Proposed quarry near Temecula/Fallbrook and home values?

[DWCAP]

TG, my father finds nothing more relaxing than working his land. Battling the rabbits for control of the grass, “mustard gasing” (roundup) of the weeds, constant relocation/pruning of any yard inhabitant, maximizing green-land with a minimum of water…… He gets to play “war” and be the general. Unfornatually, when home I or my brother get to be “pfc workhorse”. My mother couldnt care less what he does with the yard as long as she doesnt have to help and gets fresh tomatoes and lemons most of the year.
Someday I have hopes to be promoted to general of my own little “battle ground”.

[Anonymous]

Ok, here is my perspective on marriage. I’d like to get married again because when my boys,11 and 15, are in college and then in their own careers and living on their own, I’d like someone to share my bed, home and life with. Here’s the thing though, the problem with me getting married right now is the likelihood that it would interfere with how I live my life with my children.

For instance, from time to time, my 11 year old will wake up in the middle of the night, look at me with his sleepy, beautiful brown eyes and say, “Mommy, I had a nightmare. Can I sleep in your bed?” My heart just melts and I say, “yes, come on, baby”. Now, I can’t have a man interfering with that. On Saturday nights that my boys are with me and not their father, it’s often movie night-when they’re not spending the nights at their friends’ houses, which is happening more and more often. On movies nights, we all jump on the couch, a blanket on the floor, or in my bed and watch movies and eat popcorn. That’s not going to change either.

It’s different when a man is not the father of your children. He doesn’t have the same feelings and he will likely see something like my above scenario as a irritation. OTOH, if the man is the child’s father it will be much less of an irritation because it’s his own child. That is the only reason I didn’t want to see my marriage end, even though I detested their father.

If I’m in a long-term relationship with a man and my kids and his kids leave home, marriage needs to be an option for us, or I can’t intertain that relationship. I think it will be hard to get used to living with a person. I need my space, he needs his and I don’t want someone always hanging on me. If you love the person though, it’s probably worth the effort of trying.

Another thing is, and I’ve talked about this before, I don’t want my residence put at risk if there is a divorce. To that end, if I and the guy I love decide to marry we will have to have agreements that the houses we bought before we married each other is off limits. If I had it before I married you and independent of you, It’s MINE. The man is getting NONE of it. If there is the unfortunate situation of a divorce, I’m going back to live in it.

Any of you girls on here share my view?

[Anonymous]

Ok, here is my perspective on marriage. I’d like to get married again because when my boys,11 and 15, are in college and then in their own careers and living on their own, I’d like someone to share my bed, home and life with. Here’s the thing though, the problem with me getting married right now is the likelihood that it would interfere with how I live my life with my children.

For instance, from time to time, my 11 year old will wake up in the middle of the night, look at me with his sleepy, beautiful brown eyes and say, “Mommy, I had a nightmare. Can I sleep in your bed?” My heart just melts and I say, “yes, come on, baby”. Now, I can’t have a man interfering with that. On Saturday nights that my boys are with me and not their father, it’s often movie night-when they’re not spending the nights at their friends’ houses, which is happening more and more often. On movies nights, we all jump on the couch, a blanket on the floor, or in my bed and watch movies and eat popcorn. That’s not going to change either.

It’s different when a man is not the father of your children. He doesn’t have the same feelings and he will likely see something like my above scenario as a irritation. OTOH, if the man is the child’s father it will be much less of an irritation because it’s his own child. That is the only reason I didn’t want to see my marriage end, even though I detested their father.

If I’m in a long-term relationship with a man and my kids and his kids leave home, marriage needs to be an option for us, or I can’t intertain that relationship. I think it will be hard to get used to living with a person. I need my space, he needs his and I don’t want someone always hanging on me. If you love the person though, it’s probably worth the effort of trying.

Another thing is, and I’ve talked about this before, I don’t want my residence put at risk if there is a divorce. To that end, if I and the guy I love decide to marry we will have to have agreements that the houses we bought before we married each other is off limits. If I had it before I married you and independent of you, It’s MINE. The man is getting NONE of it. If there is the unfortunate situation of a divorce, I’m going back to live in it.

