[quote=SK in CV]BG, I take you at your word that you’ve never placed any ads like this. Since I don’t live in San Diego anymore, but I do visit every month or so for both business and pleasure, I do have a question for you. Besides “casual sex”, what are the key words you look for when responding to these ads? :P[/quote]
SK, did you currently have an online ad posted for “casual sex” in SD? And did you need someone to proofread it or help you edit it to get “better results??”
Actually, I haven’t had an “online profile” up for “dating” since 2003. At that time, I was bombarded with messages from men who were actually looking for “casual sex,” but stated in their profiles they were looking for a “LTR” or even “marriage,” lol. I never even “officially” joined and took my profile down after about 2-1/2 weeks.
All I can tell you is the only thing truthful about these mens’ profiles was their professions. All the rest was BS. I think this is a problem here and maybe other CA coastal areas (possibly Silicon Valley) where workers work remotely and fly in for meetings, etc. Many established career people ARE NOT WILLING to relocate their families to coastal CA (or their families are NOT WILLING to come). They want their families to maintain their “cloistered lives” in the “better enclaves” of less-expensive housing markets and have in their SD employment contract an apt in SD and rental car included (or leave one of their own vehicles here). Some of these “sky warriors” fly coast-to-coast 7+ times per month EVERY month, usually on Sunday night and Thurs/Fri nights, plus possibly 1-2 int’l trips per month. Their companies pay their “per diem” and let them “work from home” the rest of the time because these people don’t ask for relo assistance for their families and they have a particular skillset that is not easy to find. Needless to say, it is difficult to keep your “schedule straight” if you are making dates with one woman in CA while forgetting you agreed with your spouse/kid on the east coast that you would do something with them at that same time, lol.
I thought I was a pretty good judge of character but these people are very, VERY good as “posers.” They have apts here and work out at gyms here and are well-spoken and well-traveled. They claim divorced or widowed and talk about “grown kids” and everything else in detail and it all seems “plausible.”
SD is nothing more than a “playground” to a lot of these people (as well as home to their employer), lol.
I have had no problems meeting people “the regular way” thru friends and stuff I’m involved in so won’t be trying online dating again. After that experience, I’ve insisted dating only “local” people who possibly have other relatives nearby I can meet ASAP. This policy has worked out well for me and I have everything I need and then some, thank you 🙂
