[quote=no_such_reality][quote=SK in CV][quote=Allan from Fallbrook]
SK: And yet you have out-of-wedlock births in some black communities approaching 70%. How to explain the statistical significance of that?[/quote]
Maybe they wanted to have babies. No chance they wanted to have babies with this guy, “knowing what they were getting into”.[/quote]
22 babies say you’re wrong.
With only 14 mothers, at least 8 of them are number 2 or higher.[/quote]
I’ve also known a man like this — 14 kids *that he knew of,* with multiple women, some of the kids were in foster care. Only spoke with him briefly, as he was visiting some of his kids in the foster home (a friend of mine was the foster mom), but it sounded like some of the women didn’t know about the other women and children, and this was even by his own account. This is NOT uncommon with these types of men.
Having been on the female side of these things (never fell for it, but that’s because I’m especially skeptical and inquisitive), there are an awful lot of men out there who don’t even tell their new “woman” that they are married, much less that they have kids. They will often flat-out deny it for months or years. While it might be difficult for responsible men to comprehend this, it does happen more often than you’d like to think.
It’s entirely possible that these women believed they were “the one” for him, and that they were going to get married and live “happily ever after.” It’s almost certain that he told them this at every point in the relationship…until the baby arrived. Once in awhile, he might have fancied a woman enough to keep up the ruse for another baby or more.
You’d be stunned by how well some men can keep secrets like this. Oftentimes, they don’t even know about these babies themselves until many years later when they’re found and pursued for child support.
I do not necessarily believe that these women were trying to “scam the system” by having babies with a deadbeat. That’s a really painful, difficult way to go about doing it, IMHO.
