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November 28, 2007 at 2:15 PM #104699November 28, 2007 at 2:17 PM #104561mydogsarelazyParticipant
Hi Marion,
I went through divorce six years ago, initiated by my wife while I was in a medical crisis.
I took the attitude “I am sick, let her have the $$$ she wants and I will use my energy to fight illness.” In a way, I had little choice due to my condition. I had to give up control.
In the end, my backing down allowed us to actually talk and things ended up relatively fairly. We have a daughter together and she is living with her Mom for a year, and this came about through an amiable discussion. The financial issues also were resolved, in the end, in a fair manner.
My point? The harder you fight, the harder he will fight, and more damage of all kinds will occur. The marriage is over, take the high road as best you can and that will make the future of your kids much easier. Don’t squabble over money. Hating each other over money is toxic.
I am healthy and re-married, and my bank account has more than recovered. I hope you also have such good luck ahead.
I am very sorry for the pain you are going through in divorce.
JS
November 28, 2007 at 2:17 PM #104650mydogsarelazyParticipantHi Marion,
I went through divorce six years ago, initiated by my wife while I was in a medical crisis.
I took the attitude “I am sick, let her have the $$$ she wants and I will use my energy to fight illness.” In a way, I had little choice due to my condition. I had to give up control.
In the end, my backing down allowed us to actually talk and things ended up relatively fairly. We have a daughter together and she is living with her Mom for a year, and this came about through an amiable discussion. The financial issues also were resolved, in the end, in a fair manner.
My point? The harder you fight, the harder he will fight, and more damage of all kinds will occur. The marriage is over, take the high road as best you can and that will make the future of your kids much easier. Don’t squabble over money. Hating each other over money is toxic.
I am healthy and re-married, and my bank account has more than recovered. I hope you also have such good luck ahead.
I am very sorry for the pain you are going through in divorce.
JS
November 28, 2007 at 2:17 PM #104659mydogsarelazyParticipantHi Marion,
I went through divorce six years ago, initiated by my wife while I was in a medical crisis.
I took the attitude “I am sick, let her have the $$$ she wants and I will use my energy to fight illness.” In a way, I had little choice due to my condition. I had to give up control.
In the end, my backing down allowed us to actually talk and things ended up relatively fairly. We have a daughter together and she is living with her Mom for a year, and this came about through an amiable discussion. The financial issues also were resolved, in the end, in a fair manner.
My point? The harder you fight, the harder he will fight, and more damage of all kinds will occur. The marriage is over, take the high road as best you can and that will make the future of your kids much easier. Don’t squabble over money. Hating each other over money is toxic.
I am healthy and re-married, and my bank account has more than recovered. I hope you also have such good luck ahead.
I am very sorry for the pain you are going through in divorce.
JS
November 28, 2007 at 2:17 PM #104683mydogsarelazyParticipantHi Marion,
I went through divorce six years ago, initiated by my wife while I was in a medical crisis.
I took the attitude “I am sick, let her have the $$$ she wants and I will use my energy to fight illness.” In a way, I had little choice due to my condition. I had to give up control.
In the end, my backing down allowed us to actually talk and things ended up relatively fairly. We have a daughter together and she is living with her Mom for a year, and this came about through an amiable discussion. The financial issues also were resolved, in the end, in a fair manner.
My point? The harder you fight, the harder he will fight, and more damage of all kinds will occur. The marriage is over, take the high road as best you can and that will make the future of your kids much easier. Don’t squabble over money. Hating each other over money is toxic.
I am healthy and re-married, and my bank account has more than recovered. I hope you also have such good luck ahead.
I am very sorry for the pain you are going through in divorce.
JS
November 28, 2007 at 2:17 PM #104705mydogsarelazyParticipantHi Marion,
I went through divorce six years ago, initiated by my wife while I was in a medical crisis.
I took the attitude “I am sick, let her have the $$$ she wants and I will use my energy to fight illness.” In a way, I had little choice due to my condition. I had to give up control.
In the end, my backing down allowed us to actually talk and things ended up relatively fairly. We have a daughter together and she is living with her Mom for a year, and this came about through an amiable discussion. The financial issues also were resolved, in the end, in a fair manner.
My point? The harder you fight, the harder he will fight, and more damage of all kinds will occur. The marriage is over, take the high road as best you can and that will make the future of your kids much easier. Don’t squabble over money. Hating each other over money is toxic.
