OT: Lawyers: Whoo Hoo!

[Bugs]

Marion,

Exercising your rights is one thing. Engaging in trench warfare is something else entirely.

I’ve been through a divorce and a custody hassle, and the one thing I can tell you is that the term “living well is the best revenge” is 100% true, especially when it comes to the kids. Your kids will each turn 16 one day, at which point they will be able to make their own decisions with respect to custody and lifestyles. And make no mistake, when that time comes they will gravitate to the parent who can help them solve their problems, not the one who causes all the problems.

My ex relied on the legal system to get what she wanted and she ultimately ended up alone and pissed off. I gave her everything she wanted without fighting it, and I ended up with the hearts and minds. She’s not a bad person by any means, but she lost sight of the big picture and now she’s paying for it.

Each of my kids left my ex at their first opportunity (between 15-16), and came into my household to grow up. My ex couldn’t stop them, even though she was convinced that I am the Devil incarnate.

I guess what I’m saying is that regardless of what happens over the next 6 or 7 years there will be another 40 years after that in which you’ll have to live with your decisions. As angry as you are at this moment you shouldn’t allow it to cloud your judgement or infringe on your long term goals.

[gn]

[quote=marion]
If I have to direct my attorney to throw them under a bus, so be it. I have unleashed him on them and I have no regrets. Sorry.

That’s what attorney’s do. That’s what I’m paying him for. I am his client and his job is to protect me and the best interests of my children.

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Someone once told me this:

In divorce cases, lawyers do their best to encourage/maximize the level of contempt/hatred between the 2 sides. This translates into more “fighting” which, in turn, means more “billable hours”.

Divorce lawyers understand that, in the midst of battles, people are irrational, they just want to win, at all costs.

Only after the dust have settled, people will realize that it’s the lawyers (on both sides) that win.

[gn]

[quote=marion]
If I have to direct my attorney to throw them under a bus, so be it. I have unleashed him on them and I have no regrets. Sorry.

That’s what attorney’s do. That’s what I’m paying him for. I am his client and his job is to protect me and the best interests of my children.

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Someone once told me this:

In divorce cases, lawyers do their best to encourage/maximize the level of contempt/hatred between the 2 sides. This translates into more “fighting” which, in turn, means more “billable hours”.

Divorce lawyers understand that, in the midst of battles, people are irrational, they just want to win, at all costs.

Only after the dust have settled, people will realize that it’s the lawyers (on both sides) that win.

[gn]

[quote=marion]
If I have to direct my attorney to throw them under a bus, so be it. I have unleashed him on them and I have no regrets. Sorry.

That’s what attorney’s do. That’s what I’m paying him for. I am his client and his job is to protect me and the best interests of my children.

[/quote]

Someone once told me this:

In divorce cases, lawyers do their best to encourage/maximize the level of contempt/hatred between the 2 sides. This translates into more “fighting” which, in turn, means more “billable hours”.

Divorce lawyers understand that, in the midst of battles, people are irrational, they just want to win, at all costs.

Only after the dust have settled, people will realize that it’s the lawyers (on both sides) that win.

[gn]

[quote=marion]
If I have to direct my attorney to throw them under a bus, so be it. I have unleashed him on them and I have no regrets. Sorry.

That’s what attorney’s do. That’s what I’m paying him for. I am his client and his job is to protect me and the best interests of my children.

[/quote]

Someone once told me this:

In divorce cases, lawyers do their best to encourage/maximize the level of contempt/hatred between the 2 sides. This translates into more “fighting” which, in turn, means more “billable hours”.

Divorce lawyers understand that, in the midst of battles, people are irrational, they just want to win, at all costs.

Only after the dust have settled, people will realize that it’s the lawyers (on both sides) that win.

[gn]

[quote=marion]
If I have to direct my attorney to throw them under a bus, so be it. I have unleashed him on them and I have no regrets. Sorry.

That’s what attorney’s do. That’s what I’m paying him for. I am his client and his job is to protect me and the best interests of my children.

[/quote]

Someone once told me this:

In divorce cases, lawyers do their best to encourage/maximize the level of contempt/hatred between the 2 sides. This translates into more “fighting” which, in turn, means more “billable hours”.

Divorce lawyers understand that, in the midst of battles, people are irrational, they just want to win, at all costs.

Only after the dust have settled, people will realize that it’s the lawyers (on both sides) that win.