Any of you girls on here share my view?

[Anonymous]

Ok, here is my perspective on marriage. I’d like to get married again because when my boys,11 and 15, are in college and then in their own careers and living on their own, I’d like someone to share my bed, home and life with. Here’s the thing though, the problem with me getting married right now is the likelihood that it would interfere with how I live my life with my children.

For instance, from time to time, my 11 year old will wake up in the middle of the night, look at me with his sleepy, beautiful brown eyes and say, “Mommy, I had a nightmare. Can I sleep in your bed?” My heart just melts and I say, “yes, come on, baby”. Now, I can’t have a man interfering with that. On Saturday nights that my boys are with me and not their father, it’s often movie night-when they’re not spending the nights at their friends’ houses, which is happening more and more often. On movies nights, we all jump on the couch, a blanket on the floor, or in my bed and watch movies and eat popcorn. That’s not going to change either.

It’s different when a man is not the father of your children. He doesn’t have the same feelings and he will likely see something like my above scenario as a irritation. OTOH, if the man is the child’s father it will be much less of an irritation because it’s his own child. That is the only reason I didn’t want to see my marriage end, even though I detested their father.

If I’m in a long-term relationship with a man and my kids and his kids leave home, marriage needs to be an option for us, or I can’t intertain that relationship. I think it will be hard to get used to living with a person. I need my space, he needs his and I don’t want someone always hanging on me. If you love the person though, it’s probably worth the effort of trying.

Another thing is, and I’ve talked about this before, I don’t want my residence put at risk if there is a divorce. To that end, if I and the guy I love decide to marry we will have to have agreements that the houses we bought before we married each other is off limits. If I had it before I married you and independent of you, It’s MINE. The man is getting NONE of it. If there is the unfortunate situation of a divorce, I’m going back to live in it.

Any of you girls on here share my view?

[Anonymous]

Ok, here is my perspective on marriage. I’d like to get married again because when my boys,11 and 15, are in college and then in their own careers and living on their own, I’d like someone to share my bed, home and life with. Here’s the thing though, the problem with me getting married right now is the likelihood that it would interfere with how I live my life with my children.

For instance, from time to time, my 11 year old will wake up in the middle of the night, look at me with his sleepy, beautiful brown eyes and say, “Mommy, I had a nightmare. Can I sleep in your bed?” My heart just melts and I say, “yes, come on, baby”. Now, I can’t have a man interfering with that. On Saturday nights that my boys are with me and not their father, it’s often movie night-when they’re not spending the nights at their friends’ houses, which is happening more and more often. On movies nights, we all jump on the couch, a blanket on the floor, or in my bed and watch movies and eat popcorn. That’s not going to change either.

It’s different when a man is not the father of your children. He doesn’t have the same feelings and he will likely see something like my above scenario as a irritation. OTOH, if the man is the child’s father it will be much less of an irritation because it’s his own child. That is the only reason I didn’t want to see my marriage end, even though I detested their father.

If I’m in a long-term relationship with a man and my kids and his kids leave home, marriage needs to be an option for us, or I can’t intertain that relationship. I think it will be hard to get used to living with a person. I need my space, he needs his and I don’t want someone always hanging on me. If you love the person though, it’s probably worth the effort of trying.

Another thing is, and I’ve talked about this before, I don’t want my residence put at risk if there is a divorce. To that end, if I and the guy I love decide to marry we will have to have agreements that the houses we bought before we married each other is off limits. If I had it before I married you and independent of you, It’s MINE. The man is getting NONE of it. If there is the unfortunate situation of a divorce, I’m going back to live in it.

Any of you girls on here share my view?

[Anonymous]

Ok, here is my perspective on marriage. I’d like to get married again because when my boys,11 and 15, are in college and then in their own careers and living on their own, I’d like someone to share my bed, home and life with. Here’s the thing though, the problem with me getting married right now is the likelihood that it would interfere with how I live my life with my children.

