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This has all been quite enlightening. I have boiled my thoughts down to exactly two cents. Cent#1: Whether or not genetic pre-disposition towards addiction exists, humans are susceptible to addiction because we have neurological receptors for chemicals that make us feel good. Cent#2: Whatever the cause for the addiction, the only way out is for the person to acknowledge the problem and subsequently put in the legwork towards recovery.

I started reading this thread because I thought my boss might be having a problem. I was with the practice for about 4 years. Boss’s father passed away January 2010 and I was filling in for him a lot for a few months afterwards, no surprise there. When he returned to work, it wasn’t regular. He would call the day before (on a day he was off) and have the receptionist cancel his patients for the next day. If he did come in, it was ALWAYS an hour or two late. He would call and ask me to see his patients–>me seeing twice as many patients –>running behind –> angry patients. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but after a few months I stopped squeezing his patients into my schedule, because 1)it wasn’t fair to my patients who came in on time and 2) it was just enabling him to continue to come in late.

He cut my hours and hired another associate (I wasn’t under contract). It was actually a relief because he kept me on days when I was there alone. The poor new associate got the burden of squeezing in Boss’s morning patients. Then I kept hearing remarks from the staff. Boss making requests and 2 days later forgetting that he made them, and taking it out on whomever was trying to incorporate said request. Being in a really sour mood. Trying to skim prescription painkillers from a staff member (who actually needed them).

I suspected an addiction/alcohol problem and I put in my notice right before this thread started. While reading anecdotes and clicking on links, it became pretty obvious. So now the question is…do I intervene? I already quit, so job security isn’t an issue. Our relationship is pretty professional and we hardly ever talk about personal stuff, so is it weird? I’ll need him as a work reference and would this cause negativity? He’s really a good doctor and [was] a nice person and I loved working there until last year. I feel like I should do something but I don’t know what is appropriate.

[Stradivarius]

This has all been quite enlightening. I have boiled my thoughts down to exactly two cents. Cent#1: Whether or not genetic pre-disposition towards addiction exists, humans are susceptible to addiction because we have neurological receptors for chemicals that make us feel good. Cent#2: Whatever the cause for the addiction, the only way out is for the person to acknowledge the problem and subsequently put in the legwork towards recovery.

I started reading this thread because I thought my boss might be having a problem. I was with the practice for about 4 years. Boss’s father passed away January 2010 and I was filling in for him a lot for a few months afterwards, no surprise there. When he returned to work, it wasn’t regular. He would call the day before (on a day he was off) and have the receptionist cancel his patients for the next day. If he did come in, it was ALWAYS an hour or two late. He would call and ask me to see his patients–>me seeing twice as many patients –>running behind –> angry patients. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but after a few months I stopped squeezing his patients into my schedule, because 1)it wasn’t fair to my patients who came in on time and 2) it was just enabling him to continue to come in late.

He cut my hours and hired another associate (I wasn’t under contract). It was actually a relief because he kept me on days when I was there alone. The poor new associate got the burden of squeezing in Boss’s morning patients. Then I kept hearing remarks from the staff. Boss making requests and 2 days later forgetting that he made them, and taking it out on whomever was trying to incorporate said request. Being in a really sour mood. Trying to skim prescription painkillers from a staff member (who actually needed them).

I suspected an addiction/alcohol problem and I put in my notice right before this thread started. While reading anecdotes and clicking on links, it became pretty obvious. So now the question is…do I intervene? I already quit, so job security isn’t an issue. Our relationship is pretty professional and we hardly ever talk about personal stuff, so is it weird? I’ll need him as a work reference and would this cause negativity? He’s really a good doctor and [was] a nice person and I loved working there until last year. I feel like I should do something but I don’t know what is appropriate.

[Stradivarius]

This has all been quite enlightening. I have boiled my thoughts down to exactly two cents. Cent#1: Whether or not genetic pre-disposition towards addiction exists, humans are susceptible to addiction because we have neurological receptors for chemicals that make us feel good. Cent#2: Whatever the cause for the addiction, the only way out is for the person to acknowledge the problem and subsequently put in the legwork towards recovery.

I started reading this thread because I thought my boss might be having a problem. I was with the practice for about 4 years. Boss’s father passed away January 2010 and I was filling in for him a lot for a few months afterwards, no surprise there. When he returned to work, it wasn’t regular. He would call the day before (on a day he was off) and have the receptionist cancel his patients for the next day. If he did come in, it was ALWAYS an hour or two late. He would call and ask me to see his patients–>me seeing twice as many patients –>running behind –> angry patients. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but after a few months I stopped squeezing his patients into my schedule, because 1)it wasn’t fair to my patients who came in on time and 2) it was just enabling him to continue to come in late.

