[quote=temeculaguy]Ca renter, absolutely not, as a member of the men club, I am privy to info you are not and that woman is overated, I met her, she’s crazy.
For the guy who has everything, age appropriate, physical flaws, kids, a great mind, financial sense and no bio clock or need to get married or need to introduce or be introduced to eithers kids, the ability to be part of someone’s world but not the center of it, has her own friends, finds your quirks endearing, that is what we are after. 20’s, you’ve got to be kidding, trainees are banned, that is one of the earliest theorums.[/quote]
TG: As a coach for youth football, I can tell you that the fields my son and his teammates play on are literally crawling with 35 – 45yo attractive single moms. On the teams I’ve coached, the divorce rate is well north of 50% and actually seems to increase as the kids get older.
I’ve spoken with quite a few of these women and I always have the sense that they feel they’ve been sold a bill of goods. Meaning, that if they play by the rules, they’ll meet Prince Charming and he’ll be a college educated, white collar professional making six figures a year with all of his teeth. He’ll buy her a nice house in the ‘burbs along with that cute Mercedes SLK (Yukon Denali, Volvo crossover, etc) she’s always wanted and he’ll make enough so she can stay home when the little ones start arriving.
Obviously, it doesn’t work out that way, but you can see that magical thinking in everything from the RE market to personal relationships. Societally, we’ve been conditioned to believe these dreams come true and dreams die hard.
It’s kind of sad, really. Most of the single moms I know are good people and are somewhat stunned to find themselves at this point in their lives and in this situation. There’s a kind of desperation in their attitude and I’ve had several instances where “friendly” has morphed into something that wants to be a lot more involved. Six years ago, when I started coaching, it used to freak me out, but now I realize it’s just part of the gig.
