[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=svelte]90K in debt would give me pause – I would probably have to analyze whether it was an anomaly or a pattern likely to reoccur.
However, the deceit would be the dealbreaker. If I felt she was not telling the truth and would not admit she wasn’t telling the truth, I’d run for the hills. If she wasn’t telling the truth and then admitted to it, I’d put her on probation and probably watch her very closely for a couple of years. If it ever happened again, I’d be out of there.
Sometimes integrity has to trump your heart.[/quote].
I strongly disagree. Integrity Always trumps the heart.[/quote]
That’s what I was going to respond with. Integrity is a HUGE deal in a marriage, IMO. It’s pretty much everything.
