Help… Should we sell, or stay???

[CA renter]

TG,

Happy New Year to you (and all the other wonderful posters here), and best wishes for you and your family in your new home! 🙂

[mydogsarelazy]

Hello Homeschool,

I am joining this conversation late, and want to offer some fairly radical advice.

I get the impression that you are taking care of everyone except yourself, and that your health is in trouble. You need a year off.

Sell everything: the house, your practice if you own it, ditch the luxury cars. Rent in a community where you can afford a comfortable apartment or nice home where the schools are decent for your kids. During your year off, get to know your family and spouse again.

As others have pointed out, our nation is entering a crisis, and having your funds in very conservative investments would be a good thing.

Do some travelling, read those books you have always wanted to read, and then comes the scary part. You are going to find out how people really feel about you. Are you just a wallet for those around you or are they really there for you?

When the year is over you will be a different person and you can decide if you want to go back to medicine.

For the record, I had cancer seven years ago and went through a kind of forced year off, and the changes and benefits have been radical.

Sincere best wishes to you,

JS

[mydogsarelazy]

Hello Homeschool,

I am joining this conversation late, and want to offer some fairly radical advice.

I get the impression that you are taking care of everyone except yourself, and that your health is in trouble. You need a year off.

Sell everything: the house, your practice if you own it, ditch the luxury cars. Rent in a community where you can afford a comfortable apartment or nice home where the schools are decent for your kids. During your year off, get to know your family and spouse again.

As others have pointed out, our nation is entering a crisis, and having your funds in very conservative investments would be a good thing.

Do some travelling, read those books you have always wanted to read, and then comes the scary part. You are going to find out how people really feel about you. Are you just a wallet for those around you or are they really there for you?

When the year is over you will be a different person and you can decide if you want to go back to medicine.

For the record, I had cancer seven years ago and went through a kind of forced year off, and the changes and benefits have been radical.

Sincere best wishes to you,

JS

[mydogsarelazy]

Hello Homeschool,

I am joining this conversation late, and want to offer some fairly radical advice.

I get the impression that you are taking care of everyone except yourself, and that your health is in trouble. You need a year off.

Sell everything: the house, your practice if you own it, ditch the luxury cars. Rent in a community where you can afford a comfortable apartment or nice home where the schools are decent for your kids. During your year off, get to know your family and spouse again.

As others have pointed out, our nation is entering a crisis, and having your funds in very conservative investments would be a good thing.

Do some travelling, read those books you have always wanted to read, and then comes the scary part. You are going to find out how people really feel about you. Are you just a wallet for those around you or are they really there for you?

When the year is over you will be a different person and you can decide if you want to go back to medicine.

For the record, I had cancer seven years ago and went through a kind of forced year off, and the changes and benefits have been radical.

Sincere best wishes to you,

JS

[mydogsarelazy]

Hello Homeschool,

I am joining this conversation late, and want to offer some fairly radical advice.

I get the impression that you are taking care of everyone except yourself, and that your health is in trouble. You need a year off.

Sell everything: the house, your practice if you own it, ditch the luxury cars. Rent in a community where you can afford a comfortable apartment or nice home where the schools are decent for your kids. During your year off, get to know your family and spouse again.

As others have pointed out, our nation is entering a crisis, and having your funds in very conservative investments would be a good thing.

Do some travelling, read those books you have always wanted to read, and then comes the scary part. You are going to find out how people really feel about you. Are you just a wallet for those around you or are they really there for you?

When the year is over you will be a different person and you can decide if you want to go back to medicine.

For the record, I had cancer seven years ago and went through a kind of forced year off, and the changes and benefits have been radical.

Sincere best wishes to you,

JS

[mydogsarelazy]

Hello Homeschool,

I am joining this conversation late, and want to offer some fairly radical advice.

I get the impression that you are taking care of everyone except yourself, and that your health is in trouble. You need a year off.

Sell everything: the house, your practice if you own it, ditch the luxury cars. Rent in a community where you can afford a comfortable apartment or nice home where the schools are decent for your kids. During your year off, get to know your family and spouse again.

As others have pointed out, our nation is entering a crisis, and having your funds in very conservative investments would be a good thing.

Do some travelling, read those books you have always wanted to read, and then comes the scary part. You are going to find out how people really feel about you. Are you just a wallet for those around you or are they really there for you?

When the year is over you will be a different person and you can decide if you want to go back to medicine.

For the record, I had cancer seven years ago and went through a kind of forced year off, and the changes and benefits have been radical.

