"What makes you guys automatically think his wife is a freeloader? NeetaT has not said whether his wife works or has assets of her own."
She is far from being a free-loader. She worked hard during the marriage. I just don't want a majority of the assets going to her and her new companion who she cares for more than me at this time.
Sorry to hear that. I think you're taking to first steps to deal with the situation. I'm no expert in this regards, but have you considered talking to a divorce lawyer first? Perhaps they could offer you more advice than anyone one of us.