[quote=njtosd][quote=NicMM]
njtosd, complimenting a friend is not like granting a trophy to the winner of a competition. It is sad to think that way.
NicMM[/quote]
I think another poster used the word “contorted” with respect to your analysis, so I won’t bother. I don’t choose or maintain friendships based on how people look. I don’t really comment much on people’s appearance because it doesn’t make a big difference to me. And I don’t tell people they are pretty, or great at kayaking, or anything else just to make them feel good. Do I mention it sometimes? Absolutely. Do I think it should matter a lot? No. What’s sad is to put that much importance on appearance, especially at the age of most on the people on this board (and Facebook).[/quote]
It’s not that people are putting such an emphasis on looks. When people genuinely like someone and want to encourage and uplift them, they will often compliment them about many things, and looks might be one of those things. Is that a bad thing?
FWIW, I am rarely on FB, but on the few occasions when I post/read, the vast majority of my compliments are regarding insightful posts, exceptional accomplishments, etc.
