[quote=zzz]Hi AN, thanks for the response. I would say I suspect most people go to therapy to salvage versus being proactive. I think many people think of therapy and associate it with the negative stigma that you must be broken, or you have mental illness, or that you don’t need someone else to tell you what’s wrong. [/quote]
That’s my impression as well. But that’s just me.
[quote=zzz]My car analogy does apply from this respect, your car needs maintentance to prevent issues as well as to address them, and yes the inevitable is that your car will die some day. Therapy or working through issues is so that you can prolong the inevitable which is death of marriage by divorce, or to keep your car / marriage running in good condition. Everything ends, your car dies, we die. Now the timeframe is not the same, but I think you get my point that people are willing to do maintenance on their cars and dont’ even think twice about it, but now doing maintenance on one self, well that isn’t so obvious to most people.[/quote]
To me, regular maintenance is like talking to your spouse. When you have to go to a 3rd party, a lot of the time, it’s because you can’t resolve it yourself. It’s like bringing your car to a mechanic because the engine sprung a leak or some other major issue that you can’t take care of yourself.
