[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

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[quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.

[Stradivarius]

[quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.

[Stradivarius]

[quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.

[Stradivarius]

[quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.

[Stradivarius]

[quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.

[Stradivarius]

I am Chinese, am a doctor, play the violin in the La Jolla Symphony, rock climb, drive a Honda, and have thick glasses. Yet I can also socially hang with the best. Thanks, mom.

My mother, an immigrant from Hong Kong, was pretty strict, and I will never forget the first really deep conversation I had with her when I was 10 years old. What I got out of it was that it wasn’t about getting straight A’s and being the best violinist in the orchestra, but that excelling academically unlocks doors. Good grades-> good college -> better job selection-> professional and financial freedom. Music lessons teach self-discipline which is useful for studying as well as the rest of your life.

A huge difference with my Chinese mom is that she encouraged me to socialize, play sports, as well as get good grades and practice violin and piano. She arranged sleepovers at our house for my sister and me, took us shopping, and taught us how to apply makeup. Looking pretty and having good social skills go a long way in any profession. Again, more opportunity for success.

Consequently, I am a commitment-phobe (what if I lose some options because I committed to something?!?). I got lucky with an awesome husband but haven’t been able to commit to purchasing a house or my own medical practice. I don’t own any pets. Not even a houseplant. So maybe I didn’t turn out exactly the way Mom intended, but the part-time doctor/rock climbing/violin thing works for me, so we are both happy. She even likes my non-Asian husband.

[Stradivarius]

I am Chinese, am a doctor, play the violin in the La Jolla Symphony, rock climb, drive a Honda, and have thick glasses. Yet I can also socially hang with the best. Thanks, mom.

My mother, an immigrant from Hong Kong, was pretty strict, and I will never forget the first really deep conversation I had with her when I was 10 years old. What I got out of it was that it wasn’t about getting straight A’s and being the best violinist in the orchestra, but that excelling academically unlocks doors. Good grades-> good college -> better job selection-> professional and financial freedom. Music lessons teach self-discipline which is useful for studying as well as the rest of your life.

A huge difference with my Chinese mom is that she encouraged me to socialize, play sports, as well as get good grades and practice violin and piano. She arranged sleepovers at our house for my sister and me, took us shopping, and taught us how to apply makeup. Looking pretty and having good social skills go a long way in any profession. Again, more opportunity for success.

Consequently, I am a commitment-phobe (what if I lose some options because I committed to something?!?). I got lucky with an awesome husband but haven’t been able to commit to purchasing a house or my own medical practice. I don’t own any pets. Not even a houseplant. So maybe I didn’t turn out exactly the way Mom intended, but the part-time doctor/rock climbing/violin thing works for me, so we are both happy. She even likes my non-Asian husband.

[Stradivarius]

I am Chinese, am a doctor, play the violin in the La Jolla Symphony, rock climb, drive a Honda, and have thick glasses. Yet I can also socially hang with the best. Thanks, mom.

My mother, an immigrant from Hong Kong, was pretty strict, and I will never forget the first really deep conversation I had with her when I was 10 years old. What I got out of it was that it wasn’t about getting straight A’s and being the best violinist in the orchestra, but that excelling academically unlocks doors. Good grades-> good college -> better job selection-> professional and financial freedom. Music lessons teach self-discipline which is useful for studying as well as the rest of your life.

A huge difference with my Chinese mom is that she encouraged me to socialize, play sports, as well as get good grades and practice violin and piano. She arranged sleepovers at our house for my sister and me, took us shopping, and taught us how to apply makeup. Looking pretty and having good social skills go a long way in any profession. Again, more opportunity for success.

Consequently, I am a commitment-phobe (what if I lose some options because I committed to something?!?). I got lucky with an awesome husband but haven’t been able to commit to purchasing a house or my own medical practice. I don’t own any pets. Not even a houseplant. So maybe I didn’t turn out exactly the way Mom intended, but the part-time doctor/rock climbing/violin thing works for me, so we are both happy. She even likes my non-Asian husband.

[Stradivarius]

I am Chinese, am a doctor, play the violin in the La Jolla Symphony, rock climb, drive a Honda, and have thick glasses. Yet I can also socially hang with the best. Thanks, mom.

My mother, an immigrant from Hong Kong, was pretty strict, and I will never forget the first really deep conversation I had with her when I was 10 years old. What I got out of it was that it wasn’t about getting straight A’s and being the best violinist in the orchestra, but that excelling academically unlocks doors. Good grades-> good college -> better job selection-> professional and financial freedom. Music lessons teach self-discipline which is useful for studying as well as the rest of your life.

A huge difference with my Chinese mom is that she encouraged me to socialize, play sports, as well as get good grades and practice violin and piano. She arranged sleepovers at our house for my sister and me, took us shopping, and taught us how to apply makeup. Looking pretty and having good social skills go a long way in any profession. Again, more opportunity for success.

Consequently, I am a commitment-phobe (what if I lose some options because I committed to something?!?). I got lucky with an awesome husband but haven’t been able to commit to purchasing a house or my own medical practice. I don’t own any pets. Not even a houseplant. So maybe I didn’t turn out exactly the way Mom intended, but the part-time doctor/rock climbing/violin thing works for me, so we are both happy. She even likes my non-Asian husband.

[Stradivarius]

I am Chinese, am a doctor, play the violin in the La Jolla Symphony, rock climb, drive a Honda, and have thick glasses. Yet I can also socially hang with the best. Thanks, mom.

My mother, an immigrant from Hong Kong, was pretty strict, and I will never forget the first really deep conversation I had with her when I was 10 years old. What I got out of it was that it wasn’t about getting straight A’s and being the best violinist in the orchestra, but that excelling academically unlocks doors. Good grades-> good college -> better job selection-> professional and financial freedom. Music lessons teach self-discipline which is useful for studying as well as the rest of your life.

A huge difference with my Chinese mom is that she encouraged me to socialize, play sports, as well as get good grades and practice violin and piano. She arranged sleepovers at our house for my sister and me, took us shopping, and taught us how to apply makeup. Looking pretty and having good social skills go a long way in any profession. Again, more opportunity for success.

Consequently, I am a commitment-phobe (what if I lose some options because I committed to something?!?). I got lucky with an awesome husband but haven’t been able to commit to purchasing a house or my own medical practice. I don’t own any pets. Not even a houseplant. So maybe I didn’t turn out exactly the way Mom intended, but the part-time doctor/rock climbing/violin thing works for me, so we are both happy. She even likes my non-Asian husband.

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