I’m not going to take a stand on the rent/buy issue, but I think Del Cerro is an excellent choice in terms of neighborhood. You could bike to Alvarado, if you wanted to, and your husband’s commute won’t be very hard either, even during the height of rush hours. You’re just a few exits from the 163 and the shopping/dining in Mission Valley is just minutes away. Most people on this board want to live in the North County coast area, and that’s fine, because there are a lot of employment centers nearby area. Just wanted to put in a good word for this area of Metro San Diego because it seems to be the ideal choice for your employment situations.
p.s. I am OLD! Used to make out with high school boyfriends at night in the hills of Del Cerro, when the roads were already built but construction was still underway and the views were fantastic.