[quote=temeculaguy][quote=Ricechex][quote=Aecetia]Go buy the biggest television they have and enjoy it. No one I know deserves it more. You need to do this. [/quote]
Aecetia–were you being sarcastic? I have never quite understood this “you deserve it” mantra. Who says a person “deserves” anything? My basic philosophy is: if you can’t afford to pay in cash, then you don’t deserve it.[/quote]
She wasn’t being sarcastic, she actually has known me in the real world long before piggington existed and knows my quirks, one of them being that I am overly conservative financially. It’s a personality flaw, she knows it and her advice only applies to me, it is far from what she was taken to task as ecouraging a consumerism mentality. Without boring you with the details of my financial situation, I suffer from buyers remorse, I’m afraid that if i buy big tv’s, they will become cheaper, even though I’d benefit from one, even though I can easily afford to pay cash, even though that cash has no other purpose, I have no debts, no cc bills, no car payments and a 401k that I’ll never live long enough to spend, yet I still can’t bring myself to spending money on something I can live without. I’m an inverted shopaholic, I find happiness in eating hot dogs on a steak budget, she knows this and thinks I would benefit from letting loose a little and buying something I want, not just need. At some point I’ll realize I can’t take it with me, but black friday came and went and I didn’t buy anything for myself, still have the little cheapo t.v., still can’t read the score of the laker game on it.
We all have our issues, that one is mine, it could be worse. I did pretty good, I went to three stores, measured the space where it would go, compared prices, looked at the screens, but ended up wussing out. My daughter teased me in the store as i toiled with the decision, she remarked that I’ve spent more on picking up the tab for a birthday party, buying cars or college funds for my kids, but $600 for a t.v. and I almost have a seizure. Who says we have to make sense all the time? Who on these boards can say that they don’t have at least one personality flaw that they rationalize?[/quote]
I get it TG. I suffer a similar condition. I once spent 2 hours in JCPenney sweating over buying a $700 sofa! The choices, the price…it was just too much, and my old sofa was beat down. However, going for a weekend in Palm Desert and dinner at LG’s causes no stress whatsoever. Go figure. It is priorities for sure.
Hey, you have done gender analysis/dating/relationships with exceptional proficiency and insight; have you ever considered money analysis? It is quite weird about therapy/counseling—training is all about family dynamics, risk factors, etc etc etc, but no money theory. The elephant in the room.
