You don’t need to jump back into the ring…there is no ring. We should be able to discuss these issues without making personal attacks. It’s not a fight, but a desire to find out more about something we know relatively little about. Even the “experts” who study this are in the early stages of their research.
READ THE LINKS, even if you never want to discuss it here, just for self-education.
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As for divorcees…I think that a person who doesn’t want (any more) children should seriously consider divorced mates. If the divorcee’s kids are nearly grown, even better, as they both can indulge in DINK-style pursuits, and they would be less likely to have to deal much with former spouses; though men tend to do better with this than women.
Divorced people also tend to have far more realistic expectations of their mates, since the “fairy tale” nonsense should have worn off by then.
OTOH, if a man wants to have biological or adopted children of his own — and wouldn’t be satisfied with helping to raise step-children — and if he doesn’t have a previous marriage and/or children under his belt, I think it’s best if like marries like. No steps, no former spouses, no finances intertwined with other people, and every experience can be a new experience for both members of the couple, if that matters to them.
