In regards to the not being open about the credit card….he may be embarrassed. He may have learned a hard lesson in “living within his means 101”.

The fact that he is paying child support is a huge red flag. In my opinion, anyone with kids is off limits. His child/children should be his first priority, above any girlfriend/wife. Did you know that he had children? Not sound harsh, just looking from the outside in.

Just remember that there are LOTS of fish in the sea.