Sorry, my last post was a little tongue in cheek. I think I’m in the same boat as Cardiffman and while I admire Temeculaguy’s style from afar I can’t really imagine trying to run in his circle.

Outside of my extended family, my social circle is numbered on the fingers of one hand and I have no interest in expanding it. I have no culture (no socially acceptabe culture, anyway) and I have no interest in upgrading it. I can’t imagine changing my life or my priorities to win the approval of a woman and I can’t imagine spending any amount of time to change someone else’s life to fit mine. A relationship either comes together relatively easily or it stops dead at the coffee date. Who in their right mind would spend 2 seconds wondering how to make a high maintenance relationship work?

Marion, you should move on and not give this guy another thought. The prenup is an indicator of a personality that either doesn’t know or doesn’t care how to effectively communicate on your level, and at best represents a remodeling project for you. That’s assuming you buy into the quaint notion that people will change for others. Likewise, you can be sure that you don’t fit his specifications either. A relationship with you would surely involve more work for him than it would be worth.

Based on how you’ve described your expectations, I’m wondering if maybe it would be easier to snag your desired combo if you pushed your maximum acceptable age back 10 or 15 years?