To date successfully, you need to know what you want. You also need to know what what you want wants. And finally, you need to know the environment.
In other words, know the market and your target market.
If there are 9000 women that meet your basic critieria, you’ll find 54,000 men striving to hit it.
Many crudely so.
Go for an eye and mind opening experience. Create a profile with an attractive picture borrowed from the net for a week of your target market. Step back and try not to gasp at the Lycos wannabes, cheesy bar pick up lines and blatant egos that flood your mailbox.