email to an engry wife.

[Coronita]

I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

scaredy, flu is talking truth here. People change after a loved one dies. Sometimes, they go off the deep end. My younger brother (not in great health himself) and I are the sole survivors of a family of six, who all left this earth long before they should have. I have been to 21 family funerals since 1992 (aged 19-82 [median age of about 44].)

I can speak from personal as well as professional experience. This kind of stuff is not worth ending a marriage over . . . a road you don’t want to go down, if it can possibly be helped. Why not “bite the bullet” and make a decision on a home for your family? It’s not that hard to do :} You might be “over-thinking” here. I understand that you don’t want to overpay and truly, it’s not necessary.

My advice: let go of the need to “get in line” to bid on a “distressed” property and strike a deal with a very “motivated” owner. You have the skills and experience to do this, scaredy. The “distressed” properties you have been following of late are not all they’re cracked up to be. The owner-occupied ones (not in “distress”) are better maintained and the deals are easier to strike in this environment, IMO.

I hope to hear soon that you and your spouse have found a property that meets your requirements and that you and your family can “make memories in.” :=)

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

scaredy, flu is talking truth here. People change after a loved one dies. Sometimes, they go off the deep end. My younger brother (not in great health himself) and I are the sole survivors of a family of six, who all left this earth long before they should have. I have been to 21 family funerals since 1992 (aged 19-82 [median age of about 44].)

I can speak from personal as well as professional experience. This kind of stuff is not worth ending a marriage over . . . a road you don’t want to go down, if it can possibly be helped. Why not “bite the bullet” and make a decision on a home for your family? It’s not that hard to do :} You might be “over-thinking” here. I understand that you don’t want to overpay and truly, it’s not necessary.

My advice: let go of the need to “get in line” to bid on a “distressed” property and strike a deal with a very “motivated” owner. You have the skills and experience to do this, scaredy. The “distressed” properties you have been following of late are not all they’re cracked up to be. The owner-occupied ones (not in “distress”) are better maintained and the deals are easier to strike in this environment, IMO.

I hope to hear soon that you and your spouse have found a property that meets your requirements and that you and your family can “make memories in.” :=)

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

scaredy, flu is talking truth here. People change after a loved one dies. Sometimes, they go off the deep end. My younger brother (not in great health himself) and I are the sole survivors of a family of six, who all left this earth long before they should have. I have been to 21 family funerals since 1992 (aged 19-82 [median age of about 44].)

I can speak from personal as well as professional experience. This kind of stuff is not worth ending a marriage over . . . a road you don’t want to go down, if it can possibly be helped. Why not “bite the bullet” and make a decision on a home for your family? It’s not that hard to do :} You might be “over-thinking” here. I understand that you don’t want to overpay and truly, it’s not necessary.

My advice: let go of the need to “get in line” to bid on a “distressed” property and strike a deal with a very “motivated” owner. You have the skills and experience to do this, scaredy. The “distressed” properties you have been following of late are not all they’re cracked up to be. The owner-occupied ones (not in “distress”) are better maintained and the deals are easier to strike in this environment, IMO.

I hope to hear soon that you and your spouse have found a property that meets your requirements and that you and your family can “make memories in.” :=)

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

scaredy, flu is talking truth here. People change after a loved one dies. Sometimes, they go off the deep end. My younger brother (not in great health himself) and I are the sole survivors of a family of six, who all left this earth long before they should have. I have been to 21 family funerals since 1992 (aged 19-82 [median age of about 44].)

I can speak from personal as well as professional experience. This kind of stuff is not worth ending a marriage over . . . a road you don’t want to go down, if it can possibly be helped. Why not “bite the bullet” and make a decision on a home for your family? It’s not that hard to do :} You might be “over-thinking” here. I understand that you don’t want to overpay and truly, it’s not necessary.

My advice: let go of the need to “get in line” to bid on a “distressed” property and strike a deal with a very “motivated” owner. You have the skills and experience to do this, scaredy. The “distressed” properties you have been following of late are not all they’re cracked up to be. The owner-occupied ones (not in “distress”) are better maintained and the deals are easier to strike in this environment, IMO.