For instance, from time to time, my 11 year old will wake up in the middle of the night, look at me with his sleepy, beautiful brown eyes and say, “Mommy, I had a nightmare. Can I sleep in your bed?” My heart just melts and I say, “yes, come on, baby”. Now, I can’t have a man interfering with that. On Saturday nights that my boys are with me and not their father, it’s often movie night-when they’re not spending the nights at their friends’ houses, which is happening more and more often. On movies nights, we all jump on the couch, a blanket on the floor, or in my bed and watch movies and eat popcorn. That’s not going to change either.

It’s different when a man is not the father of your children. He doesn’t have the same feelings and he will likely see something like my above scenario as a irritation. OTOH, if the man is the child’s father it will be much less of an irritation because it’s his own child. That is the only reason I didn’t want to see my marriage end, even though I detested their father.

If I’m in a long-term relationship with a man and my kids and his kids leave home, marriage needs to be an option for us, or I can’t intertain that relationship. I think it will be hard to get used to living with a person. I need my space, he needs his and I don’t want someone always hanging on me. If you love the person though, it’s probably worth the effort of trying.

Another thing is, and I’ve talked about this before, I don’t want my residence put at risk if there is a divorce. To that end, if I and the guy I love decide to marry we will have to have agreements that the houses we bought before we married each other is off limits. If I had it before I married you and independent of you, It’s MINE. The man is getting NONE of it. If there is the unfortunate situation of a divorce, I’m going back to live in it.

Any of you girls on here share my view?

[dharmagirl]

marion,

if i had kids, i’d probably want to raise them myself. i think when you add another person to the mix it causes problems.

getting married does not mean you cant protect assets.

there is a simple tool that can be used to protect your assets – a trust. my best friend lives in a $4million coastal home and is married to husband #4. they’ve now been married for 12 years, and it’s solid. but he had almost nothing when they married. her trust owns everything. if she dies before him (unlikely), he would be able to live in HER house and drive his car (owned by her) until he dies. then, the rights of ownership would pass to her son and daughter.

people can be so stoooopid about love, marriage and money. but, if they weren’t the suze ormans of the world would be poor.

i married my 2nd husband three years ago, after an 8 yr marriage that failed.

i had about six years to myself after my divorce. I used that time to rebuild and get reacquainted with myself.

Getting married again was a HUGE adjustment for a while, but luckily, we’ve both got busy careers and are very independent. we’re pretty good about keeping each other honest.

i think the nicest thing about getting married later (I was 40) is that you know what you want, what your boundaries are, and how to deal with things that dont work for you. i was also very ‘intentional’ about finding a PARTNER.

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

i also dont think everyone in the world needs to get married. i married a military officer and, in that world, it’s easier to be married. if anything ever happened to my husband, i would NOT re-marry. i’d just buy a house in costa rica, create bad paintings, write mediocre poetry, and have a well-compensated pool boy.

and there you have it.

[dharmagirl]

marion,

if i had kids, i’d probably want to raise them myself. i think when you add another person to the mix it causes problems.

getting married does not mean you cant protect assets.

there is a simple tool that can be used to protect your assets – a trust. my best friend lives in a $4million coastal home and is married to husband #4. they’ve now been married for 12 years, and it’s solid. but he had almost nothing when they married. her trust owns everything. if she dies before him (unlikely), he would be able to live in HER house and drive his car (owned by her) until he dies. then, the rights of ownership would pass to her son and daughter.

people can be so stoooopid about love, marriage and money. but, if they weren’t the suze ormans of the world would be poor.

i married my 2nd husband three years ago, after an 8 yr marriage that failed.

i had about six years to myself after my divorce. I used that time to rebuild and get reacquainted with myself.

Getting married again was a HUGE adjustment for a while, but luckily, we’ve both got busy careers and are very independent. we’re pretty good about keeping each other honest.

i think the nicest thing about getting married later (I was 40) is that you know what you want, what your boundaries are, and how to deal with things that dont work for you. i was also very ‘intentional’ about finding a PARTNER.

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

i also dont think everyone in the world needs to get married. i married a military officer and, in that world, it’s easier to be married. if anything ever happened to my husband, i would NOT re-marry. i’d just buy a house in costa rica, create bad paintings, write mediocre poetry, and have a well-compensated pool boy.

and there you have it.

