[quote=njtosd][quote=walterwhite]
Men intuitively figure I can have another batch later. [/quote]
If that is true then they also must “intuitively figure” that that next “batch” might be a little challenging. There is mounting evidence that older men are more likely to father children with problems – autism and schizophrenia are the most notable, but the list also includes dwarfism, Marfans, etc. See: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/28/health/28iht-snfert.4748536.html
So if we’re talking evolutionary biology here, instincts compelling men to have kids at a younger age would be selected for, rather than selected against. In other words, logically speaking, one would not expect a man to choose to have a child at a later date if there is an opportunity to have one earlier. Plus, competition being what it has been for the last million years, men are less likely to have the opportunity at a later date, Strom Thurmond notwithstanding. So, if you are suggesting a biological basis for what you’re saying, I don’t think it works.[/quote]
That was a very interesting article, njtosd. Based on my past experience, I wouldn’t have thought that, at all. About 8 yrs ago, I signed up for “online dating” with a major “personals” site. I never really “joined” and my profile was “active” for just over 2 weeks before I took it down. My basic parameters were for a 50-60 yo male, within about 10 miles from me (Chula Vista). I rec’d at least 15 hits, the majority “seemingly” attractive and well-spoken. Besides fielding and eliminating obviously “attached” men on the prowl, I corresponded back and forth with about 6 men, all aged 50-55. As I recall, ONE claimed to be divorced (1 grown child), ONE claimed to be widowed (no children) and FOUR claimed to be single, that is, claimed to have NEVER been married. None of these 4 had children (or so they said). ALL of these men stated in their profiles that they would consider (having) children. Whether that meant consider being a stepfather or wanted their own children was for me to find out.
Delving deeper, it turned out that ALL SIX, when push came to shove, wanted their OWN children ASAP! One actually stated to me he would much prefer an Asian woman (I’m not and neither was he – and not sure why he responded to my profile). I ended up asking them all why they are responding to women’s profiles in their own age groups when what they REALLY WANT is to now finally “settle down” and have their own families. As much as I would have liked to meet a couple of them, I had to direct them ALL to the 30-40 yo age group as they were wasting time corresponding with me.
This left me with the typical “baby-boomer set”: the “sorta married, sorta separated, their spouse/families lived outside of SD County (frauds), divorced but still living with ex, had longtime female `platonic (lol) roommates,’ and other assorted `posers'” whom I wanted nothing to do with. Hence, I took my profile down and called it a day, lol.
I still believe that in SD County, there are MANY over-50 men who only just recently “decided” they wanted to “start a family.” You have to ask yourself (and them) what they have been doing the last 30 yrs :={