He cut my hours and hired another associate (I wasn’t under contract). It was actually a relief because he kept me on days when I was there alone. The poor new associate got the burden of squeezing in Boss’s morning patients. Then I kept hearing remarks from the staff. Boss making requests and 2 days later forgetting that he made them, and taking it out on whomever was trying to incorporate said request. Being in a really sour mood. Trying to skim prescription painkillers from a staff member (who actually needed them).

I suspected an addiction/alcohol problem and I put in my notice right before this thread started. While reading anecdotes and clicking on links, it became pretty obvious. So now the question is…do I intervene? I already quit, so job security isn’t an issue. Our relationship is pretty professional and we hardly ever talk about personal stuff, so is it weird? I’ll need him as a work reference and would this cause negativity? He’s really a good doctor and [was] a nice person and I loved working there until last year. I feel like I should do something but I don’t know what is appropriate.

[Stradivarius]

This has all been quite enlightening. I have boiled my thoughts down to exactly two cents. Cent#1: Whether or not genetic pre-disposition towards addiction exists, humans are susceptible to addiction because we have neurological receptors for chemicals that make us feel good. Cent#2: Whatever the cause for the addiction, the only way out is for the person to acknowledge the problem and subsequently put in the legwork towards recovery.

I started reading this thread because I thought my boss might be having a problem. I was with the practice for about 4 years. Boss’s father passed away January 2010 and I was filling in for him a lot for a few months afterwards, no surprise there. When he returned to work, it wasn’t regular. He would call the day before (on a day he was off) and have the receptionist cancel his patients for the next day. If he did come in, it was ALWAYS an hour or two late. He would call and ask me to see his patients–>me seeing twice as many patients –>running behind –> angry patients. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but after a few months I stopped squeezing his patients into my schedule, because 1)it wasn’t fair to my patients who came in on time and 2) it was just enabling him to continue to come in late.

He cut my hours and hired another associate (I wasn’t under contract). It was actually a relief because he kept me on days when I was there alone. The poor new associate got the burden of squeezing in Boss’s morning patients. Then I kept hearing remarks from the staff. Boss making requests and 2 days later forgetting that he made them, and taking it out on whomever was trying to incorporate said request. Being in a really sour mood. Trying to skim prescription painkillers from a staff member (who actually needed them).

I suspected an addiction/alcohol problem and I put in my notice right before this thread started. While reading anecdotes and clicking on links, it became pretty obvious. So now the question is…do I intervene? I already quit, so job security isn’t an issue. Our relationship is pretty professional and we hardly ever talk about personal stuff, so is it weird? I’ll need him as a work reference and would this cause negativity? He’s really a good doctor and [was] a nice person and I loved working there until last year. I feel like I should do something but I don’t know what is appropriate.

[Stradivarius]

This has all been quite enlightening. I have boiled my thoughts down to exactly two cents. Cent#1: Whether or not genetic pre-disposition towards addiction exists, humans are susceptible to addiction because we have neurological receptors for chemicals that make us feel good. Cent#2: Whatever the cause for the addiction, the only way out is for the person to acknowledge the problem and subsequently put in the legwork towards recovery.

I started reading this thread because I thought my boss might be having a problem. I was with the practice for about 4 years. Boss’s father passed away January 2010 and I was filling in for him a lot for a few months afterwards, no surprise there. When he returned to work, it wasn’t regular. He would call the day before (on a day he was off) and have the receptionist cancel his patients for the next day. If he did come in, it was ALWAYS an hour or two late. He would call and ask me to see his patients–>me seeing twice as many patients –>running behind –> angry patients. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but after a few months I stopped squeezing his patients into my schedule, because 1)it wasn’t fair to my patients who came in on time and 2) it was just enabling him to continue to come in late.

He cut my hours and hired another associate (I wasn’t under contract). It was actually a relief because he kept me on days when I was there alone. The poor new associate got the burden of squeezing in Boss’s morning patients. Then I kept hearing remarks from the staff. Boss making requests and 2 days later forgetting that he made them, and taking it out on whomever was trying to incorporate said request. Being in a really sour mood. Trying to skim prescription painkillers from a staff member (who actually needed them).

I suspected an addiction/alcohol problem and I put in my notice right before this thread started. While reading anecdotes and clicking on links, it became pretty obvious. So now the question is…do I intervene? I already quit, so job security isn’t an issue. Our relationship is pretty professional and we hardly ever talk about personal stuff, so is it weird? I’ll need him as a work reference and would this cause negativity? He’s really a good doctor and [was] a nice person and I loved working there until last year. I feel like I should do something but I don’t know what is appropriate.

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I have two bucket lists, long and short term. I’m moving to Philadelphia in 2 months (hubby already moved for work) so I’m trying to compile my San Diego list!

