[quote=CA renter]Oh, and it’s “a big deal” because most married people understand that sex is a sacred act. [/quote]
Yeah, I don’t get the “sacred act” part. And it’s not that married people “understand” that sex is a sacred act. It’s that they’ve been inculcated by culture into believing that it’s “supposed” to be a sacred act. (The rest of the animal kingdom doesn’t view sex as a sacred act… and we’re just “advanced” animals.) Just nitpicking a bit over your choice of words.
[quote=CA renter]
We understand the risks WRT disease, pregnancies, and unstable mistresses/boyfriends who become obsessive — sometimes with fatal results for the rest of the family.[/quote]
Condoms are 99%+ effective where disease and pregnancies are concerned and sure there are some unstable partners out there… but there are unstable husbands and wives as well… there are unstable folks everywhere.
[quote=CA renter]
You wouldn’t understand because you’ve obviously never felt the deep emotional bond with another person that would make you want to spend the rest of your life and possibly have children with that person. [/quote]
Correct. I’ve been in some long-term relationships – once for almost seven years – but I’ve never wanted to spend the rest of my life or have children with anyone. That’s a bridge too far for me. Although… that’s a bridge too far for a lot of folks apparently – as borne out by the divorce and adultery statistics – they just don’t realize it until it’s too late.
[quote=CA renter]
For single people (especially you and Brian, apparently), perhaps it’s not a big deal if someone sleeps around on you, but don’t assume that married people should share your beliefs. Our realities are far different from yours.[/quote]
If you put “Some of” at the beginning of that last sentence I’ll agree with you.
[quote=CA renter]
BTW, do you (honestly) encourage all of your girlfriends to sleep around on you? Does it honestly not bother you?[/quote]
“Encourage” is probably too strong a word. I “encourage” any girl I’m dating to do what makes her happy – and that includes sleeping with other dudes, if in fact that’s what she wants to do, with proper safety precautions, of course. It honestly doesn’t bother me one single bit. (Why should it bother me, exactly?) I’m not interested in owning anyone’s sexuality. And it gives me the freedom of not allowing anyone else to feel as if they should own mine. The root of jealousies of all flavors is ultimately some form of insecurity.