Sincere best wishes to you,

JS

[NotCranky]

Along the same lines but with a focus on consideration for the children:

My father died when he was 46 of nothing more than 20 or so years of consistent alcohol poisoning. I found a group called Adult Children of Alcoholics in my early twenties. Not all of the people there had alcoholic parents. A good percentage came from families like that of the O.P. They were referred by friends, therapists, church associates, etc. because they had similar problems. They had the same kinds of stories as those who grew up with alcoholics.Things like, extreme family dramas including alienation/isolation from family, suicides ,alcohol & drug abuse or eating disorders including bulimia and anorexia,gambling problems, inability to form constructive relationships,failing professionally despite intelligence and/or education, following in their parents footsteps, ect. The ones that were able to straiten some of this stuff out were the lucky ones. By taking some of the advice on this thread maybe these negative possibilities can be avoided or mitigated early on.

[NotCranky]

Along the same lines but with a focus on consideration for the children:

My father died when he was 46 of nothing more than 20 or so years of consistent alcohol poisoning. I found a group called Adult Children of Alcoholics in my early twenties. Not all of the people there had alcoholic parents. A good percentage came from families like that of the O.P. They were referred by friends, therapists, church associates, etc. because they had similar problems. They had the same kinds of stories as those who grew up with alcoholics.Things like, extreme family dramas including alienation/isolation from family, suicides ,alcohol & drug abuse or eating disorders including bulimia and anorexia,gambling problems, inability to form constructive relationships,failing professionally despite intelligence and/or education, following in their parents footsteps, ect. The ones that were able to straiten some of this stuff out were the lucky ones. By taking some of the advice on this thread maybe these negative possibilities can be avoided or mitigated early on.

[NotCranky]

Along the same lines but with a focus on consideration for the children:

My father died when he was 46 of nothing more than 20 or so years of consistent alcohol poisoning. I found a group called Adult Children of Alcoholics in my early twenties. Not all of the people there had alcoholic parents. A good percentage came from families like that of the O.P. They were referred by friends, therapists, church associates, etc. because they had similar problems. They had the same kinds of stories as those who grew up with alcoholics.Things like, extreme family dramas including alienation/isolation from family, suicides ,alcohol & drug abuse or eating disorders including bulimia and anorexia,gambling problems, inability to form constructive relationships,failing professionally despite intelligence and/or education, following in their parents footsteps, ect. The ones that were able to straiten some of this stuff out were the lucky ones. By taking some of the advice on this thread maybe these negative possibilities can be avoided or mitigated early on.

[NotCranky]

Along the same lines but with a focus on consideration for the children:

My father died when he was 46 of nothing more than 20 or so years of consistent alcohol poisoning. I found a group called Adult Children of Alcoholics in my early twenties. Not all of the people there had alcoholic parents. A good percentage came from families like that of the O.P. They were referred by friends, therapists, church associates, etc. because they had similar problems. They had the same kinds of stories as those who grew up with alcoholics.Things like, extreme family dramas including alienation/isolation from family, suicides ,alcohol & drug abuse or eating disorders including bulimia and anorexia,gambling problems, inability to form constructive relationships,failing professionally despite intelligence and/or education, following in their parents footsteps, ect. The ones that were able to straiten some of this stuff out were the lucky ones. By taking some of the advice on this thread maybe these negative possibilities can be avoided or mitigated early on.

[NotCranky]

Along the same lines but with a focus on consideration for the children:

My father died when he was 46 of nothing more than 20 or so years of consistent alcohol poisoning. I found a group called Adult Children of Alcoholics in my early twenties. Not all of the people there had alcoholic parents. A good percentage came from families like that of the O.P. They were referred by friends, therapists, church associates, etc. because they had similar problems. They had the same kinds of stories as those who grew up with alcoholics.Things like, extreme family dramas including alienation/isolation from family, suicides ,alcohol & drug abuse or eating disorders including bulimia and anorexia,gambling problems, inability to form constructive relationships,failing professionally despite intelligence and/or education, following in their parents footsteps, ect. The ones that were able to straiten some of this stuff out were the lucky ones. By taking some of the advice on this thread maybe these negative possibilities can be avoided or mitigated early on.

[Enorah]

Rustico, your willingness to share yourself is beautiful. I hope that you see yourself as a healer in this way.

[Enorah]

Rustico, your willingness to share yourself is beautiful. I hope that you see yourself as a healer in this way.

[Enorah]

Rustico, your willingness to share yourself is beautiful. I hope that you see yourself as a healer in this way.

[Enorah]

Rustico, your willingness to share yourself is beautiful. I hope that you see yourself as a healer in this way.

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