Marion, I don’t think that you are stupid as akbar so eloquently does, but I do think that you are on a hunt for attention/validation and I can’t understand why this is the forum you chose to flash around your sexy posts tinged with vulnerability. I appreciate your previous posts about housing matters but this is not a Dr. Phil blog, nor a substitute for the advice of a few decent girlfriends. It seems to me that you crave male attention of all forms, didn’t you say that this problem is occurring with ONE of the men you are dating? So move on to the next guy, that’s the benefit of dating. If you need someone local to go get a drink with and talk things out, let me know and we can meet up, but I come here to learn from people wiser and more savy than me who are willing to share their finance and housing knowledge. If I wanted to read dating drama I would click over to Dr. Laura’s website.