You are having problems meeting women in San Diego?
It is so easy to meet women here. Scaredy has it right, you have to meet many to meet the one. Go on dates, it doesn’t have to be sexual, you can learn a lot about someone just from a few dates.
Join a kickball league, or get a dog and walk them at dog beaches/parks, start running. It always seems that women that run are more intelligent and head strong than other women I’ve met.
There are a million ways other than dating sites etc. to meet people, you just need to get out more