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January 31, 2009 at 1:19 AM #339745January 31, 2009 at 9:22 AM #339287seattle-reloParticipant
I encourage you to stick with whatever conditions or limits you and your husband feel is appropriate and decide to make upfront (be it some amount of rent, chores, seeking out school/work). Also you mentioned that there are addiction issues. With that in mind, it could be helpful for you to attend a couple of alanon meetings just to get a better sense of how deeply powerful addiction can be and ways for you and your family to continue to be supportive, yet firm about the ways in which you can help him that will promote sobriety, personal responsibility, and healing.
Good luck to you!
January 31, 2009 at 9:22 AM #339613seattle-reloParticipantI encourage you to stick with whatever conditions or limits you and your husband feel is appropriate and decide to make upfront (be it some amount of rent, chores, seeking out school/work). Also you mentioned that there are addiction issues. With that in mind, it could be helpful for you to attend a couple of alanon meetings just to get a better sense of how deeply powerful addiction can be and ways for you and your family to continue to be supportive, yet firm about the ways in which you can help him that will promote sobriety, personal responsibility, and healing.
Good luck to you!
January 31, 2009 at 9:22 AM #339709seattle-reloParticipantI encourage you to stick with whatever conditions or limits you and your husband feel is appropriate and decide to make upfront (be it some amount of rent, chores, seeking out school/work). Also you mentioned that there are addiction issues. With that in mind, it could be helpful for you to attend a couple of alanon meetings just to get a better sense of how deeply powerful addiction can be and ways for you and your family to continue to be supportive, yet firm about the ways in which you can help him that will promote sobriety, personal responsibility, and healing.
Good luck to you!
January 31, 2009 at 9:22 AM #339736seattle-reloParticipantI encourage you to stick with whatever conditions or limits you and your husband feel is appropriate and decide to make upfront (be it some amount of rent, chores, seeking out school/work). Also you mentioned that there are addiction issues. With that in mind, it could be helpful for you to attend a couple of alanon meetings just to get a better sense of how deeply powerful addiction can be and ways for you and your family to continue to be supportive, yet firm about the ways in which you can help him that will promote sobriety, personal responsibility, and healing.
Good luck to you!
January 31, 2009 at 9:22 AM #339830seattle-reloParticipantI encourage you to stick with whatever conditions or limits you and your husband feel is appropriate and decide to make upfront (be it some amount of rent, chores, seeking out school/work). Also you mentioned that there are addiction issues. With that in mind, it could be helpful for you to attend a couple of alanon meetings just to get a better sense of how deeply powerful addiction can be and ways for you and your family to continue to be supportive, yet firm about the ways in which you can help him that will promote sobriety, personal responsibility, and healing.
Good luck to you!
January 31, 2009 at 1:48 PM #339337RicechexParticipantJust something else to note: If you want the person out after a few months and he refuses to leave, it may be difficult. Once someone moves in and has mail delivered to the house for 30-60 days, he has squatter’s rights and you would have to legally evict him if he refuses to go.
January 31, 2009 at 1:48 PM #339664RicechexParticipantJust something else to note: If you want the person out after a few months and he refuses to leave, it may be difficult. Once someone moves in and has mail delivered to the house for 30-60 days, he has squatter’s rights and you would have to legally evict him if he refuses to go.
January 31, 2009 at 1:48 PM #339759RicechexParticipantJust something else to note: If you want the person out after a few months and he refuses to leave, it may be difficult. Once someone moves in and has mail delivered to the house for 30-60 days, he has squatter’s rights and you would have to legally evict him if he refuses to go.
January 31, 2009 at 1:48 PM #339786RicechexParticipantJust something else to note: If you want the person out after a few months and he refuses to leave, it may be difficult. Once someone moves in and has mail delivered to the house for 30-60 days, he has squatter’s rights and you would have to legally evict him if he refuses to go.
January 31, 2009 at 1:48 PM #339880RicechexParticipantJust something else to note: If you want the person out after a few months and he refuses to leave, it may be difficult. Once someone moves in and has mail delivered to the house for 30-60 days, he has squatter’s rights and you would have to legally evict him if he refuses to go.
January 31, 2009 at 4:03 PM #339397CBadParticipantWow. I’m really glad I posted this. I didn’t even consider renter or yikes, squatter’s rights! I mean I know this will likely never come up but you never know. Ok, that’s something I need to look into. I also liked the suggestions of attending a couple alanon meetings and writing our agreement down.
To answer some questions, I have 3 girls. And I am fiercely protective of them. This is the reason behind the no friend rule. I work from home and will not leave them alone with this person. I would never in a million years think this person would do anything to harm my girls but have you ever noticed that’s what everyone says when a family member molests their child? I just don’t take any chances.
I do not have a guest room. I’ll be giving him one of my girls’ rooms and they’ll be sharing.
January 31, 2009 at 4:03 PM #339723CBadParticipantWow. I’m really glad I posted this. I didn’t even consider renter or yikes, squatter’s rights! I mean I know this will likely never come up but you never know. Ok, that’s something I need to look into. I also liked the suggestions of attending a couple alanon meetings and writing our agreement down.
To answer some questions, I have 3 girls. And I am fiercely protective of them. This is the reason behind the no friend rule. I work from home and will not leave them alone with this person. I would never in a million years think this person would do anything to harm my girls but have you ever noticed that’s what everyone says when a family member molests their child? I just don’t take any chances.
I do not have a guest room. I’ll be giving him one of my girls’ rooms and they’ll be sharing.
January 31, 2009 at 4:03 PM #339819CBadParticipantWow. I’m really glad I posted this. I didn’t even consider renter or yikes, squatter’s rights! I mean I know this will likely never come up but you never know. Ok, that’s something I need to look into. I also liked the suggestions of attending a couple alanon meetings and writing our agreement down.
To answer some questions, I have 3 girls. And I am fiercely protective of them. This is the reason behind the no friend rule. I work from home and will not leave them alone with this person. I would never in a million years think this person would do anything to harm my girls but have you ever noticed that’s what everyone says when a family member molests their child? I just don’t take any chances.
I do not have a guest room. I’ll be giving him one of my girls’ rooms and they’ll be sharing.
January 31, 2009 at 4:03 PM #339846CBadParticipantWow. I’m really glad I posted this. I didn’t even consider renter or yikes, squatter’s rights! I mean I know this will likely never come up but you never know. Ok, that’s something I need to look into. I also liked the suggestions of attending a couple alanon meetings and writing our agreement down.
To answer some questions, I have 3 girls. And I am fiercely protective of them. This is the reason behind the no friend rule. I work from home and will not leave them alone with this person. I would never in a million years think this person would do anything to harm my girls but have you ever noticed that’s what everyone says when a family member molests their child? I just don’t take any chances.
I do not have a guest room. I’ll be giving him one of my girls’ rooms and they’ll be sharing.
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