Long term:
Rock climb in Thailand
Backpack in New Zealand
Scuba dive in Yap
Learn Mandarin
Visit the Wu Zuoren Museum of Art (Wu Zuoren was my granduncle) in Suzhou, China

Short term/San Diego:
Mt. Woodson summit
Surf lessons
Get my friends to come to next weekend’s La Jolla Symphony concert (they always tell me they’re going to come and then only a few show up)

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I have two bucket lists, long and short term. I’m moving to Philadelphia in 2 months (hubby already moved for work) so I’m trying to compile my San Diego list!

Long term:
Rock climb in Thailand
Backpack in New Zealand
Scuba dive in Yap
Learn Mandarin
Visit the Wu Zuoren Museum of Art (Wu Zuoren was my granduncle) in Suzhou, China

Short term/San Diego:
Mt. Woodson summit
Surf lessons
Get my friends to come to next weekend’s La Jolla Symphony concert (they always tell me they’re going to come and then only a few show up)

[Stradivarius]

I have two bucket lists, long and short term. I’m moving to Philadelphia in 2 months (hubby already moved for work) so I’m trying to compile my San Diego list!

Long term:
Rock climb in Thailand
Backpack in New Zealand
Scuba dive in Yap
Learn Mandarin
Visit the Wu Zuoren Museum of Art (Wu Zuoren was my granduncle) in Suzhou, China

Short term/San Diego:
Mt. Woodson summit
Surf lessons
Get my friends to come to next weekend’s La Jolla Symphony concert (they always tell me they’re going to come and then only a few show up)

[Stradivarius]

I have two bucket lists, long and short term. I’m moving to Philadelphia in 2 months (hubby already moved for work) so I’m trying to compile my San Diego list!

Long term:
Rock climb in Thailand
Backpack in New Zealand
Scuba dive in Yap
Learn Mandarin
Visit the Wu Zuoren Museum of Art (Wu Zuoren was my granduncle) in Suzhou, China

Short term/San Diego:
Mt. Woodson summit
Surf lessons
Get my friends to come to next weekend’s La Jolla Symphony concert (they always tell me they’re going to come and then only a few show up)

[Stradivarius]

I have two bucket lists, long and short term. I’m moving to Philadelphia in 2 months (hubby already moved for work) so I’m trying to compile my San Diego list!

Long term:
Rock climb in Thailand
Backpack in New Zealand
Scuba dive in Yap
Learn Mandarin
Visit the Wu Zuoren Museum of Art (Wu Zuoren was my granduncle) in Suzhou, China

Short term/San Diego:
Mt. Woodson summit
Surf lessons
Get my friends to come to next weekend’s La Jolla Symphony concert (they always tell me they’re going to come and then only a few show up)

[Stradivarius]

[quote-flu] Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that. [/quote]

Sorry, forgot to mention that I am optometrist, so I have all this stuff at my disposal, usually at little to no cost. I fit ortho K lenses (aka CRT- Corneal Refractive Therapy) up to around -4.00. The higher the prescription, the more flattening of the cornea is necessary and it gets beat up a bit. So my -9.00 and -7.75 eyes probably wouldn’t like it. I have a a lot of kids in ortho K because some studies say that it slows down the progression of nearsightedness. Hong Kong Polytechnic University is currently conducting another study.

I really don’t bother doing anything different because I don’t have problems wearing soft contact lenses (of course I fit myself with the best ones). I hiked 24 miles through the grand canyon, was awake for 19 hours, and didn’t have any ocular symptoms. I even saw other people on our trail switch to glasses around mile 18.

The other thing is, I like being myopic. I can stream netflix on my iphone at 12.9cm (5in) away from my face. I can remove ANY splinter. I can see the print on a medicine bottle with very little light. And will probably still be able to do so when I’m 85 years old and have macular degeneration. It’s sort of comforting.

Believe me, having been offered free refractive surgery, I’ve thought about all of my risks and benefits, and am happy with my current modality. In 7 years when I turn 40 and start needing reading glasses, I may change my mind. And then there will be all kinds of new technology that my reps from Gordon-Weiss and NVision will certainly brag about.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-flu] Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that. [/quote]

Sorry, forgot to mention that I am optometrist, so I have all this stuff at my disposal, usually at little to no cost. I fit ortho K lenses (aka CRT- Corneal Refractive Therapy) up to around -4.00. The higher the prescription, the more flattening of the cornea is necessary and it gets beat up a bit. So my -9.00 and -7.75 eyes probably wouldn’t like it. I have a a lot of kids in ortho K because some studies say that it slows down the progression of nearsightedness. Hong Kong Polytechnic University is currently conducting another study.

I really don’t bother doing anything different because I don’t have problems wearing soft contact lenses (of course I fit myself with the best ones). I hiked 24 miles through the grand canyon, was awake for 19 hours, and didn’t have any ocular symptoms. I even saw other people on our trail switch to glasses around mile 18.

