I have two children – a biological child and an adopted child. I can say unequivocally that there is NO difference in my feelings for my children. To say that women have a special bond with children BECAUSE they gave birth is incredibly insulting to women who adopt children. The maternal feelings are identical.
I find many of your posts on this topic to be extremely judgemental. Anyone who has chosen a different life path than you is wrong, or at least less right than you are. As a working mother, I find flip remarks like “stay home to raise your own children” offensive. I do raise my own children. And I work. Despite what you say, the two things are NOT mutually exclusive. Perhaps for you they are, but do not assume that everyone is like you. I do not judge you for your choices. Do not judge me.[/quote]
Absolutely no offense meant to adoptive moms. There are multiple adoptions in my own family, and I have many friends who were adopted and others who are adoptive parents. Please understand that **women who adopt** are more likely to feel equally about their adoptive or biological children. That still doesn’t mean that all or most mothers feel the same way. If they did, there would not be a multi-billion dollar fertility industry, and women would not subject themselves to VERY expensive, intrusive and risky procedures just to have a biological baby.
Yes, most women do indeed feel differently about their own biological children BECAUSE they gave birth to those children. The birth mother of your adopted child will always have a special place in her heart and life specifically because she gave birth to that baby — even if she never saw the baby after it was born. I’ve known a few women who gave their babies up for adoption, and they say that not a single day goes by when they don’t think about those babies and how they are doing in life. That does not in any way take away from those who feel differently and who have big enough hearts to love biological and adopted children equally.
As to the “Mommy Wars,” I’ll just leave that to the parenting blogs. There are people with very strong feelings on both sides, and it’s a very subjective topic. IMHO, there is no right or wrong, just different opinions.
Please know that I am here to read about the opinions of others, and to share different opinions. We are learning from each other and hopefully, we can all expand our perspectives about various topics — including real estate. 😉 I am sorry if my posts offended you.
BTW, under no circumstances was I judging you or anybody else. You and I might have different opinions about certain things, but I never intend for people to take what I say personally. Likewise, when the marriage/American woman bashers state their case, I never take it personally. We just have different opinions. 😉
