OT: Paying Kids For Grades in HS

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[quote=meadandale]I know parents who pay their kids for every little thing they do: take out the trash, mow the lawn, clean the toilet. Guess what happens when the money isn’t a motivator anymore (e.g. they have enough and would rather not do the work)? They tell their parents to (politely) piss off. What are you gonna do then?[/quote]

We just started doing this with our 7 year olds and it is excellent. They always volunteer or try to beat each other to doing chores. They also learn to manage money.

My goal, always and forever, is to make my kids independent from me. That underlying principle drives everything I do with my kids.

At any age, if the money isn’t a motivator anymore, then one of three things has happened:

1) They have worked hard and gotten all the money the need, which is a good thing.
2) They have figured out how to live with less, which is a good thing.
3) They have found a different way to make more money than I am paying them, another good thing.

In these cases, I have many options depending on their age. I can find harder jobs that pay more, stop buying them food, ask that they pay rent, ask that they pay for things I usually paid for in the past, kick them out of the house, etc.

You can always make money a motivator by not spoiling them in the first place.

Money is always a motivator if you are free to spend it yourself. Kids get a taste of the freedom associated with spending their own money and they are hooked forever.

[meadandale]

[quote=svelte]
You do work, don’t you? And I assume you expect to be paid for that work?[/quote]

That’s called “a job”. This is called “school”.

And, yes I get paid but if I do a super special A++ job I don’t get more money…I just get to keep my job. The high performance is expected.

[meadandale]

[quote=svelte]
You do work, don’t you? And I assume you expect to be paid for that work?[/quote]

That’s called “a job”. This is called “school”.

And, yes I get paid but if I do a super special A++ job I don’t get more money…I just get to keep my job. The high performance is expected.

[meadandale]

[quote=svelte]
You do work, don’t you? And I assume you expect to be paid for that work?[/quote]

That’s called “a job”. This is called “school”.

And, yes I get paid but if I do a super special A++ job I don’t get more money…I just get to keep my job. The high performance is expected.

[meadandale]

[quote=svelte]
You do work, don’t you? And I assume you expect to be paid for that work?[/quote]

That’s called “a job”. This is called “school”.

And, yes I get paid but if I do a super special A++ job I don’t get more money…I just get to keep my job. The high performance is expected.

[meadandale]

[quote=svelte]
You do work, don’t you? And I assume you expect to be paid for that work?[/quote]

That’s called “a job”. This is called “school”.

And, yes I get paid but if I do a super special A++ job I don’t get more money…I just get to keep my job. The high performance is expected.

[scaredyclassic]

then colleges that give scholarships are really perverting the stduents. why should the student be compensated for exceelent performance with cash or subsidy. perhaps the excellent student should ahve to pay more udner your theory since they are getting so much more from the schooling.

All publc schools are a monotonous grind. that’s the nature of the beast today. welcome my son, wlcome, to the machine…there is no good publci option.

[scaredyclassic]

then colleges that give scholarships are really perverting the stduents. why should the student be compensated for exceelent performance with cash or subsidy. perhaps the excellent student should ahve to pay more udner your theory since they are getting so much more from the schooling.

All publc schools are a monotonous grind. that’s the nature of the beast today. welcome my son, wlcome, to the machine…there is no good publci option.

[scaredyclassic]

then colleges that give scholarships are really perverting the stduents. why should the student be compensated for exceelent performance with cash or subsidy. perhaps the excellent student should ahve to pay more udner your theory since they are getting so much more from the schooling.

All publc schools are a monotonous grind. that’s the nature of the beast today. welcome my son, wlcome, to the machine…there is no good publci option.

[scaredyclassic]

then colleges that give scholarships are really perverting the stduents. why should the student be compensated for exceelent performance with cash or subsidy. perhaps the excellent student should ahve to pay more udner your theory since they are getting so much more from the schooling.

All publc schools are a monotonous grind. that’s the nature of the beast today. welcome my son, wlcome, to the machine…there is no good publci option.

[scaredyclassic]

then colleges that give scholarships are really perverting the stduents. why should the student be compensated for exceelent performance with cash or subsidy. perhaps the excellent student should ahve to pay more udner your theory since they are getting so much more from the schooling.

All publc schools are a monotonous grind. that’s the nature of the beast today. welcome my son, wlcome, to the machine…there is no good publci option.

[propertysearchaddiction]

The difference between Sizzler(and I would upgrade the restaurant) and $20 per A or whatever…is a simple reward of congratulations(you feed them anyway) vs teaching kids you get money for doing what is expected of them.

In the real world you get money when you have a job or create a business not for going to school. In fact most people go into debt for going to more school.

My husband and I were talking about how many classes truly are meaningless in school. By the time you get to H.S. you figure this out.

He may be ready to figure out a career path and start learning things that actually apply to his future career idea. Unfortunately, even when we find our passion we still have to do things we don’t want to(like go to school, if that is what you expect). It is called the real world and a great lesson to learn.

[propertysearchaddiction]

The difference between Sizzler(and I would upgrade the restaurant) and $20 per A or whatever…is a simple reward of congratulations(you feed them anyway) vs teaching kids you get money for doing what is expected of them.

In the real world you get money when you have a job or create a business not for going to school. In fact most people go into debt for going to more school.

My husband and I were talking about how many classes truly are meaningless in school. By the time you get to H.S. you figure this out.

He may be ready to figure out a career path and start learning things that actually apply to his future career idea. Unfortunately, even when we find our passion we still have to do things we don’t want to(like go to school, if that is what you expect). It is called the real world and a great lesson to learn.

[propertysearchaddiction]

The difference between Sizzler(and I would upgrade the restaurant) and $20 per A or whatever…is a simple reward of congratulations(you feed them anyway) vs teaching kids you get money for doing what is expected of them.

In the real world you get money when you have a job or create a business not for going to school. In fact most people go into debt for going to more school.

My husband and I were talking about how many classes truly are meaningless in school. By the time you get to H.S. you figure this out.

He may be ready to figure out a career path and start learning things that actually apply to his future career idea. Unfortunately, even when we find our passion we still have to do things we don’t want to(like go to school, if that is what you expect). It is called the real world and a great lesson to learn.

[propertysearchaddiction]

The difference between Sizzler(and I would upgrade the restaurant) and $20 per A or whatever…is a simple reward of congratulations(you feed them anyway) vs teaching kids you get money for doing what is expected of them.

In the real world you get money when you have a job or create a business not for going to school. In fact most people go into debt for going to more school.

My husband and I were talking about how many classes truly are meaningless in school. By the time you get to H.S. you figure this out.

He may be ready to figure out a career path and start learning things that actually apply to his future career idea. Unfortunately, even when we find our passion we still have to do things we don’t want to(like go to school, if that is what you expect). It is called the real world and a great lesson to learn.

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