Spontaneity is the biggest tradeoff I have made to be married. [/quote]
Yes, I call this the Flexibility vs. Family Dichotomy. Unless you’re one seriously wealthy sonofabitch with a VERY understanding spouse and kids (well below 1% of the population), you simply can’t have both. You must choose one (largely) at the expense of the other.
Flexibility = spontaneity, adventure, etc.
Family = responsibility, stability, etc.
I’ve chosen Flexibility because it suits me. I’m sure there are plenty of folks happy with Family. What I have found, however, is that there are a LOT of men who want Flexibility, but are stuck in Family (even though they enjoy certain aspects of the latter) as a result of choices they made prior to being fully-informed on the alternatives.
