And if she didn’t work, the husband would have just been paying more alimony and child support.
And just maybe if she hadn’t worked or worked part time and had focused on putting her husband and children first, the divorce wouldn’t have happened. Just speculating. As a mother, I simply cannot understand the point of having children if this is what your life is like with them. Someone else does the bulk of the child care (and I’m sure always has since birth, infant, toddler, and preschool years) and you assist in taking them to activities and watching them perform sometimes. What’s the point? Get a dog. Plus, when did she ever spend time with her husband throughout this daily schedule? Not surprising that it ended in divorce. Lots of women HAVE TO work just to make ends meet for their family but she wasn’t one of them. I bet the husband’s new wife pays a lot more attention to him and his needs. Again, just speculating….[/quote]
And herein lies every intelligent, educated woman’s dilema…
On one hand, you have all the people who say you should stay home and take care of your kids and husband. However, doing so will **permanently** affect what you will be able to earn if/when you should ever choose or NEED to go back to work. I’d guess most (but not all) women would absolutely prefer to take care of their families, but are rightfully afraid of becoming one of those “desperate” 40+ divorcees with an “8% chance of remarriage.” Oh, and she’ll get the “gold-digger” and “parasite” labels attached just for good measure.
On the other hand, women who choose to work are accused of being inattentive wives and mothers. They lose out on so much of their childrens’ lives, have less time to devote to their marriages, and they are forced (believe it or not) to hire more people to help with all the work — cleaning, child care, etc. Then, when their husbands leave them for the REAL gold-diggers (the ones who come on the scene **after** he is making good money) people accuse them of all sorts of nefarious things because they still need help if they are working and taking care of the kids/home.
Contrary to what women have been told for many decades, we really **CANNOT** “have it all.”
Not sure what the answer is, but many of these responses upset me. The woman is NOT a gold-digger, as she probably makes more money than most posters on this blog. She is NOT be a “kept” woman (BTW, a “kept” woman is a whore/mistress who is financially supported by the a$$hole who is cheating on his wife).
From what I see, it looks like the husband is the winner in all of this, as he was able to find a “new wife” — the woman with whom he will probably have more children, and then complain that his first family is sucking him dry. Sorry, no sympathy for him (or anyone like him), either. He never had his income-earning potential stalled by pregnancy, childbirth or child-rearing, and he’s considered a “good dad” if he works long hours to make more money for his family. Naturally, he deserves lots of “guy time” when he’s not working, because he works so hard.