[dharmagirl]

marion,

if i had kids, i’d probably want to raise them myself. i think when you add another person to the mix it causes problems.

getting married does not mean you cant protect assets.

there is a simple tool that can be used to protect your assets – a trust. my best friend lives in a $4million coastal home and is married to husband #4. they’ve now been married for 12 years, and it’s solid. but he had almost nothing when they married. her trust owns everything. if she dies before him (unlikely), he would be able to live in HER house and drive his car (owned by her) until he dies. then, the rights of ownership would pass to her son and daughter.

people can be so stoooopid about love, marriage and money. but, if they weren’t the suze ormans of the world would be poor.

i married my 2nd husband three years ago, after an 8 yr marriage that failed.

i had about six years to myself after my divorce. I used that time to rebuild and get reacquainted with myself.

Getting married again was a HUGE adjustment for a while, but luckily, we’ve both got busy careers and are very independent. we’re pretty good about keeping each other honest.

i think the nicest thing about getting married later (I was 40) is that you know what you want, what your boundaries are, and how to deal with things that dont work for you. i was also very ‘intentional’ about finding a PARTNER.

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

i also dont think everyone in the world needs to get married. i married a military officer and, in that world, it’s easier to be married. if anything ever happened to my husband, i would NOT re-marry. i’d just buy a house in costa rica, create bad paintings, write mediocre poetry, and have a well-compensated pool boy.

and there you have it.

[dharmagirl]

marion,

if i had kids, i’d probably want to raise them myself. i think when you add another person to the mix it causes problems.

getting married does not mean you cant protect assets.

there is a simple tool that can be used to protect your assets – a trust. my best friend lives in a $4million coastal home and is married to husband #4. they’ve now been married for 12 years, and it’s solid. but he had almost nothing when they married. her trust owns everything. if she dies before him (unlikely), he would be able to live in HER house and drive his car (owned by her) until he dies. then, the rights of ownership would pass to her son and daughter.

people can be so stoooopid about love, marriage and money. but, if they weren’t the suze ormans of the world would be poor.

i married my 2nd husband three years ago, after an 8 yr marriage that failed.

i had about six years to myself after my divorce. I used that time to rebuild and get reacquainted with myself.

Getting married again was a HUGE adjustment for a while, but luckily, we’ve both got busy careers and are very independent. we’re pretty good about keeping each other honest.

i think the nicest thing about getting married later (I was 40) is that you know what you want, what your boundaries are, and how to deal with things that dont work for you. i was also very ‘intentional’ about finding a PARTNER.

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

i also dont think everyone in the world needs to get married. i married a military officer and, in that world, it’s easier to be married. if anything ever happened to my husband, i would NOT re-marry. i’d just buy a house in costa rica, create bad paintings, write mediocre poetry, and have a well-compensated pool boy.

and there you have it.

[dharmagirl]

marion,

if i had kids, i’d probably want to raise them myself. i think when you add another person to the mix it causes problems.

getting married does not mean you cant protect assets.

there is a simple tool that can be used to protect your assets – a trust. my best friend lives in a $4million coastal home and is married to husband #4. they’ve now been married for 12 years, and it’s solid. but he had almost nothing when they married. her trust owns everything. if she dies before him (unlikely), he would be able to live in HER house and drive his car (owned by her) until he dies. then, the rights of ownership would pass to her son and daughter.

people can be so stoooopid about love, marriage and money. but, if they weren’t the suze ormans of the world would be poor.

i married my 2nd husband three years ago, after an 8 yr marriage that failed.

i had about six years to myself after my divorce. I used that time to rebuild and get reacquainted with myself.

Getting married again was a HUGE adjustment for a while, but luckily, we’ve both got busy careers and are very independent. we’re pretty good about keeping each other honest.

i think the nicest thing about getting married later (I was 40) is that you know what you want, what your boundaries are, and how to deal with things that dont work for you. i was also very ‘intentional’ about finding a PARTNER.

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

i also dont think everyone in the world needs to get married. i married a military officer and, in that world, it’s easier to be married. if anything ever happened to my husband, i would NOT re-marry. i’d just buy a house in costa rica, create bad paintings, write mediocre poetry, and have a well-compensated pool boy.

and there you have it.

