Going through a breakup with my fiance. It ended badly with me waiting for him at a train station, abandoned in the snow in a blizzard. We met on Twitter. He was my first follower. He lived in Scotland and grew up privileged. He had a really good job and got laid off. He couldn’t support the house he was living in and they finally foreclosed. And he wasn’t close with his family. So he put everything into a suitcase and ended up homeless. Then he started a website about homeless people, and discovered my blog.
We visited each other and made plans to get married. I scraped up enough money to visit him in Scotland — surprise him — over Christmas in 2009. I got a surprise of my own. There was a woman staying in his house. I was shocked. He said, “It’s not what it looks like, I’ll get rid of her, but meanwhile, you can’t stay here.” So I stayed in a little hotel in town, spent all my money, and after a couple of days, they both packed their bags and left. The only contact with him since then was a two-line email saying, basically, “I can’t explain.”
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She sounds like a reasonably intelligent girl with a somewhat codependent personality. She apparently lost most of her savings she needed for survival on the above “escapade.” Had she had a better support system (family/friends), she probably wouldn’t have gotten sucked into this mistake. Typical “internet” relationship where at least one party is trolling for online (1-900) sex/emotional affair but had no intention of ever meeting their “subject” and is otherwise not available. These are more common than not.
She’s young enough to recover from this. I wish her well.