I am healthy and re-married, and my bank account has more than recovered. I hope you also have such good luck ahead.
I am very sorry for the pain you are going through in divorce.
JS
November 28, 2007 at 2:20 PM #104566Ash HousewaresParticipantMan I’m glad my wife works and has similar income. Alimony is a concept based on old ideas that just won’t die.
November 28, 2007 at 2:20 PM #104655Ash HousewaresParticipantMan I’m glad my wife works and has similar income. Alimony is a concept based on old ideas that just won’t die.
November 28, 2007 at 2:20 PM #104662Ash HousewaresParticipantMan I’m glad my wife works and has similar income. Alimony is a concept based on old ideas that just won’t die.
November 28, 2007 at 2:20 PM #104688Ash HousewaresParticipantMan I’m glad my wife works and has similar income. Alimony is a concept based on old ideas that just won’t die.
November 28, 2007 at 2:20 PM #104710Ash HousewaresParticipantMan I’m glad my wife works and has similar income. Alimony is a concept based on old ideas that just won’t die.
November 28, 2007 at 2:42 PM #104581AnonymousGuest“Couldn’t you have tipped off FBI about this Kidnapping? Also, there may be criminal laws aginst relationship with a minor (statutory rape or something). Men are prosecuted for such crimes against children all the time. Even the marriage may be void if she entered into it as a minor.”
Had I been smart, I would have. She went into the marriage willingly. Naturally, she would have done anything to get out of Cuba. Now they have a 6-month-old daughter, and of course, the ex is using that as a hardship excuse even though his new wife brings in 2k per month with the in-home daycare business. Go figure. This is beside the point, but the thought that my two boys might end up like their father is my WORST nightmare.
And for the men on here who profess no sympathy, all my ex talked about while negotiating this woman out of Cuba was how far superior Cuban women were to us “American b*tches”.
November 28, 2007 at 2:42 PM #104670AnonymousGuest“Couldn’t you have tipped off FBI about this Kidnapping? Also, there may be criminal laws aginst relationship with a minor (statutory rape or something). Men are prosecuted for such crimes against children all the time. Even the marriage may be void if she entered into it as a minor.”
Had I been smart, I would have. She went into the marriage willingly. Naturally, she would have done anything to get out of Cuba. Now they have a 6-month-old daughter, and of course, the ex is using that as a hardship excuse even though his new wife brings in 2k per month with the in-home daycare business. Go figure. This is beside the point, but the thought that my two boys might end up like their father is my WORST nightmare.
And for the men on here who profess no sympathy, all my ex talked about while negotiating this woman out of Cuba was how far superior Cuban women were to us “American b*tches”.
November 28, 2007 at 2:42 PM #104677AnonymousGuest“Couldn’t you have tipped off FBI about this Kidnapping? Also, there may be criminal laws aginst relationship with a minor (statutory rape or something). Men are prosecuted for such crimes against children all the time. Even the marriage may be void if she entered into it as a minor.”
Had I been smart, I would have. She went into the marriage willingly. Naturally, she would have done anything to get out of Cuba. Now they have a 6-month-old daughter, and of course, the ex is using that as a hardship excuse even though his new wife brings in 2k per month with the in-home daycare business. Go figure. This is beside the point, but the thought that my two boys might end up like their father is my WORST nightmare.
And for the men on here who profess no sympathy, all my ex talked about while negotiating this woman out of Cuba was how far superior Cuban women were to us “American b*tches”.
November 28, 2007 at 2:42 PM #104703AnonymousGuest“Couldn’t you have tipped off FBI about this Kidnapping? Also, there may be criminal laws aginst relationship with a minor (statutory rape or something). Men are prosecuted for such crimes against children all the time. Even the marriage may be void if she entered into it as a minor.”
Had I been smart, I would have. She went into the marriage willingly. Naturally, she would have done anything to get out of Cuba. Now they have a 6-month-old daughter, and of course, the ex is using that as a hardship excuse even though his new wife brings in 2k per month with the in-home daycare business. Go figure. This is beside the point, but the thought that my two boys might end up like their father is my WORST nightmare.
And for the men on here who profess no sympathy, all my ex talked about while negotiating this woman out of Cuba was how far superior Cuban women were to us “American b*tches”.
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