[Anonymous]

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

Dharma, I agee with the above but am of the opinion that values and a belief system is often blurred. Attractiveness and compatibility are also very important. Physical attractiveness much less so because when/if love kicks in, that perception is no longer static. Compatibility being at the top of the list because if two people can’t get along it doesn’t matter what else they share.

About marriage, although it’s something I presently think I’d like to do, it’s still scary to me. I like to think positive in terms of it being something I can do in the future, but as I said before it can be a hard thing.

All in all, if compatibility in most things are present, I guess it depends on how much two people want to do it. When the sex is hot that helps, right? haha! 🙂

Really going off topic here, but somehow we got off on marriage and relationships. One comment about physical appearance. In any relationship between a man a woman, people will change, wrinkles and men lose hair. So someone getting less attractive in terms of physical appearance should be something that you cope with. However, some things for me would be hard to cope with. For instance if a man becomes a “balloon”. This may be a little crass, but I’m going to be direct: I can’t handle 300 pounds on top of me. In that situation I’ll still love the person, but…

[Anonymous]

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

Dharma, I agee with the above but am of the opinion that values and a belief system is often blurred. Attractiveness and compatibility are also very important. Physical attractiveness much less so because when/if love kicks in, that perception is no longer static. Compatibility being at the top of the list because if two people can’t get along it doesn’t matter what else they share.

About marriage, although it’s something I presently think I’d like to do, it’s still scary to me. I like to think positive in terms of it being something I can do in the future, but as I said before it can be a hard thing.

All in all, if compatibility in most things are present, I guess it depends on how much two people want to do it. When the sex is hot that helps, right? haha! 🙂

Really going off topic here, but somehow we got off on marriage and relationships. One comment about physical appearance. In any relationship between a man a woman, people will change, wrinkles and men lose hair. So someone getting less attractive in terms of physical appearance should be something that you cope with. However, some things for me would be hard to cope with. For instance if a man becomes a “balloon”. This may be a little crass, but I’m going to be direct: I can’t handle 300 pounds on top of me. In that situation I’ll still love the person, but…

[Anonymous]

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

Dharma, I agee with the above but am of the opinion that values and a belief system is often blurred. Attractiveness and compatibility are also very important. Physical attractiveness much less so because when/if love kicks in, that perception is no longer static. Compatibility being at the top of the list because if two people can’t get along it doesn’t matter what else they share.

About marriage, although it’s something I presently think I’d like to do, it’s still scary to me. I like to think positive in terms of it being something I can do in the future, but as I said before it can be a hard thing.

All in all, if compatibility in most things are present, I guess it depends on how much two people want to do it. When the sex is hot that helps, right? haha! 🙂

Really going off topic here, but somehow we got off on marriage and relationships. One comment about physical appearance. In any relationship between a man a woman, people will change, wrinkles and men lose hair. So someone getting less attractive in terms of physical appearance should be something that you cope with. However, some things for me would be hard to cope with. For instance if a man becomes a “balloon”. This may be a little crass, but I’m going to be direct: I can’t handle 300 pounds on top of me. In that situation I’ll still love the person, but…

[Anonymous]

years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.

Dharma, I agee with the above but am of the opinion that values and a belief system is often blurred. Attractiveness and compatibility are also very important. Physical attractiveness much less so because when/if love kicks in, that perception is no longer static. Compatibility being at the top of the list because if two people can’t get along it doesn’t matter what else they share.

About marriage, although it’s something I presently think I’d like to do, it’s still scary to me. I like to think positive in terms of it being something I can do in the future, but as I said before it can be a hard thing.

All in all, if compatibility in most things are present, I guess it depends on how much two people want to do it. When the sex is hot that helps, right? haha! 🙂

Really going off topic here, but somehow we got off on marriage and relationships. One comment about physical appearance. In any relationship between a man a woman, people will change, wrinkles and men lose hair. So someone getting less attractive in terms of physical appearance should be something that you cope with. However, some things for me would be hard to cope with. For instance if a man becomes a “balloon”. This may be a little crass, but I’m going to be direct: I can’t handle 300 pounds on top of me. In that situation I’ll still love the person, but…

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