Neighborliness

[Casca]

Do you use a good deodorant soap?

Actually, it takes all kinds, and depending on where you are on this big blue marble, you find more of one kind than the other.

[UCGal]

Two thoughts:

– 50 years ago (or more) houses had front porches and no AC – so people would hang on the porch and say high to their neighbors. Then the fenced backyard patio culture took over… People now congregate in the backyard and don’t interact with their neighbors.

– kids/dogs help form bridges to the neighbors. But we don’t let our kids run loose in the neighborhood or play in front yards or the street anymore… so it takes more effort, outside activities, or school interaction for the kids to meet/forge bonds… and drag their parents into interactions with their friend’s parents.

I live in the neighborhood I grew up in. When I was a kid all the kids in the neighborhood played out front. Cars did NOT go 35 mph down our dead end street. Its dangerous for kids to play out front. But the dogs and their owners are still the glue that makes for neighborliness. I know all of the local dog walkers and chat with them. It helps that many are the parents of kids I was friends with growing up. (Advantage of buying in the same hood I grew up in.)

[UCGal]

Two thoughts:

– 50 years ago (or more) houses had front porches and no AC – so people would hang on the porch and say high to their neighbors. Then the fenced backyard patio culture took over… People now congregate in the backyard and don’t interact with their neighbors.

– kids/dogs help form bridges to the neighbors. But we don’t let our kids run loose in the neighborhood or play in front yards or the street anymore… so it takes more effort, outside activities, or school interaction for the kids to meet/forge bonds… and drag their parents into interactions with their friend’s parents.

I live in the neighborhood I grew up in. When I was a kid all the kids in the neighborhood played out front. Cars did NOT go 35 mph down our dead end street. Its dangerous for kids to play out front. But the dogs and their owners are still the glue that makes for neighborliness. I know all of the local dog walkers and chat with them. It helps that many are the parents of kids I was friends with growing up. (Advantage of buying in the same hood I grew up in.)

[UCGal]

Two thoughts:

– 50 years ago (or more) houses had front porches and no AC – so people would hang on the porch and say high to their neighbors. Then the fenced backyard patio culture took over… People now congregate in the backyard and don’t interact with their neighbors.

– kids/dogs help form bridges to the neighbors. But we don’t let our kids run loose in the neighborhood or play in front yards or the street anymore… so it takes more effort, outside activities, or school interaction for the kids to meet/forge bonds… and drag their parents into interactions with their friend’s parents.

I live in the neighborhood I grew up in. When I was a kid all the kids in the neighborhood played out front. Cars did NOT go 35 mph down our dead end street. Its dangerous for kids to play out front. But the dogs and their owners are still the glue that makes for neighborliness. I know all of the local dog walkers and chat with them. It helps that many are the parents of kids I was friends with growing up. (Advantage of buying in the same hood I grew up in.)

[UCGal]

Two thoughts:

– 50 years ago (or more) houses had front porches and no AC – so people would hang on the porch and say high to their neighbors. Then the fenced backyard patio culture took over… People now congregate in the backyard and don’t interact with their neighbors.

– kids/dogs help form bridges to the neighbors. But we don’t let our kids run loose in the neighborhood or play in front yards or the street anymore… so it takes more effort, outside activities, or school interaction for the kids to meet/forge bonds… and drag their parents into interactions with their friend’s parents.

I live in the neighborhood I grew up in. When I was a kid all the kids in the neighborhood played out front. Cars did NOT go 35 mph down our dead end street. Its dangerous for kids to play out front. But the dogs and their owners are still the glue that makes for neighborliness. I know all of the local dog walkers and chat with them. It helps that many are the parents of kids I was friends with growing up. (Advantage of buying in the same hood I grew up in.)

[UCGal]

Two thoughts:

– 50 years ago (or more) houses had front porches and no AC – so people would hang on the porch and say high to their neighbors. Then the fenced backyard patio culture took over… People now congregate in the backyard and don’t interact with their neighbors.

– kids/dogs help form bridges to the neighbors. But we don’t let our kids run loose in the neighborhood or play in front yards or the street anymore… so it takes more effort, outside activities, or school interaction for the kids to meet/forge bonds… and drag their parents into interactions with their friend’s parents.

I live in the neighborhood I grew up in. When I was a kid all the kids in the neighborhood played out front. Cars did NOT go 35 mph down our dead end street. Its dangerous for kids to play out front. But the dogs and their owners are still the glue that makes for neighborliness. I know all of the local dog walkers and chat with them. It helps that many are the parents of kids I was friends with growing up. (Advantage of buying in the same hood I grew up in.)

[jpinpb]

UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so.

[jpinpb]

UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so.

[jpinpb]

UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so.

[jpinpb]

UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so.

[jpinpb]

UCGal – yes, being from the East Coast, true about the front porches.

I think part of the problem could be that California, in general, San Diego, is very transient. People move a lot. Back in the day, our parents/grandparents stayed put, had their job for 40 years, lived in the same house, etc. etc. It was easy to know everyone.

I’ve lived in San Diego since ’89. I’ve moved probably 11 times. The longest I stayed anywhere was when I had my place in Carmel Valley for 9 years. I had the intention of staying there and watching the newly planted dissiduous trees cover the road it lined.

Events and circumstances and life happening causes people to move more than they want. How can you get to know your neighbor when you keep moving? I reach out and am friendly and social. Imagine others. I’ve moved that many times, multiply that by others.

Now think of those that do stay put. A little difficult to reach out when you have a different neighbor every year or so.

[Happs]

Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type.

[Happs]

Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type.

[Happs]

Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type.

[Happs]

Good perspectives about gated communities and neighborliness. It’s my first time in a gated community and some of the behaviors seem odd to me, like people stopping at the mailbox and then driving to their house about 300ft away. Then their is the couple who drive their car at least once a day to their parent’s house about 6 houses down instead of walking and no they are not disabled. Picture a street of 2,000 sq ft tract homes and it would take you less than 5 minutes to walk 6 houses down. I’m not being a busybody but I can’t help but notice this since it all happen right in front of me as I look outside the window as I type.

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