Ladies, I totally agree that if the child is abusive and the parents are affraid for their safety, the parents should kick the kids out of the house. On the other hand, if child are deadbeats and the parents are enabling that, the blame goes as much to the enabler as the deadbeat. If I screwed up as a parent and my children become deadbeat, then it’s my responsibility as a parent to fix that problem.
I’m of the mind that family who stick together and help each other will be better off than those who thinks everyone for themselves. My parents did everything they could for me (pay for my tuition, let me live at home for as long as I want, etc), and in return, now that I’m independent, I will be there to support them anytime they need/want me to. They would never have kick me out of the house and I will never put them in a home when it’s time for me to take care of my parents in return. I’m doing the same thing to my kids as my parents did to me. Just because my parents paid everything for me doesn’t make me lazy and a deadbeat. I help out around the house when I was little and start working when I was 15 and never stopped working since. But because they helped me out financially, it sure made my life a lot easier. I don’t have to worry about student loans. I can save a lot more than I would have if I have a pile of student loans to worry about. I will take that advantage my parents gave me to take it to the next level and pass on that advantage to my kids.
