I would be buying in the Mt. Helix/Rancho San Diego/S.E El Cajon area.
How long would I be staying in the house? …great question. I have of child in 9th grade, one in 7th grade and one in 5th grade in local schools.
I would be staying long term.
You stated ” lots of info missing”. But honestly the true question is whether or not its best to pull out equity from my mothers Living Trust properties or simply sell them for profit and use these fund for the down payment.