[OT] WSJ: “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”

[sdrealtor]

[quote=Diego Mamani][quote=sdrealtor]When they come home I go through their back-packs[/quote] I’m sot sure I understood that part…[/quote]

DM
They are 7 and 11 years old. When they come home we pull out their homework folders and go through the work that was graded and returned to them. There are folders that come home with flyers that come home almost everyday(fundraisers, field trips, extracuricular programs, teacher weekly letters etc) and things I need to sign so they can return them to their teachers. Most graded assignments at their school have to be signed by a parent and given back to the teacher to ensure they were shown to the parents. I’m not snooping on them, I’m doing what just about every parent does with their kids at our school and likely our school district. I suspect most elementary school kids parents do the same.

I will say that I do alot less of this with my 11 year old now. He has a a daily planner (provided by the district) for keeping track of his assignments. At this point with him, I pretty much say you know what you need to do and if you dont its your problem. If a child isnt self motivated and doesnt have good study habits by 5th grade its not easy to instill that anymore. I can clearly see the distractions about to pile on. When I pick them up at school each afternoon, he just started walking 20 yards behind me with his friends on the way home. While I am saddened by him starting to pull away, I am far more proud of the independence he is starting to develope and the respect he is earning from me in doing so.

sdr

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Stradivarius]

[quote-sdduuuude]
Coincidence ?
I think not.
Welcome Stradivarius. That’s a great post !
As many said the word “balance” applies here.
You’ll have to excuse my Chinese friend FLU. He does ALOT of Asian-bashing due to his lack of socail skills. Odd thing is – he is a crappy violin player as well. Not sure what to think about that. [/quote]

Thanks for the welcome (from everyone else, also)…I actually used to post a little around 2007 when my friends and Realtor were telling me to buy a house and I kept telling them that things weren’t adding up. I even made a spreadsheet, until I discovered Rich’s spreadsheets and his are way better than mine. Most of the time I just lurk, and I definitely don’t take any offense to FLU’s Asian-bashing–it’s pretty entertaining, and usually quite accurate.

BTW, I tried to go to a lecture at UCSD Neuroscience Institute tonight. It was called “Rhythm–the brain and a drum”, given by two neurologists and a percussionist. I showed up 10 minutes early and it was already sold out. I should have known it would fill up quickly, as UCSD is filled with Asian scientists whose mothers made them play a musical instrument.

[Coronita]

[quote=Stradivarius][quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.[/quote]

Though I’m sure you don’t need a non-doctor person asking a doctor person if you considered something……….

Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that.

[Coronita]

[quote=Stradivarius][quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.[/quote]

Though I’m sure you don’t need a non-doctor person asking a doctor person if you considered something……….

Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that.

[Coronita]

[quote=Stradivarius][quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.[/quote]

Though I’m sure you don’t need a non-doctor person asking a doctor person if you considered something……….

Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that.

[Coronita]

[quote=Stradivarius][quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.[/quote]

Though I’m sure you don’t need a non-doctor person asking a doctor person if you considered something……….

Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that.

[Coronita]

[quote=Stradivarius][quote] Stradivarius, About the thick glasses…since you are a doctor, do you have a medical opinion against corrective surgery ? [/quote]

I have nothing against refractive surgery for good candidates. I went for consultation about 9 months ago, and I just don’t qualify for LASIK in one eye (cornea too thin). I do qualify for phakic IOL but since it has only had approval in this country since 2003, I’m not ready to do it yet, personally. But it’s all risk:benefit. If at some point I can’t wear contact lenses comfortably, certainly I would consider it. But for now my eyes are healthy (near-sightedness is not pathology), so I’m not fixing it if it ain’t broke.[/quote]

Though I’m sure you don’t need a non-doctor person asking a doctor person if you considered something……….

Have you considered cornea reshaping? I know of a few folks that had good results with them. I think it’s called Orthokeratology or something like that.

[jpinpb]

I’m glad to hear that CAR and sdr have achieved a good balance in raising their children. I think that is ideal and if I had kids, I’d to my best to do that, as well. I really don’t agree w/the model in the article.

I actually feel bad for those who compete against each other. It’s all about appearances and I think they are losing sight of many important things that matter besides material things. The drive to have an image of success, to me, many times is a facade.

Back maybe 30 years ago, if someone had, say, a Mercedes, well, then, you think that person has money. Today, whenever I see an expensive car, I just think that person has a lot of debt. It is not impressive to me. And I think many times that is one of the purposes of some people is to get a car to impress. I think they are fooling themselves.

[jpinpb]

I’m glad to hear that CAR and sdr have achieved a good balance in raising their children. I think that is ideal and if I had kids, I’d to my best to do that, as well. I really don’t agree w/the model in the article.

I actually feel bad for those who compete against each other. It’s all about appearances and I think they are losing sight of many important things that matter besides material things. The drive to have an image of success, to me, many times is a facade.

Back maybe 30 years ago, if someone had, say, a Mercedes, well, then, you think that person has money. Today, whenever I see an expensive car, I just think that person has a lot of debt. It is not impressive to me. And I think many times that is one of the purposes of some people is to get a car to impress. I think they are fooling themselves.

[jpinpb]

I’m glad to hear that CAR and sdr have achieved a good balance in raising their children. I think that is ideal and if I had kids, I’d to my best to do that, as well. I really don’t agree w/the model in the article.

I actually feel bad for those who compete against each other. It’s all about appearances and I think they are losing sight of many important things that matter besides material things. The drive to have an image of success, to me, many times is a facade.

Back maybe 30 years ago, if someone had, say, a Mercedes, well, then, you think that person has money. Today, whenever I see an expensive car, I just think that person has a lot of debt. It is not impressive to me. And I think many times that is one of the purposes of some people is to get a car to impress. I think they are fooling themselves.

[jpinpb]

I’m glad to hear that CAR and sdr have achieved a good balance in raising their children. I think that is ideal and if I had kids, I’d to my best to do that, as well. I really don’t agree w/the model in the article.

I actually feel bad for those who compete against each other. It’s all about appearances and I think they are losing sight of many important things that matter besides material things. The drive to have an image of success, to me, many times is a facade.

Back maybe 30 years ago, if someone had, say, a Mercedes, well, then, you think that person has money. Today, whenever I see an expensive car, I just think that person has a lot of debt. It is not impressive to me. And I think many times that is one of the purposes of some people is to get a car to impress. I think they are fooling themselves.

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