[PCinSD]

Wow Marion, your sisters are taking your ex-husband’s side? Why would they do that? Have you previously enjoyed a good relationship with them? What kind of statements did they make against you? Do your sisters have a good relationship with your kids? If I recall, your ex wanted to decrease the amount of support he was paying. Now he wants full custody of the kids? What a jerk. Don’t let him get away with it!

Well, it sounds like you’ve hired the perfect attorney for the job. Follow his advice and I’m sure everything will turn out just fine. You can win this!

[PCinSD]

Wow Marion, your sisters are taking your ex-husband’s side? Why would they do that? Have you previously enjoyed a good relationship with them? What kind of statements did they make against you? Do your sisters have a good relationship with your kids? If I recall, your ex wanted to decrease the amount of support he was paying. Now he wants full custody of the kids? What a jerk. Don’t let him get away with it!

Well, it sounds like you’ve hired the perfect attorney for the job. Follow his advice and I’m sure everything will turn out just fine. You can win this!

[PCinSD]

Wow Marion, your sisters are taking your ex-husband’s side? Why would they do that? Have you previously enjoyed a good relationship with them? What kind of statements did they make against you? Do your sisters have a good relationship with your kids? If I recall, your ex wanted to decrease the amount of support he was paying. Now he wants full custody of the kids? What a jerk. Don’t let him get away with it!

Well, it sounds like you’ve hired the perfect attorney for the job. Follow his advice and I’m sure everything will turn out just fine. You can win this!

[PCinSD]

Wow Marion, your sisters are taking your ex-husband’s side? Why would they do that? Have you previously enjoyed a good relationship with them? What kind of statements did they make against you? Do your sisters have a good relationship with your kids? If I recall, your ex wanted to decrease the amount of support he was paying. Now he wants full custody of the kids? What a jerk. Don’t let him get away with it!

Well, it sounds like you’ve hired the perfect attorney for the job. Follow his advice and I’m sure everything will turn out just fine. You can win this!

[PCinSD]

Wow Marion, your sisters are taking your ex-husband’s side? Why would they do that? Have you previously enjoyed a good relationship with them? What kind of statements did they make against you? Do your sisters have a good relationship with your kids? If I recall, your ex wanted to decrease the amount of support he was paying. Now he wants full custody of the kids? What a jerk. Don’t let him get away with it!

Well, it sounds like you’ve hired the perfect attorney for the job. Follow his advice and I’m sure everything will turn out just fine. You can win this!

[TemekuT]

Well written, Bugs. You reap what you sow, or as I prefer to think of it, you invent the future that you want to face.

My own divorce was amicable because we (ex & I) kept our issues private and worked towards the common good of our daughter. The reward is a peaceful relationship with my ex that allows my daughter to feel safe with either parent and new spouses. BTW, she is 31 now, loves her stepfather and stepmother, and knows she can talk about either parent in front of the other and that both sets of parents can be in the other’s homes for a drink!

[TemekuT]

Well written, Bugs. You reap what you sow, or as I prefer to think of it, you invent the future that you want to face.

My own divorce was amicable because we (ex & I) kept our issues private and worked towards the common good of our daughter. The reward is a peaceful relationship with my ex that allows my daughter to feel safe with either parent and new spouses. BTW, she is 31 now, loves her stepfather and stepmother, and knows she can talk about either parent in front of the other and that both sets of parents can be in the other’s homes for a drink!

[TemekuT]

Well written, Bugs. You reap what you sow, or as I prefer to think of it, you invent the future that you want to face.

My own divorce was amicable because we (ex & I) kept our issues private and worked towards the common good of our daughter. The reward is a peaceful relationship with my ex that allows my daughter to feel safe with either parent and new spouses. BTW, she is 31 now, loves her stepfather and stepmother, and knows she can talk about either parent in front of the other and that both sets of parents can be in the other’s homes for a drink!

[TemekuT]

Well written, Bugs. You reap what you sow, or as I prefer to think of it, you invent the future that you want to face.

My own divorce was amicable because we (ex & I) kept our issues private and worked towards the common good of our daughter. The reward is a peaceful relationship with my ex that allows my daughter to feel safe with either parent and new spouses. BTW, she is 31 now, loves her stepfather and stepmother, and knows she can talk about either parent in front of the other and that both sets of parents can be in the other’s homes for a drink!

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