpb]UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so. [/quote]

This is spot-on, jpinpb. In stable towns, most people probably make most of their life-long friends by the time they leave high school. In large cities in California, people are too transient to make those life-long committments. It’s difficult to make really good friends, only to see them move after a couple of years. I think people just shut down and stick with more superficial “friendships” around here.

It’s very unfortunate, IMHO, and possibly a reason behind all our “depression” statistics, in addition to peoples’ pursuit of material possessions. It might even be responsible for our problems with gangs and the restlessness of today’s youth. I think many people are trying to fill a void created by a lack of more permanent relationships.
—————

TG,

That was a great story about your friend “J.” Thanks for sharing that.

[CA renter]

[quote=jpinpb]UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so. [/quote]

This is spot-on, jpinpb. In stable towns, most people probably make most of their life-long friends by the time they leave high school. In large cities in California, people are too transient to make those life-long committments. It’s difficult to make really good friends, only to see them move after a couple of years. I think people just shut down and stick with more superficial “friendships” around here.

It’s very unfortunate, IMHO, and possibly a reason behind all our “depression” statistics, in addition to peoples’ pursuit of material possessions. It might even be responsible for our problems with gangs and the restlessness of today’s youth. I think many people are trying to fill a void created by a lack of more permanent relationships.
—————

TG,

That was a great story about your friend “J.” Thanks for sharing that.

[CA renter]

[quote=jpinpb]UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so. [/quote]

This is spot-on, jpinpb. In stable towns, most people probably make most of their life-long friends by the time they leave high school. In large cities in California, people are too transient to make those life-long committments. It’s difficult to make really good friends, only to see them move after a couple of years. I think people just shut down and stick with more superficial “friendships” around here.

It’s very unfortunate, IMHO, and possibly a reason behind all our “depression” statistics, in addition to peoples’ pursuit of material possessions. It might even be responsible for our problems with gangs and the restlessness of today’s youth. I think many people are trying to fill a void created by a lack of more permanent relationships.
—————

TG,

That was a great story about your friend “J.” Thanks for sharing that.

[CA renter]

[quote=jpinpb]UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so. [/quote]

This is spot-on, jpinpb. In stable towns, most people probably make most of their life-long friends by the time they leave high school. In large cities in California, people are too transient to make those life-long committments. It’s difficult to make really good friends, only to see them move after a couple of years. I think people just shut down and stick with more superficial “friendships” around here.

It’s very unfortunate, IMHO, and possibly a reason behind all our “depression” statistics, in addition to peoples’ pursuit of material possessions. It might even be responsible for our problems with gangs and the restlessness of today’s youth. I think many people are trying to fill a void created by a lack of more permanent relationships.
—————

TG,

That was a great story about your friend “J.” Thanks for sharing that.

[NotCranky]

Last weekend I found out that my neighbor two properties over is the President and GM for a very important industrial plant in San Diego. The only place from which I was ever fired! Hey, can I have my job back? He is very nice and a good neighbor. The company was so big, and I so small within it, that he would have never known me.

I didn’t do anything dishonest or anything. I just got scapegoated by the supervisor and really didn’t care much. The supervisor still works there too… and I have credibility with my neighbor,hehehehehe.

[NotCranky]

Last weekend I found out that my neighbor two properties over is the President and GM for a very important industrial plant in San Diego. The only place from which I was ever fired! Hey, can I have my job back? He is very nice and a good neighbor. The company was so big, and I so small within it, that he would have never known me.

I didn’t do anything dishonest or anything. I just got scapegoated by the supervisor and really didn’t care much. The supervisor still works there too… and I have credibility with my neighbor,hehehehehe.

[NotCranky]

Last weekend I found out that my neighbor two properties over is the President and GM for a very important industrial plant in San Diego. The only place from which I was ever fired! Hey, can I have my job back? He is very nice and a good neighbor. The company was so big, and I so small within it, that he would have never known me.

I didn’t do anything dishonest or anything. I just got scapegoated by the supervisor and really didn’t care much. The supervisor still works there too… and I have credibility with my neighbor,hehehehehe.

[NotCranky]

Last weekend I found out that my neighbor two properties over is the President and GM for a very important industrial plant in San Diego. The only place from which I was ever fired! Hey, can I have my job back? He is very nice and a good neighbor. The company was so big, and I so small within it, that he would have never known me.

I didn’t do anything dishonest or anything. I just got scapegoated by the supervisor and really didn’t care much. The supervisor still works there too… and I have credibility with my neighbor,hehehehehe.

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