The divorce industry has grown because divorce has become much more prevalent. The risks taken by both people are very great when they decide to get married and/or have children together. Once done, it is almost impossible to undo. “Moving on” is a naive cliche. Once you have children with somebody else, and especially if one parent has spent decades caring for them (for free, no less), then your lives will be inextricably intertwined until death. Divorce will not sever the ties, no matter how badly one desires it to do so.
“Divorce reform” is a gender-biased, agenda-driven movement to push almost all of the risks of marriage and divorce onto stay-at-home parents. NOBODY is better off after divorce since the pie is always being divided into smaller pieces for EVERYBODY, no matter what.
When discussing divorce reform, one has to take into consideration the different assets being brought into a marriage by both parties (it’s not just money and financial assets that are at stake when one decides to marry), as well as the long-term risks being borne by both parties. Men and women bring different things to a marriage, but the court system (and divorce reform proponents) likes to pretend that everything is equal between the sexes throughout the years. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The “divorce reform” movement exists largely because of second (and subsequent) wives and even girlfriends. This is a highly contentious issue being driven by people who are often responsible for causing those divorces in the first place.
FWIW, I could agree with certain aspects of divorce reform, but only if we could eliminate “no fault” divorce and determine financial awards (including alimony) based on findings of fault. I do not think that faithful, hard-working, devoted husband should have to pay alimony or lose child custody to women who were adulterous, etc., and vice versa.
