Marion, marble would definitely look nice. I’m thinking pink marble. Unfortunately, I’d have to weigh that in with possible risk of injury (6 inch heels can be dangerous to even the most coordinated of people). Maybe wood is safer since it has more give. Stainless steel for the pole, definitely.
If you are dancing in bare feet, I recommend foot thongs for the balls of your feet so you can spin without getting carpet burn. http://www.allaboutdance.com/s.nl/it.A/id.22883/.f?sc=2&category=69
TG, sorry, I’m happily married. But when we buy a house, we’ll be sure to throw some fabulous parties…