[quote=temeculaguy]CArenter, your example just makes me feel better about how i do things, that your mother had a companion, but he had his own place and his own life, he didn’t have a role in yours. And in retrosepct, you and the Mr. turned out just fine, it is examples like yours that were the basis of my theory.
fredo, what if your pops wasn’t shacking up, what if he had a girlfriend but they lived apart, with the occasonal clandestine sleep over, would you object then? After all these years of living alone after all those years of living with a spouse, I have to admit I prefer the current version so much that I may be unfit to cohabitate, regardless of my kids age. What started as a selfless has become selfish, plus I haven’t missed a sporting event that I wanted to watch and haven’t watched a single reality t.v. show in years, it’s fantastic. Then what if, after college, one of the kids wants to move back for a bit, life is just so much simpler if you keep your own pad.
I have a soloution for the growing old part, I’ll just die young, if that fails, I have fantastic long term care insurance coverage, so I’m getting sponge baths from a pro, we will just have to work something out with the tipping. Plus those high end country club type places for oldsters, that is a good time to be single, that’s where I’ll be, 3 to 1 odds, viagra, good times. I’m a little concerned how lower back tattoos and implants will fare after 40 years once I am in my 80’s working the bingo circuit, but that’s the thing about life, embrace the little suprises.[/quote]
Thank you, TG. 🙂
Yes, you are definitely doing the right thing, IMHO. I’m guessing your kids would say the same?
We have actually had many long discussions about it — also with other “children of divorce” friends of ours, and I have absolutely no doubt that keeping things separate is the best thing you can do if you’re divorced with kids.
My mom’s companion really wanted to get married, but she refused saying, “where would I put him?” This in a 3/2 house. 😉 My MIL feels very much the same way about her companion of 20+ years. Great to go to dinner or vacation with, but neither one ever wanted another “roommate.” It’s kinda nice being able to control every aspect of your own house, no? 😉
