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August 18, 2009 at 3:51 PM #446796August 18, 2009 at 4:20 PM #446033CBadParticipant
Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
August 18, 2009 at 4:20 PM #446226CBadParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
August 18, 2009 at 4:20 PM #446564CBadParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
August 18, 2009 at 4:20 PM #446637CBadParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
August 18, 2009 at 4:20 PM #446816CBadParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
August 18, 2009 at 4:50 PM #446043CA renterParticipantHere’s an excellent speech by Elizabeth Warren, author of “The Two-Income Trap” and who, coincidentally, is the chair of the Congressional Oversight Panel.
link to book:
It’s a longer speech, but she hits on many of the things we discuss here.
link to speech:
I don’t have time right now, but will dig up the statistics that show how handicapped women are when they stay home to take care of their families. Again, I stand by my assertion that women cannot have it all, and that their income-earning capacity is absolutely **permanently** affected by having children.
August 18, 2009 at 4:50 PM #446236CA renterParticipantHere’s an excellent speech by Elizabeth Warren, author of “The Two-Income Trap” and who, coincidentally, is the chair of the Congressional Oversight Panel.
link to book:
It’s a longer speech, but she hits on many of the things we discuss here.
link to speech:
I don’t have time right now, but will dig up the statistics that show how handicapped women are when they stay home to take care of their families. Again, I stand by my assertion that women cannot have it all, and that their income-earning capacity is absolutely **permanently** affected by having children.
August 18, 2009 at 4:50 PM #446574CA renterParticipantHere’s an excellent speech by Elizabeth Warren, author of “The Two-Income Trap” and who, coincidentally, is the chair of the Congressional Oversight Panel.
link to book:
It’s a longer speech, but she hits on many of the things we discuss here.
link to speech:
I don’t have time right now, but will dig up the statistics that show how handicapped women are when they stay home to take care of their families. Again, I stand by my assertion that women cannot have it all, and that their income-earning capacity is absolutely **permanently** affected by having children.
August 18, 2009 at 4:50 PM #446647CA renterParticipantHere’s an excellent speech by Elizabeth Warren, author of “The Two-Income Trap” and who, coincidentally, is the chair of the Congressional Oversight Panel.
link to book:
It’s a longer speech, but she hits on many of the things we discuss here.
link to speech:
I don’t have time right now, but will dig up the statistics that show how handicapped women are when they stay home to take care of their families. Again, I stand by my assertion that women cannot have it all, and that their income-earning capacity is absolutely **permanently** affected by having children.
August 18, 2009 at 4:50 PM #446826CA renterParticipantHere’s an excellent speech by Elizabeth Warren, author of “The Two-Income Trap” and who, coincidentally, is the chair of the Congressional Oversight Panel.
link to book:
It’s a longer speech, but she hits on many of the things we discuss here.
link to speech:
I don’t have time right now, but will dig up the statistics that show how handicapped women are when they stay home to take care of their families. Again, I stand by my assertion that women cannot have it all, and that their income-earning capacity is absolutely **permanently** affected by having children.
August 18, 2009 at 5:13 PM #446053AecetiaParticipantAs a long time working woman, I have to agree. You cannot have it all. Something will suffer, whether it is how you interact with your family, quality time with your husband, house and yard care, or even time to take care of yourself. Unless you have a lot of money and can pay someone to do the things you do not have time to do or your relatives (usually your mother) take up your slack with the kids, you will not do it all and all will suffer including your job. Someone said it earlier, something has to give. Hats off to the working women who look like they are doing it all. Even Michelle Obama has her mother helping to raise the girls to give them a more normal family life. I think she is wise to do it and what I have read about Mrs. Obama’s mother, she sounds like she is grounded and has good commonsense.
August 18, 2009 at 5:13 PM #446246AecetiaParticipantAs a long time working woman, I have to agree. You cannot have it all. Something will suffer, whether it is how you interact with your family, quality time with your husband, house and yard care, or even time to take care of yourself. Unless you have a lot of money and can pay someone to do the things you do not have time to do or your relatives (usually your mother) take up your slack with the kids, you will not do it all and all will suffer including your job. Someone said it earlier, something has to give. Hats off to the working women who look like they are doing it all. Even Michelle Obama has her mother helping to raise the girls to give them a more normal family life. I think she is wise to do it and what I have read about Mrs. Obama’s mother, she sounds like she is grounded and has good commonsense.
August 18, 2009 at 5:13 PM #446584AecetiaParticipantAs a long time working woman, I have to agree. You cannot have it all. Something will suffer, whether it is how you interact with your family, quality time with your husband, house and yard care, or even time to take care of yourself. Unless you have a lot of money and can pay someone to do the things you do not have time to do or your relatives (usually your mother) take up your slack with the kids, you will not do it all and all will suffer including your job. Someone said it earlier, something has to give. Hats off to the working women who look like they are doing it all. Even Michelle Obama has her mother helping to raise the girls to give them a more normal family life. I think she is wise to do it and what I have read about Mrs. Obama’s mother, she sounds like she is grounded and has good commonsense.
August 18, 2009 at 5:13 PM #446657AecetiaParticipantAs a long time working woman, I have to agree. You cannot have it all. Something will suffer, whether it is how you interact with your family, quality time with your husband, house and yard care, or even time to take care of yourself. Unless you have a lot of money and can pay someone to do the things you do not have time to do or your relatives (usually your mother) take up your slack with the kids, you will not do it all and all will suffer including your job. Someone said it earlier, something has to give. Hats off to the working women who look like they are doing it all. Even Michelle Obama has her mother helping to raise the girls to give them a more normal family life. I think she is wise to do it and what I have read about Mrs. Obama’s mother, she sounds like she is grounded and has good commonsense.
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