I’ve avoided getting into this debate b/c for the most part people will not likely change their opinions about marriage. I’d just like to say that if 50% of marriages end in divorce, then 50% of people married must be happy. I don’t buy into the notion that people will not divorce b/c of the cost. It has not been a deterrent to the 50% that got divorced. The old saying – why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it!
If someone is unhappy in their marriage, they will divorce regardless of the cost. I know people that are very happy in their marriage. I also know people that have suffered and no amount of money would be cause to continue to be married. Some marriages on the exterior appeared fine and I was surprised to hear about the divorce. That person is paying dearly for the divorce, but very happy w/the decision in spite of the cost.
Those who say they will not divorce b/c of the cost are coming up w/an excuse to stay married for whatever reason. Because they want to be miserable or their marriage isn’t as bad as they think or they are lazy or they just want to complain.
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The world doesn’t need more kids, so YOU having kids is a reflection of YOUR OWN selfishness to have YOUR OWN children. [/quote]
I don’t have any kids, though for a very long time I desired children. The universe had a say in that. Here I also understand both sides. The world is overpopulated, I agree. HOWEVER, watching my friends and family w/children, I beg to differ on having children as being a selfish act. I think having kids has to be the most selfless act a person can do. It takes your time, energy, money, effort and most important your love. You sacrifice your life to your children. Far from being selfish.
That’s not to say that their are parents that neglect their children or have absolutely no business having kids. That’s another topic for another day, but I’d go on a limb and say for those, it was by accident they had kids and not intended. Though there are also those accidents that were blessings anyway.