I hope to hear soon that you and your spouse have found a property that meets your requirements and that you and your family can “make memories in.” :=)

[bearishgurl]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

scaredy, flu is talking truth here. People change after a loved one dies. Sometimes, they go off the deep end. My younger brother (not in great health himself) and I are the sole survivors of a family of six, who all left this earth long before they should have. I have been to 21 family funerals since 1992 (aged 19-82 [median age of about 44].)

I can speak from personal as well as professional experience. This kind of stuff is not worth ending a marriage over . . . a road you don’t want to go down, if it can possibly be helped. Why not “bite the bullet” and make a decision on a home for your family? It’s not that hard to do :} You might be “over-thinking” here. I understand that you don’t want to overpay and truly, it’s not necessary.

My advice: let go of the need to “get in line” to bid on a “distressed” property and strike a deal with a very “motivated” owner. You have the skills and experience to do this, scaredy. The “distressed” properties you have been following of late are not all they’re cracked up to be. The owner-occupied ones (not in “distress”) are better maintained and the deals are easier to strike in this environment, IMO.

I hope to hear soon that you and your spouse have found a property that meets your requirements and that you and your family can “make memories in.” :=)

[eavesdropper]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Geez, that’s depressing. Like I wasn’t already all set to slit my wrists over Scaredy’s “going off the air” announcement….

[eavesdropper]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Geez, that’s depressing. Like I wasn’t already all set to slit my wrists over Scaredy’s “going off the air” announcement….

[eavesdropper]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Geez, that’s depressing. Like I wasn’t already all set to slit my wrists over Scaredy’s “going off the air” announcement….

[eavesdropper]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Geez, that’s depressing. Like I wasn’t already all set to slit my wrists over Scaredy’s “going off the air” announcement….

[eavesdropper]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Geez, that’s depressing. Like I wasn’t already all set to slit my wrists over Scaredy’s “going off the air” announcement….

[CA renter]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Excellent post, flu.

BTW, for those who are worried about such things:

“QTIP trust
A marital-deduction trust in which the surviving spouse receives income from the trust’s assets for life but the trust’s principal is left to someone else, usually children. A QTIP trust controls the eventual beneficiaries while at the same time taking advantage of the marital deduction and providing an income for the surviving spouse.”

http://financial-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/QTIP+trust

[CA renter]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Excellent post, flu.

BTW, for those who are worried about such things:

“QTIP trust
A marital-deduction trust in which the surviving spouse receives income from the trust’s assets for life but the trust’s principal is left to someone else, usually children. A QTIP trust controls the eventual beneficiaries while at the same time taking advantage of the marital deduction and providing an income for the surviving spouse.”

http://financial-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/QTIP+trust

[CA renter]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Excellent post, flu.

BTW, for those who are worried about such things:

“QTIP trust
A marital-deduction trust in which the surviving spouse receives income from the trust’s assets for life but the trust’s principal is left to someone else, usually children. A QTIP trust controls the eventual beneficiaries while at the same time taking advantage of the marital deduction and providing an income for the surviving spouse.”

http://financial-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/QTIP+trust

[CA renter]

[quote=flu]I’ll give you another true short story, about one of my friends.

Both of his parents were utterly complete misers. The saved every penny, penny pinched, to the point that they didn’t enjoy any of it. When asked, they use to say, they needed to save like misers, for the future…

Then his mom died…His father remarried someone half his age. Though she wasn’t necessarily a gold-digging spend-like-there’s-no-tomorrow, she obviously needed to be well kept. A year later, his dad died too. Guess were most of that hard earned/saved money went?

Morale of the story. If you pass away, chances are your spouse will remarry. Why should you make it easy for your spouse’s future significant other to enjoy what you should have enjoyed yourself?

Think about it.[/quote]

Excellent post, flu.

BTW, for those who are worried about such things:

“QTIP trust
A marital-deduction trust in which the surviving spouse receives income from the trust’s assets for life but the trust’s principal is left to someone else, usually children. A QTIP trust controls the eventual beneficiaries while at the same time taking advantage of the marital deduction and providing an income for the surviving spouse.”

http://financial-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/QTIP+trust

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