The other thing is, I like being myopic. I can stream netflix on my iphone at 12.9cm (5in) away from my face. I can remove ANY splinter. I can see the print on a medicine bottle with very little light. And will probably still be able to do so when I’m 85 years old and have macular degeneration. It’s sort of comforting.

Believe me, having been offered free refractive surgery, I’ve thought about all of my risks and benefits, and am happy with my current modality. In 7 years when I turn 40 and start needing reading glasses, I may change my mind. And then there will be all kinds of new technology that my reps from Gordon-Weiss and NVision will certainly brag about.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-flu] Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that. [/quote]

Sorry, forgot to mention that I am optometrist, so I have all this stuff at my disposal, usually at little to no cost. I fit ortho K lenses (aka CRT- Corneal Refractive Therapy) up to around -4.00. The higher the prescription, the more flattening of the cornea is necessary and it gets beat up a bit. So my -9.00 and -7.75 eyes probably wouldn’t like it. I have a a lot of kids in ortho K because some studies say that it slows down the progression of nearsightedness. Hong Kong Polytechnic University is currently conducting another study.

I really don’t bother doing anything different because I don’t have problems wearing soft contact lenses (of course I fit myself with the best ones). I hiked 24 miles through the grand canyon, was awake for 19 hours, and didn’t have any ocular symptoms. I even saw other people on our trail switch to glasses around mile 18.

The other thing is, I like being myopic. I can stream netflix on my iphone at 12.9cm (5in) away from my face. I can remove ANY splinter. I can see the print on a medicine bottle with very little light. And will probably still be able to do so when I’m 85 years old and have macular degeneration. It’s sort of comforting.

Believe me, having been offered free refractive surgery, I’ve thought about all of my risks and benefits, and am happy with my current modality. In 7 years when I turn 40 and start needing reading glasses, I may change my mind. And then there will be all kinds of new technology that my reps from Gordon-Weiss and NVision will certainly brag about.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-flu] Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that. [/quote]

Sorry, forgot to mention that I am optometrist, so I have all this stuff at my disposal, usually at little to no cost. I fit ortho K lenses (aka CRT- Corneal Refractive Therapy) up to around -4.00. The higher the prescription, the more flattening of the cornea is necessary and it gets beat up a bit. So my -9.00 and -7.75 eyes probably wouldn’t like it. I have a a lot of kids in ortho K because some studies say that it slows down the progression of nearsightedness. Hong Kong Polytechnic University is currently conducting another study.

I really don’t bother doing anything different because I don’t have problems wearing soft contact lenses (of course I fit myself with the best ones). I hiked 24 miles through the grand canyon, was awake for 19 hours, and didn’t have any ocular symptoms. I even saw other people on our trail switch to glasses around mile 18.

The other thing is, I like being myopic. I can stream netflix on my iphone at 12.9cm (5in) away from my face. I can remove ANY splinter. I can see the print on a medicine bottle with very little light. And will probably still be able to do so when I’m 85 years old and have macular degeneration. It’s sort of comforting.

Believe me, having been offered free refractive surgery, I’ve thought about all of my risks and benefits, and am happy with my current modality. In 7 years when I turn 40 and start needing reading glasses, I may change my mind. And then there will be all kinds of new technology that my reps from Gordon-Weiss and NVision will certainly brag about.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-flu] Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that. [/quote]

Sorry, forgot to mention that I am optometrist, so I have all this stuff at my disposal, usually at little to no cost. I fit ortho K lenses (aka CRT- Corneal Refractive Therapy) up to around -4.00. The higher the prescription, the more flattening of the cornea is necessary and it gets beat up a bit. So my -9.00 and -7.75 eyes probably wouldn’t like it. I have a a lot of kids in ortho K because some studies say that it slows down the progression of nearsightedness. Hong Kong Polytechnic University is currently conducting another study.

I really don’t bother doing anything different because I don’t have problems wearing soft contact lenses (of course I fit myself with the best ones). I hiked 24 miles through the grand canyon, was awake for 19 hours, and didn’t have any ocular symptoms. I even saw other people on our trail switch to glasses around mile 18.

The other thing is, I like being myopic. I can stream netflix on my iphone at 12.9cm (5in) away from my face. I can remove ANY splinter. I can see the print on a medicine bottle with very little light. And will probably still be able to do so when I’m 85 years old and have macular degeneration. It’s sort of comforting.

Believe me, having been offered free refractive surgery, I’ve thought about all of my risks and benefits, and am happy with my current modality. In 7 years when I turn 40 and start needing reading glasses, I may change my mind. And then there will be all kinds of new technology that my reps from Gordon-Weiss and NVision will certainly brag about.

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