bearishgurl,
thanks kindly for your reply. from the mls listings i’ve been seeing for the past while now, the areas mentioned (santee down through skyline) do seem to have some SFRs on offer that generally meet our criteria, so that’s one reason we were looking there (to be more specific, i’ve been tracking 92114, 91945, 91941, 91942, and 91977 west of the 125, 92071. i realize that the HOA and particularly MR fees are somewhat universal in the area close to eastlake/otay ranch, so that was out for us (not to mention the general cost of homes there).
as for freeway dependence, it seems to add a few minutes on to the trip, but a friend who is there drives instead through the off-freeway thoroughfares once the 125 goes toll, and says it’s not a bad compromise, so that would be the plan. to be honest, somewhere between 30-40 min away from eastlakd (the olympic training center in particular) would be fine by me. i’ll likely be there 3 days a week at most, so it’s not an every day thing.
thanks kindly for the zip code suggestions, i’ll have a look at the listings there more closely. the advice is much appreciated!